Part 2 NO GAME PLAYERS.....like we really mean it...... ( Archived) (13)

Based on our own individual merits, the games we play when we’re dating can seem about as silly as Underwater Ceramics . But they’re important nonetheless. As proof of just how important, consider how many times you’ve listened to a loving, long-term couple fondly recall the games they played during their courtship. The hoops they forced each other to jump through, the mistakes they made, the care with which they weighed and assessed each romantic gesture.


The ability to successfully “play the game“…to call just enough to show/display interest, not desperation; to hold strong emotions in check until both partners are ready to acknowledge them. To read someone’s body language and accurately figure out their feelings, needs and desires…this demonstrates the kind of emotional skills and dexterity that romantic relationships need to thrive. And not just at the outset, but over the long haul.

When someone successfully “plays games” at the beginning of a relationship, observing peculiar social customs and demonstrating due consideration for all the niceties and doing it effortlessly and imperceptibly, he has demonstrated the skills he needs to successfully maintain a long-term relationship. What do we ask of our mates? We want them to read our moods… anticipate our needs, be there for us without crowding us and somehow know when to sublimate their desires and when to make demands.

“Playing games” shows that you can read another person. But just as importantly, playing games convinces that other person that you are considerate enough to make the effort to read them in the first place. This is a trait that we all want in our mates. We want to feel important, and we want to be taken care of.

And successful game-playing early on proves that you regard the other person as desirable enough to want to win the game.
They are, after all, the prize.

OK I'm done sharing, sad thing is so many will miss the entire concept and deny that they wish to be seen and desired much like a prize.

heres a part 2 to the original

The entire animal kingdom, including Man....plays the courtship "game", in animals we call it a "courtship ritual", whether it's ruffling of feathers, fighting, whatever....it's part of the "game" to "win" the desired mate....the one that doesn't play the game well....ends up not getting a mate....it's not been "reduced" to that level...it is what it is.....call it a game....call it a "courtship ritual"......call it "romance"......It's all Machiavellian........

yeah arose by any other name would still have those damn thorns on the stems....

so true i think thats the best way to hold a long term relationship

YOU ARE SO RIGHT ..... THAT COOL

sorry babe i dont play games.. i start off as me with all my loves and moods..life is tooo short not to be true to self...if someone doesnt like me ohh well..but why waste time trying to be something others want.the true you will appear and you will wonder why you are not liked..rather stay single than experience untrue love

I don't have time, or energy for games anymore... Life is full of reality, and it's own dramas...

Either be up front, or not...

Peacocks may strut, yet I will pluck the tails and use them in a vase...lol

Wanna play? Fine... but, get the reality first...

mt thoughts, anyway.

I hear ya...I'm too old for games...be upfront and be you or dont waste my time...Plain and simple!!!!!!!!!!