arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way. (21)

Jan 2, 2007 6:28 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
Dmg78
Dmg78Dmg78NewcastleGateshead, England UK2 Threads 19 Posts
This is one these christmas stories that boggle the mind.
My ex has been bothering me to see her when i was home. After six months of consistant texting i saw her and she treated me to a night out.
It started out pleasent enough. I was crushed at how beautiful she still was, and since it had been over a year since i left her, i thought i could handle it.
Then she spoke about her love life from when i left her, including an ECE. Enormous Cockreal encounter.
He was so big that it was too painful and she could not go through with it. Then to a packed pub she shouted that he was bigger than me.
Now i don't know if im small and he's actually normal.
And i don't belive for one minute that she didn't go all the way. and i feel so small and pathetic that i can't function and i can't date. Cause i just don't know anymore.
I was her first, and even though ive had girlfriends who ve been with other men before me, it never bothered me before, now i feel physically sick. The chest feels empty, i think im actually heartbroken.
She not seeing him now, but shes now chasing a fat slob, who brushed her off a few times.
I never realised my depth of feeling for her, and even if i wanted her back, i can't now. Its almost as if her ECE has tarnished her.
Shes haunting me, i can't get her out of my head.
When I left her, i didn't look back.
Now the image of her and this guy is stuck in my head and im angry, sad feeling inadequate and generally thinking of phoneing the samritans.
Day to day has actually become meaningless, just because i thought i could handle one night with the x.
I beat myself up and say it doesn't matter and try and continue but, this just won't go away.
I never thought that this was a part of me.
Jan 2, 2007 6:42 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
lighter_times
lighter_timeslighter_timesRichmond, Greater London, England UK19 Threads 416 Posts
Don't beat yourself up! By my reckoning, without casting any judgements, maybe the intention was to hurt and screw your head up totally, who's to say. But holding onto the images inside your own mind really isn't doing you any favours. Why do you feel inadequate? Were you there when she was having this other relationship and saw what they were doing and how 'well-hung' he was so to speak? All you have are the mental images that were planted there, love, and out of respect for your feelings I personally feel such details as have been relayed to yourself, should never have been shared with you.
Jan 2, 2007 6:57 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
Dmg78
Dmg78Dmg78NewcastleGateshead, England UK2 Threads 19 Posts
the annoying thing was, she was so nice about it and told me i was a better lover, but then shes only had 2. I would have been alright if nothing had been said
Jan 2, 2007 7:03 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
bulldog66
bulldog66bulldog66doncaster, UK35 Threads 3,680 Posts
ya luky it was only a verbal attack i know girls whod use a cooks cleever lolrolling on the floor laughing
Jan 2, 2007 7:11 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
Dmg78
Dmg78Dmg78NewcastleGateshead, England UK2 Threads 19 Posts
Thanks, ure right about all these things, and i know what i should do, its just not happening. time will tell. I don;t know if a new realationship would cure this or make it worse.
I did commit the worst break up sin mind you.
We were going to move down to newcastle together, from scotland. She changed her mind and i went alone. I was going to propose that day and stay, but i ended up breaking up via text. She does know that though.
Her father hated me and thretened to break my neck if i ever proposed and i could not bear the though of her losing her family

Somebody had to be the bad guy and i figured it should be me.
Maybe i deserve it.
Jan 2, 2007 7:36 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
lighter_times
lighter_timeslighter_timesRichmond, Greater London, England UK19 Threads 416 Posts
I am so proud of her to be honest. See you have to move on and just let it go - if it's still bothering you then write it down, tear it up, set light to it and then throw the ashes outside - it's supposed to help.
Jan 2, 2007 8:00 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
Dmg78
Dmg78Dmg78NewcastleGateshead, England UK2 Threads 19 Posts
oh drat ive sett the house on fire. Just kidding.
Jan 2, 2007 8:02 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
xxLilyxx
xxLilyxxxxLilyxxHampshire, England UK36 Threads 3,678 Posts
Charming.
As lighter times said, certainly not something that should have spoke about, uncalled for.

