i met someone recently from cs and..... ( Archived) (19)

i just want to know . we kindve hit it off then the last 2 days which was a week i spent with that person she acted like she was in deep thought or someone on her mind! so i got a cold shoulder and i kindve gave it back lol but she and her family was sweet and acepting me as i would them but i still dont know whats going on will we keep seeing each other or? i dont know what to think or how to even react! and then what should i say without saying the wrong thing? was it just like i met and theres no more to us or ? i mean if this sounds stupid please say so because i dont want to react or say the wrong thing because i thought she thinks different !

She gave you the cold shoulder? Is this still the case?

Ask her where her feelings stand....maybe she is confused or feels like things are going too fast...or maybe she just feels a friendship.....you just havta talk to her.

This may come as a shock to you, but women do often contemplate many different things at any given time. That being said, be understanding and -communicate with her-. Ask her if you're curious, and don't be forceful. A simple "What's on your mind?" will help matters greatly in most instances unless you've already been forceful in some fashion and have turned her off somehow.

You don't know how to act? There's not any particular way you should act... other than being yourself. If you don't act as you normally do, you will come off as fake the moment things start changing in mass quantities and that's not a trait any that I know of look for.

If you're worried about the lack of words, or mis-wording... go by the old rule of "A wise man has 2 ears and 1 mouth so he listens twice as much as he talks." - this too will prove useful to you, I do feel. I'm not sure how you can even hint at there not being more to you two, unless that's truely what you want. Grasping at such a straw is setting yourself up for self-doubt, and with that... a vicious spiral which will ultimately manifest itself into a self-fulfilling prophecy - you two apart.

If you think she thinks different, communicate, communicate, communicate. I cannot stress this enough, and if you don't.. it will bomb something fierce most if not all the time. That being said, let her mind think and process as it will. Do not try to nudge or get a further understanding of her mind if she's not ready to share it with you just yet. Some are guarded in that respect, and pushing will be another killer in many different respects.

My .02,

Rich

I agree communication is key...

I met someone, and the same thing happened.
I don't even know, to this day, what it was. We are still good friends, but I never understood it, and when I bothered to ask, I didn't get a response that explained it.
Just give it some time, it will all work out in the end, no matter how it works out!

well i really ty all 4 the replies but it was like the 1st time meeting and it went good then it was like the last 2 days were well there was really no talking i tried but it wound up as asking a ? and getting nowhere but ? rebecca said seems more like ?s happening maybe it wasnt there ? or hopefully she reads this or some females are very hard to understan

give it a few more days and see what happens. Good luck Charlie

plus it wasnt like we could really spend time getting to know each other always someone around or it could be so many men hurt her as she said so i guess shes blocking me do you understand that?