I'm a Gemini.....and believe me when I say from my vast experience with men (LOL) that listening to one's heart is the absolute WORST thing a woman can do at ANY age.
Young women need decent fathers for the children the couple may have, older women need to use their head and guard their income so they can take care of themselves in their golden years and ALL women need a man they can depend on thru thick and thin.
Love is fine but should be an addition to common sense!!
Never heard of it but after reading the explanation it seems pathological to me.
It's normal for little kids to invent imaginary playmates.....but adults????
There are plenty of places we can go alone and have fun and lots of interesting and important stuff to do alone in the real world. ......or with friends.
When I was married we moved 13 times in 19 years and it had nothing to do with job relocation. We had 3 kids ....2 of whom had to keep changing schools constantly.
After we split I moved once and have been here 22 years. My youngest never had to change schools at all.
How do we form any values if we don't make "value judgments"??
I live by certain values because I have made personal judgments regarding right from wrong.....i e what I will or won't do and will or won't tolerate in others.
That's probably because a lot of them are working at jobs they don't like but don't dare quit because they have to support themselves....and sometimes support families too.
I am retired and loving it.....no bosses but myself.
I made sure that my son realized early on (he was 6 when his father and I split) that he LIVED at my house and VISITED at his father's house. It is very important to make that distinction because that way he will grow up internalizing the difference .
I found that my son never tried to get away with things at home that he did when visiting his father because guests are ALWAYs treated differently no matter who they are or where they go.
She's copping out so she doesn't have to change her bad habits.
Some people of course ARE really fatalists. My mother always said"When my time comes I'll go" or "when God wants me he will call me". Dad used to tell her that she didn't need to help him along. LOL.
I too am an agnostic .....and fatalism and "God's call" both seem silly to me. That would mean that I could jump in front of a speeding car and if it "wasn't my time" I'd survive unscathed. Ridiculous!!!!
If a man I'm with is getting unwanted attention from another woman it is HIS place to tell her to bug off. If the attention is wanted then it's time for him to go with her and stay there.LOL.
Everyone has always told me that I'm the least jealous person they've ever met. That's because I don't EVER want to be with a man who doesn't want me as much as I want him. That does a terrible thing to a woman....I've seen so much of it in my lifetime. So I vowed early on thatI would never allow it to happen to me.
I always give a relationship my best .....and if that's not enough then I will gladly move on.
I gave up drinking coffee at the age of 19......l-o-n-g ago.
I substituted tea instead even at breakfast and soon was looking forward to "my morning tea" the way I had with my coffee......just plain tea with nothing else in it so I can taste the "tea" taste.
I remember only vaguely what coffee tastes and smells like.....always enjoyed the smell. I am also not caffeine -sensitive so there was no let down as the ads call it.
I know what you mean about not wanting to go thru it again. I was constantly hungry for a year and constantly tired for almost that long.
People used to tell me that I had to substitute snacks or soft drinks for the cigarettes but the hunger was the kind that food couldn't fill so I never bothered.
I stopped smoking in 1999 and had several packs in the house at the time. Over time I completely forgot about them until a friend asked if I had any "leftovers". I can't imagine quitting without having them around. How would I know my willpower was in working order unless I had some to "tempt" me??
Seriously, when I make up my mind on something important like that I never go back. My (now ex) boyfriend did everything he could to make me go back to smoking so as not to inconvenience him. I laughed in his face and dumped him.
BTW, I was a two pack a day smoker of full flavored unfiltered Pall Mall Kings from age 17......they didn't have many choices in those days.
And no it can't be "made better" because it can't be erased.
My last boyfriend told me once that he would never cheat on me because forgiveness was not part of my reality. He sure got that right....and no he never did.........even though he had cheated in every other one of his relationships. They forgave.....I don't.
I meet guys from the Personal sites on a regular basis. I don't consider it a big deal and neither do they. I never allow a stranger to visit my home no matter how "close" he may feel. I arrange a broad daylight meeting in a coffee shop or diner convenient to my home. I never meet guys who haven't sent photos either so I have no problem with recognition.
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RE: What is reality ??
You'll change your mind about that quickly when you put your hand on a hot stove!! LOL......and that's just one example of "outer reality" as seen, heard, felt thru our 5 senses.