Do You Think You Could Spot A Diamond In The Rough? (71)
IlluminateKathleen, Georgia USA21 Threads 1,878 PostsYes but without being rough first, the diamond wouldn't even exist.
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It is called refinement
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Maybe I shouldn't even reply to this thread but I am a fool so I will. I dont think i could pick out a diamond in a rough...I barely can pick my clothes to wear for the day...However, a diamond is a beautiful object. People arent objects they are human. People should always be accept as people. We should like or dislike them for what they and what they arent. I dont think it is up to us to change them into a diamond. Should accept them for who they are not what we can make them as. We are immperfect and that what make us special. Because in the end we are ugly duckling that become a graceful swan when the time come.
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Sometimes people don't realize their beauty until someone points it out to them.
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I think in order to refine their has to be a qulaity there in the first place.
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Never go into a relationship expecting to change someone. You're setting yourself up for failure. You have to accept the person for who they are, not who you think they could be.
I tried the 'diamond in the rough' and it turned out she liked being the way she was... I spent 10 months in an abusive relationship trying to show her the inner light. Even after getting her on Lexipro, the 'diamond' never sparkled; it only cut my heart to shreds.
Make your decision on whether or not you can be with them based on who they are now. Not on the potential you see inside. They may just prefer being rough and you will only hurt yourself.
I tried the 'diamond in the rough' and it turned out she liked being the way she was... I spent 10 months in an abusive relationship trying to show her the inner light. Even after getting her on Lexipro, the 'diamond' never sparkled; it only cut my heart to shreds.
Make your decision on whether or not you can be with them based on who they are now. Not on the potential you see inside. They may just prefer being rough and you will only hurt yourself.
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Good Point!.. you cannot force anyone to change.
The first step IS accepting them for who they are. True love has the ability to transform. By merely accepting a person for who they are you show them they are worthy of being loved and that can have a profound effect.
You were relying on a pill to change her.You have to realize some of those medications don't help, they can actually make a person worse off with the side effects. Sounds like you really never took the time to truly understand her or her needs.
The first step IS accepting them for who they are. True love has the ability to transform. By merely accepting a person for who they are you show them they are worthy of being loved and that can have a profound effect.
You were relying on a pill to change her.You have to realize some of those medications don't help, they can actually make a person worse off with the side effects. Sounds like you really never took the time to truly understand her or her needs.
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I believe I can.
I would pass on it also. Not because I lack the time or ability to polish it. I have found the polished gems of the world are for the world to admire.... I seek a diamond in the rough because it is naturally beatuiful and appealing as first found to my eye and radiates warmth when I hold it....I understand that change is inevideable but to take a naturl beauty and conform it to have appeal to all is foolish........................just an opinion
I would pass on it also. Not because I lack the time or ability to polish it. I have found the polished gems of the world are for the world to admire.... I seek a diamond in the rough because it is naturally beatuiful and appealing as first found to my eye and radiates warmth when I hold it....I understand that change is inevideable but to take a naturl beauty and conform it to have appeal to all is foolish........................just an opinion
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Love is what transforms and it happens all on it's own!
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"I treat you like my mother treats me; and I don't like it but I don't know how to stop."
She had border line personality disorder. The pill only made the arguments more rational. I read books on the disorder and books on anger management in an attempt to help her. Trying to fix someone who doesn't want to be fixed doesn't work. She preferred to stay mired in the anger and hatred that she grew up in. I finally accepted who she was and what she wanted to be. My vision of what was inside her and the potential was not what she wanted to become.
In the end, I left. It was the only thing that I could do.
*Never go into a relationship expecting someone to change.*
She had border line personality disorder. The pill only made the arguments more rational. I read books on the disorder and books on anger management in an attempt to help her. Trying to fix someone who doesn't want to be fixed doesn't work. She preferred to stay mired in the anger and hatred that she grew up in. I finally accepted who she was and what she wanted to be. My vision of what was inside her and the potential was not what she wanted to become.
In the end, I left. It was the only thing that I could do.
*Never go into a relationship expecting someone to change.*
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That is right..you tryed to "fix" her..wrong way to go. You were trying to make her into something "YOU" wanted. It sounds as if you were concentrating on her flaws.
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But isn't that what you are talking about? Polishing up the rough parts?
I learned the hard way. Love them as they are, accept them as they are at this moment, and never expect the 'rough' parts to become polished.
Don't love them for their potential because that's conditional love. You need to love unconditionally. If you can't accept them for what they are AT THIS MOMENT (and live with that for the rest of your life), then pass on them.
I learned the hard way. Love them as they are, accept them as they are at this moment, and never expect the 'rough' parts to become polished.
Don't love them for their potential because that's conditional love. You need to love unconditionally. If you can't accept them for what they are AT THIS MOMENT (and live with that for the rest of your life), then pass on them.
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"Make your decision on whether or not you can be with them based on who they are now."
Their beauty and potential are already there. If you saw potential, you saw the beauty but it sounds like you were expecting to harvest perfection from a gem that had too many flaws.
If perfection was what you are seeking you have to be more careful how you pick. Maybe you just need to get an already refined woman?
It takes a skilled person to take on the task.
Their beauty and potential are already there. If you saw potential, you saw the beauty but it sounds like you were expecting to harvest perfection from a gem that had too many flaws.
If perfection was what you are seeking you have to be more careful how you pick. Maybe you just need to get an already refined woman?
It takes a skilled person to take on the task.
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yes lion-ness....your a gem......chance
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LOL..thank you Sharon. You are definately one from what I can see.
Believe me..I have some refining to do..lol
Believe me..I have some refining to do..lol
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You wanted to make her what "YOU" want. She can only be who "SHE" is. You have to keep seeing the "beauty" and eventually it will come out.
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I like your post 
I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder of what you think beauty is.
I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder of what you think beauty is.
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I personally believe everyone is "a diamond in the rough". I believe when the right two stones make a connection, that is when the two diamonds will shine together brilliantly!
I believe I have found my perfect stone, and once we get together, we will light up the sky with our Brilliant Luster!
I believe I have found my perfect stone, and once we get together, we will light up the sky with our Brilliant Luster!
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There are just some more polished than others
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I did spot a diamond in the rough, butterfingers dropped it unintentionally - such is life. Grasping something too tight.. will cause it to slip through your fingers as if it were a handful of sand. Often times.. there is no recovering what you've lost, no matter how hard you try. I'm not going to venture off into deep thoughts now, just wanted to share that. Back to the grind!
Rich
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