I hope you can move on from this soon comfort

x
Jan 2, 2007 8:05 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
Dmg78
Dmg78Dmg78NewcastleGateshead, England UK2 Threads 19 Posts
thanks im hearing it more and more. actually shes texing now. im ignoring it.
Jan 2, 2007 8:07 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
lighter_times
lighter_timeslighter_timesRichmond, Greater London, England UK19 Threads 416 Posts
Are the fireman there yet in their uniforms?? If so, I'll be over in about 10 minutes - keep them there for me!!! I do like a man in a uniform!!!
Jan 2, 2007 8:12 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
lighter_times
lighter_timeslighter_timesRichmond, Greater London, England UK19 Threads 416 Posts
Personally I would even change my number or buy myself another sim card for everyday use, she'll soon get bored when she knows she can't screw your head up anymore. Come on mate, you really don't need this you've got your whole life ahead of you - now enjoy it!applause banana cheering
Jan 2, 2007 8:17 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
Dmg78
Dmg78Dmg78NewcastleGateshead, England UK2 Threads 19 Posts
ah well, that the thing. the whole 30 in two years time is bugging the hell out of me. shes 23, im 28.
Im university educated and work in a bingo hall.
She having a wonderful life with ECE's and i don't get a day off becausing im training to be an actor and working every spare hour for no guaranteed employment.
Sigh.
U ever feel like u bought some magic beans?
mInd u if i had a big stalk. Lol
Jan 2, 2007 8:27 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
lighter_times
lighter_timeslighter_timesRichmond, Greater London, England UK19 Threads 416 Posts
Hey, what you stressing about - some beans take a little while to grow into beanstalks and then you'll find your fortune - I write and haven't earnt much at all yet, got a couple of nice trophy things and a small cheque every quarter that'll buy me a paper once a week but I'm following my heart and what I want to do at the moment. Same for you. So what if you're working in a bingo hall at the moment a lot of actors wait tables, life has it's own path and if you're destined to do that it will happen no matter what age you are. I didn't start writing till I was 39 - and my Nan's 86 and she's learning how to use the computer!! Age has nothing to do with it!!!
Jan 2, 2007 8:33 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
Dmg78
Dmg78Dmg78NewcastleGateshead, England UK2 Threads 19 Posts
Ah, the inspired bunch. I've really missed that.
I think seeing her just brought a lot of insecurities back and one i never worried about.
I write too, but I only ever get offered the self publishing route. Still s few of my plays have been put on and my short stories are well received if not published.
Dam this multi-talentedness
Jan 3, 2007 3:46 AM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
lighter_times
lighter_timeslighter_timesRichmond, Greater London, England UK19 Threads 416 Posts
I really wouldn't worry everyone has some insecurities and if we allow them to govern our lives where would we be? Life-coaching is an excellent way to get past them so I'm told, as I've blown some really good chances of progressing with my writing last year because of my stupid insecurities - I was invited to America to read some of my work at this big writers convention, offered a free place at a special writers retreat (including all my travel etc) as well as had a couple of invitations to read a couple of my poems on some radio station in the States. I didn't want to travel alone but I was only offered expenses etc for myself - too insecure in myself to do that at the time - so I had to decline the offers - I could kick myself now!!!!

When you're rich and famous I can say I knew him when he worked at the bingo hall!!! Have you tried lulu.com for self-publishing?? It's great and no set up fee - it really looks nice when you send out a manuscript as it already looks like a book. Without postage it only cost a few quid per book and you can do all the marketing yourself. Getting published is a real pain in the bum, although I've got a couple of published books by a publisher in the states, most here won't deal with you unless you have an agent and getting an agent is near impossible, they only take on 1 book in a good few thousand each year. I've got four manuscripts I just haven't done anything with yet because I didn't want to waste the money on postage before xmas and get the standard, "thank you but at present we are inundated with manuscripts so have returned your manuscript unread!" Tell you what, I'll write it, you star in it and we'll get the rest of the cast from our friends on here - it'll be a No 1 at the box office - anyone got a video camera????
Jan 3, 2007 1:53 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
PILIPALA
PILIPALAPILIPALACardiff, South Glamorgan, Wales UK200 Threads 4,804 Posts
if you ask me it was a blatent attack to make you feel bad. women know that it is the best way to wind a man up.And you may think she said it nicely but that smile was because she knows thats how to get to you. Just move on its prob not true anyway.
Jan 3, 2007 5:33 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
Dmg78
Dmg78Dmg78NewcastleGateshead, England UK2 Threads 19 Posts
thanks for that. i'll check out the website. and im avaliable for all acting work at the standard rate. we can it "threads for the memory"

Ive only got short stories at the minute. they all started off as novels and then i ended up re editing them into shorts.

ive heard its better to get published in the states and imported over here. Brian Lumley did that i think?
Jan 3, 2007 5:34 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
Dmg78
Dmg78Dmg78NewcastleGateshead, England UK2 Threads 19 Posts
well she paid for the privilage.
Jan 3, 2007 5:45 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
lighter_times
lighter_timeslighter_timesRichmond, Greater London, England UK19 Threads 416 Posts
Compile all your short stories into one book. Be very careful with the states, though - I've learnt from experience. I signed a 7-year contract, such a stupid thing to do now I look back on it as a large publisher here after waiting over a year suddenly expressed their interest and it was too late. I know roughly how many copies friends and family have yet on my royalty statement it stated quite a number less to say the least. Also the law is different and often because we are in this country most of the marketing is left to the Author. Obviously there are good companies but most of them appear to be subsideries of companies based in this country. It's one of those things - we learn by our mistakes.
Jan 3, 2007 9:29 PM CST arrrgh the ex is crazy. shes being nice and honest and attacking my manhood in a verbal way.
migene
migenemigenelimbo, Greater Manchester, England UK11 Threads 1,690 Posts
i can see ya now,chasing the lollipop man tongue
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