Are some men really afraid of rejection? (39)
kandiekane50ashland, USA48 Threads 195 PostsJust a question and would love to hear your thoughts and I guess it does apply to women too. And what part of rejection do they fear the most?
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I would think for most it is the shot to the self-esteem and the ego.
Not that I aproach a lot of women now, but I remember being like a deer in headlights at the thought after a couple relationships I had ended because the other half had an affair. After the ego takes a bruising like that, you become very protective of what is left. Once you already feel unworthy of another, you tend to avoid anything that would do anything to confirm that thought.
Not that I aproach a lot of women now, but I remember being like a deer in headlights at the thought after a couple relationships I had ended because the other half had an affair. After the ego takes a bruising like that, you become very protective of what is left. Once you already feel unworthy of another, you tend to avoid anything that would do anything to confirm that thought.
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Yes, rejection can be hard to deal with at times.
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So when do you know it's time to let go of that fear and move on? Aren't you cheating yourself?
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I wouldn't say it's a matter of when to let go of the fear, it's more a matter of being able to get over the fear. For me it never really left, it was more that others expressed enough positive things about me to have my ego feel I was worthy of having a relationship.
It helps to socialize with people of the opposite gender but in a non-dating environment. I found that being around married women ws good as they will compliment you and tell you you should be with someone but since there is no chance of a relationship with them it is very non-threatening.
It helps to socialize with people of the opposite gender but in a non-dating environment. I found that being around married women ws good as they will compliment you and tell you you should be with someone but since there is no chance of a relationship with them it is very non-threatening.
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The time to let go of the fear would be when acceptance prevails. When someone you seek accepts you for who you are instead of who they want you to be. Sometimes aloofness can be better for you esteem that rejection.
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thevisionary....I would definetly have to agree with you.
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A friend came to me the other day and said,"There's this guy I like, I wonder if I should ask him out?"
The only question she needed to ask herself was "How gutted (disappointed) would I be if they said no?"
If the answer is "I couldn't really care" Then chances are they are not that important to you.
However if you feel like you would just die if they said no then you should ask them, you obviously care very much.
If your not prepared to accept rejection to the same value of feeling you have for them, I guess you'll never ask.
The only question she needed to ask herself was "How gutted (disappointed) would I be if they said no?"
If the answer is "I couldn't really care" Then chances are they are not that important to you.
However if you feel like you would just die if they said no then you should ask them, you obviously care very much.
If your not prepared to accept rejection to the same value of feeling you have for them, I guess you'll never ask.
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I'll be the first to admit that I am afraid of rejection but at the same time I do not want to miss out on the chance of love and sharing my life with someone.
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KandieKane, find some subtle way to test the waters before you take the plunge. Even I, as afraid of rejection as I am, would ask the question if I felt that strong about someone.
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Awesome input, guys. :)
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Rejection is one of my fears but I do overcome it sometimes.
Just not very often.
I often kick myself for not saying something to someone and taking that chance.
Just not very often.
I often kick myself for not saying something to someone and taking that chance.
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I use to fear rejection unto I found that rejection is sometimes necessary. To be rejected by others is everybody's right but to reject one's self is real rejection that can be changed. I don't have to reject myself today. I can accept who I am.
Roy
Roy
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I never thought of it that way.
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ahhh cute
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that would be fun.
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