People that sponge... (33)
spikkels999: I started my 1st business at the age of 10.
2nd one at age 24.
3rd one 3 months ago now.
I have always been pro-active, and felt sorry for all...
They all sponged on me, and there were always enough money to let them...
My ex in the 7 years we were together worked maybe 6 months, and went after anything on 2 legs...
Boyfriends / Friends always found themselves / others in dire need...
All were always borrowing on the never never...
Not that it ever bothered me...
Feeling Sorry, has to end sometime?
WHEN...?
It ends when you say No! 2nd one at age 24.
3rd one 3 months ago now.
I have always been pro-active, and felt sorry for all...
They all sponged on me, and there were always enough money to let them...
My ex in the 7 years we were together worked maybe 6 months, and went after anything on 2 legs...
Boyfriends / Friends always found themselves / others in dire need...
All were always borrowing on the never never...
Not that it ever bothered me...
Feeling Sorry, has to end sometime?
WHEN...?
I've loaned money, a car, jewelry, clothes, shoes a laptop and I've NEVER gotten ANY of it back! If you're a giver, you'll always have takers. You have to learn to just say NO!
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Yawn, been there done that.
This year i decided to change everything.
I started here and will wait/plan out the next part.
We all trust the wrong people.
This year i decided to change everything.
I started here and will wait/plan out the next part.
We all trust the wrong people.
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spikkels999: YOU ARE IN YOUR DOTAGE...mark my words...
You make up things, and convince everyone, including yourself, that it's true...
I feel very sorry for you...
How much do you want to borrow...?
Maybe you are right, I am fed up with making money, and you can't have any. I'll give you a job s my body guard though, your job would be to keep all the lunatics away, ticket holders only.You make up things, and convince everyone, including yourself, that it's true...
I feel very sorry for you...
How much do you want to borrow...?
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jagtom
Pay good?
I might even take a bullet for you.
Pay good?
I might even take a bullet for you.
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GullyFoyle: jagtom
Pay good?
I might even take a bullet for you.
No. I'm a scrooge, but you can have a cup of coffee, WITH SUGAR, shaken but not stirredPay good?
I might even take a bullet for you.
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GullyFoyle: jagtom
Pay good?
I might even take a bullet for you.
Litterarly...?Pay good?
I might even take a bullet for you.
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spikkels999: Litterarly...?
You put me in my dotage,then you want to shoot me. I put in a bid for your room in the loony bin, hope there are oil paints there
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jagtom: You put me in my dotage,then you want to shoot me. I put in a bid for your room in the loony bin, hope there are oil paints there
I would not know...!!!------ This thread is Archived ------
They need shooting wasters
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spikkels999: I would not know...!!!
Huh evicted already, Van Gough made a few bob there.Is that striped thing you wear your uniform?
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spikkels999: Not that it ever bothered me...
Clearly it does bother you in some way because it's not the first time you've created a thread about people sponging from you.The question is, how and why is it bothering you?
I imagine it's a complicated mix of emotional stuff and practicality, not to mention the challenge of saying 'no' if it's not in your nature to deny others.
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jac_the_gripper: Clearly it does bother you in some way because it's not the first time you've created a thread about people sponging from you.
The question is, how and why is it bothering you?
I imagine it's a complicated mix of emotional stuff and practicality, not to mention the challenge of saying 'no' if it's not in your nature to deny others.
I think Jac just offered us a bitThe question is, how and why is it bothering you?
I imagine it's a complicated mix of emotional stuff and practicality, not to mention the challenge of saying 'no' if it's not in your nature to deny others.
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jac_the_gripper: Clearly it does bother you in some way because it's not the first time you've created a thread about people sponging from you.
The question is, how and why is it bothering you?
I imagine it's a complicated mix of emotional stuff and practicality, not to mention the challenge of saying 'no' if it's not in your nature to deny others.
The reason why is:-The question is, how and why is it bothering you?
I imagine it's a complicated mix of emotional stuff and practicality, not to mention the challenge of saying 'no' if it's not in your nature to deny others.
