Yes I would travel to meet someone. I like traveling and this would a good excuse to go. Not that I need an excuse but you know....... I have been talking with a couple of guys over seas and is thinking about getting my pass port together and go. Even if the connection did not work the trip sure would.
I've already traveled large distances to be with women I've met on the Internet (not on CS though).
I traveled up to 600 miles to meet with a woman. I stayed with her for a month though. I would never travel that far just for a one-night-stand. In fact, I actually did this with four women over the past 6 or 8 years.
In every case we ended up being great friends, but unfortunately I didn't fall 'in-love' with any of them. That's not to say that I didn't love them. I did love them as best friends. I sincerely cared for each and every one of them and I WISH I could have fallen in love with any one of them. Unfortunately you can't logically decide to fall in love with someone.
Enjoying staying with them for a few months and having great times together is NOT the same as making a lifetime commitment to spend the rest of my life with them. I would have to be 'in-love' to do that.
I've been in-love in the past. Unfortunately never with a woman who was simultaneously in love with me. So I know what it feels like to be in love. There's no way that I'm going to make a monogamous lifetime commitment to someone I don't feel that way about. It wouldn’t be fair to me or to her. And then what would I feel like if I really did fall in love with someone else after that?
No thank you. If I hook up permanently with a woman it's going to be because we are mutually in love. Anything short of that would be a completely disaster for both of us!
Now, I did offer to extend our relationship as 'just friends' without a lifetime commitment. But that can't possibly work in reality. Especially in a long-distance situation. Who's going to relocate without a commitment for someone who isn't romantically head-over-heels 'in-love' with them?
Unfortunately I'm financially and emotionally zapped now. Too many let-downs. Would I travel to be 'in-love'? YES! But how can you know until you've already made the trip?
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