Friendship (18)

I have just lost a friend because her B/F didn't like me and thought she valued me more than him. But some home truths came out whilst she text me to let me know of the decision made.
Last year i started dating a man who insisted on being with me every evening, it wasn't a bind for me, as i did not go out evenings anyway but my said friend did not like him and refused to call around anymore, so to me that was her choice yet, there were daytimes when we could get together and do normal things like women do. Now i find out that she feels as though i dissed her for this man, with whome i am no longer with...
For months she would tell me her woes to do with her partner and how controlling he was and how he hit her and she eventually decided to move out but returned the same day..This is her choice and i said, if it's what you want and it makes you happy then fine!
She said that if her relationship is to work then we can't be friends

But, now i am being made to feel like it is me who triggered the initial breakdown between them and that i only wanted to be around her when i had no-one yet this person has family and friends who treat her badly...yet she still wants to be with them..and she always told me how lovely i was and how she wanted to be like me yet
she has made me feel like i am not worth anything, can anyone shed some light...PLEASEEEEEE

Some friend she is then eh, just had a simular experience boy friends n girl friends of friends can be a real pain at time jelousy gets in the way, I have a mate whos girlfriend is pig ignorant to all his mates cause she feels that his mates are taking him away from her LOL

Poppy, it's sometimes easier for people to blame those closest to them than look at the real reason. Don't take it to heart - it's her life and her decisions and you aren't and can't be held responsible for them. I'm going through something similar at the moment with my daughter in Oz and I know she's only hitting out at me because of a situation. Concentrate on yourself and your own family/relationships and just be there to pick up the pieces if ever she needs you! That way you'll show her what a true friend you really are!

Thanks all.It really hurts and i know people have similar experiences. I do really sympathise too.
Maybe my concentrating on trying to make a relationship work for me got in the way...she is a very jealous person as i told her myself but she had to understand i was alot older and didn't necessarily like being alone 24/7, where as she had someone and others in her life..she said she didn't realise that was how i felt.
Since i broke up with my ex i have become a bit of a loner but only in the sense that i like and value my space and do concentrate on myself and son, where as she has to be with people and has never experienced "being alone"
She now developed a relationship with her ex neighbour who are loud and brash and always causing trouble but only because she doesn't like to be alone, so they're better than having no-one.

I've always been there for her dandelion, even when she thought i wasn't, maybe can't see the wood for the trees but i think that's the age difference. Her fella accused her of being in love with me and gave her an ultimatum, so how sad and controlling is that?
Anyway, i can't sleep now cos i feel so sad

dont blame ya self........jus cos ya a billy no mates.lol.theres plenty of them on here ....me included

Your so called friend will soon come a running when she needs you, She is a user and dont let her use you in future

A user? feels that way and for sure i wont be bitten again, she will realise that she has no-one to talk to, when it starts going wrong again.
I am pretty happy being me and doing what i like to do..
As for Doggyface, he has "imaginary so-called friends" but he calls them billy...Yes, all of them