Being Honest (163)
Lolette: Track16 ,, That would be the ideal,, heaven on earth, but that's impossible, liars, honest, kind, cruel, beautiful, ugly, they are all part of the ensemble, we couldn't appreciate honesty if there are no liars,, how could we?
there should be an existing point of comparison to differentiate things and qualities, up to us to choose our inclination, and that's where intelligence and wisdom comes in,, and that settles a lot of things.
I respect your point anyway.
there should be an existing point of comparison to differentiate things and qualities, up to us to choose our inclination, and that's where intelligence and wisdom comes in,, and that settles a lot of things.
I respect your point anyway.
This is a really good post Lolette
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Halv0: I understand your perception and your feelings at this moment in your life.
Having been through so much myself (domestic violence as a little kid - being beat up by my mum to the point of almost unconsiously and being throw through a wall, having a severely drunk dad most of my life, living in poverty, having lived and escaped from a cult of control, having a sociopathic first wife, etc)
I can understand your feelings about humanity.
The truth is, that there are those well worth getting to know, and hanging out with. There are those who do actually help to heal brokenness (from personal experience).
I would say "some humans are evil" in that they have calloused their hearts through self-centredness and a warped, cold soul.
But some are also good, kind, caring, trustworthy, compassionate. They can be found. My experience was that I had to look in places that were outside my comfort zones to find them.
To change from my disdain, to forgive those that hurt me, damaged me, was not a smooth process. But it was a process that I am grateful for undertaking.
It took times of raving, and ranting at the world, it took times of sadness and sorrow, it took times of irrationality, it took times of love coming to me when I was unloveable as a result of my past that tried to reduce me to an animal, to break my soul.
But these things happened and my life is so much more richer because of them. I can relate to so many different people in the world, so much so that I married a Chinese woman, who is perfect for me.
I found that there are true friends who (even though they are flawed individuals, as I am) do not take advantage of me, and do not expect from me, and do not harm me.
I found that love really does exist, and that I was graced with receiving it, without merit.
I hope that one day, you can also experience these riches. They will 'blow you away'.....
Having been through so much myself (domestic violence as a little kid - being beat up by my mum to the point of almost unconsiously and being throw through a wall, having a severely drunk dad most of my life, living in poverty, having lived and escaped from a cult of control, having a sociopathic first wife, etc)
I can understand your feelings about humanity.
The truth is, that there are those well worth getting to know, and hanging out with. There are those who do actually help to heal brokenness (from personal experience).
I would say "some humans are evil" in that they have calloused their hearts through self-centredness and a warped, cold soul.
But some are also good, kind, caring, trustworthy, compassionate. They can be found. My experience was that I had to look in places that were outside my comfort zones to find them.
To change from my disdain, to forgive those that hurt me, damaged me, was not a smooth process. But it was a process that I am grateful for undertaking.
It took times of raving, and ranting at the world, it took times of sadness and sorrow, it took times of irrationality, it took times of love coming to me when I was unloveable as a result of my past that tried to reduce me to an animal, to break my soul.
But these things happened and my life is so much more richer because of them. I can relate to so many different people in the world, so much so that I married a Chinese woman, who is perfect for me.
I found that there are true friends who (even though they are flawed individuals, as I am) do not take advantage of me, and do not expect from me, and do not harm me.
I found that love really does exist, and that I was graced with receiving it, without merit.
I hope that one day, you can also experience these riches. They will 'blow you away'.....
I am certainly sorry for all u been through... And I do believe that u r a nice person, so by all means, I wouldn't be honest in a rude way towards u... (I've seen u in threads, and u r a gentlemen that it's worth talking to) some other folks... well, I deal with the in a harsher way I guess?? But I do appreciate u sharing ur feelings here
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The post I quoted seemed to display some confusion towards the meanings of compassion and empathy.
I mean, I was just wondering how u told Le_Monsieur that maybe it is the other way around... he said compassion is overrated, and I know that compassionate and uncompassionate people are everywhere... but there are some places where people lean to one side more than the other... I'd say, it depends where u r, values, and culture... Asian people love to share their food, and get food from others... We Puerto Ricans aren't as sharing, I don't think Americans are too fond of sharing either... But I'd say it's a good observation what u said, but we could still figure out the environment that we leave in... once we do that, we survive in it