I'm not in any position to take care of a foster child. I can barely care for myself. I don't think it would be fair for me to unload my own emotional problems on someone that would probably have so much more than I do.
And the attachment factor~~ I'd get too attached.
If I were in a better position, though, perhaps I would.
My mom is 65, a cancer savior and a foster parent.
She use to take teenagers in and I would worry about her all the time but she would say if I could handle you I can handle them but since the cancer she has focused on the little guys. Which she says are far more work but it is what she lives for.
She lives in Ca and they help her a lot with the care for the kids so as long as she is happy that is all that counts.
She is a saint that mom of mine……Bless her heart I am going to call her right now
YES! Actually I have been thinking of this quite often. I have a lots of extra room (3 bedrooms) and a good job, and lots of love to give. It is just me and my daughter living alone and I have been thinking what a great idea it would be to foster some children. The thing that holds me back from making it happen........ I don't know that I could bring a child into my home, feed them, clothe them, love them, then have to give them up. I logically know this is the ideal situation, have them able to return to parents who have made changes in their lives or whatever, but if they were in a bad enough situation to be taken from parents, I would have a terribly hard time returning them to that.
I work from home so this would be an ideal situation for foster children. If I could just get myself over the block of thinking what happens when they have to leave.
My best friend is now adopting a newborn baby that was born drug-addicted. It has passed through the first court and interstate adoption has been granted. A few more steps and we will have this new baby in our lives :)
With my current situation i would not become a foster parent. I have enough responsibility with my own children. That being said, if the situation were different, for instance my kids werent young etc, i would consider it. I have done respite care for people with disabities. Where they come to my home for a few days, weekends etc to give there primary care givers a break. i find that works better for me and my situation.
I was a foster parent, but now that I am on my own with an eleven year old son I have taken time away from it. I still volunteer at the schools and have friends in the juvenile system. I have also been looking at the CASA program and urge anyone with some extra time to please consider it. They represent the kids in Court as a guardian ad litem and give the kids voice a chance to be heard. I truly believe it takes a village to raise a child and make sure that I pay attention to the kids I come into contact with either in my neighborhood, friends kids, and at school. The more people a child has to go to when they have problems that they can trust the more likely they will make responsible choices in life...how could anyone say no to that?
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