When you feel sorry for some people, they go down the tubes, as everything is for free, and they never learn to look after themselves.
They cannot help being the way they are...
Money is very important for all...they must just learn to manage it better...
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jagtom: I think Jac just offered us a bit
Unlike Snooks, I have no problem saying 'no', especially to you. 
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spikkels999: The reason why is:-
When you feel sorry for some people, they go down the tubes, as everything is for free, and they never learn to look after themselves.
They cannot help being the way they are...
Money is very important for all...they must just learn to manage it better...
I was referring to your emotions and situation, not theirs.When you feel sorry for some people, they go down the tubes, as everything is for free, and they never learn to look after themselves.
They cannot help being the way they are...
Money is very important for all...they must just learn to manage it better...
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jac_the_gripper: I was referring to your emotions and situation, not theirs.
I'm a very Private person...The info I divulge here, I don't see as private at all...
So, there are definite limits...Now...
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spikkels999: I'm a very Private person...
The info I divulge here, I don't see as private at all...
So, there are definite limits...Now...
I appreciate this isn't the kind of place where it feels safe to be emotionally vulnerable.The info I divulge here, I don't see as private at all...
So, there are definite limits...Now...
I do think there's no such thing as true altruism, however. When we share of ourselves we get something in return, even if that's feeling good about ourselves because we helped someone cross the road.
If we give of ourselves and end up not feeling good, we need to have a good think about what we're doing.
We can't control other people's thoughts, feelings, or behaviour. We can't make other people value us, or what we've given. We can only truly understand ourselves and control our own behaviour.
It's up to you to work out why you keep giving to people who leave you feeling uncomfortable, or unfulfilled.
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jac_the_gripper: I appreciate this isn't the kind of place where it feels safe to be emotionally vulnerable.
I do think there's no such thing as true altruism, however. When we share of ourselves we get something in return, even if that's feeling good about ourselves because we helped someone cross the road.
If we give of ourselves and end up not feeling good, we need to have a good think about what we're doing.
We can't control other people's thoughts, feelings, or behaviour. We can't make other people value us, or what we've given. We can only truly understand ourselves and control our own behaviour.
It's up to you to work out why you keep giving to people who leave you feeling uncomfortable, or unfulfilled.
I will tell you:-I do think there's no such thing as true altruism, however. When we share of ourselves we get something in return, even if that's feeling good about ourselves because we helped someone cross the road.
If we give of ourselves and end up not feeling good, we need to have a good think about what we're doing.
We can't control other people's thoughts, feelings, or behaviour. We can't make other people value us, or what we've given. We can only truly understand ourselves and control our own behaviour.
It's up to you to work out why you keep giving to people who leave you feeling uncomfortable, or unfulfilled.
These "poor" people are just getting anything from me, as it's for free.
They don't even try to generate their own incomes.
When I die...who will look after them...?
Question:-
Who will earn a living if they don't have to...?
Spongers don't have to...
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spikkels999: I will tell you:-
These "poor" people are just getting anything from me, as it's for free.
They don't even try to generate their own incomes.
When I die...who will look after them...?
Question:-
Who will earn a living if they don't have to...?
Spongers don't have to...
ou bear the responsibility for making these people depndent,These "poor" people are just getting anything from me, as it's for free.
They don't even try to generate their own incomes.
When I die...who will look after them...?
Question:-
Who will earn a living if they don't have to...?
Spongers don't have to...
"Give a family a fish and they live till the next meal,
Teach them how to fish and they feed themselves for life."
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2nd one at age 24.
3rd one 3 months ago now.
I have always been pro-active, and felt sorry for all...
They all sponged on me, and there were always enough money to let them...
My ex in the 7 years we were together worked maybe 6 months, and went after anything on 2 legs...
Boyfriends / Friends always found themselves / others in dire need...
All were always borrowing on the never never...
Not that it ever bothered me...
Feeling Sorry, has to end sometime?
WHEN...?