Grrrr!!! I could throttle someone right now... (8)

well, i had it out with my ex last night on the phone. i have always maintained that it is over he is not coming back and i am not taking him back... he didn't get it at first, then it finally sunk in, and then lately he is back in LaLa land again. He was mad at a friend of ours cuz he told him that I don't wnat him back and that he should stop bugging me and AGAIN i told him it is OVER... well then he starts the guilt trips on me etc etc...

later on he talks to the kids and I don't know what he said to Justin but last night is the first night since he has been gone that Justin peed the bed. THEN i get a phone call from the school principal today... Justin is spazzzzing big time... he is a bit of a drama queen and had a rough day yesterday but today was so bad they called me. He was crying and yelling and screaming and just totally out of control.

Justin has ADHD & ODD so majority of his attitude everyone is used to and he is an emotional child - always has been. but this is TOTALLY out of character for him. he is 8 years old and told the teacher he wants to be expelled from school because he doens't like the time out room... (normally there is a time out chair but because his behavior was sooo disruptive he had to be moved to another room).

I think it might be a really good idea to try and find out what the father had said to him on the phone to make him react the way that he did.

I was going to ask him but he never called last night! It was actually very peaceful...

I so feel for you sweetie....I was there....about 11 years ago, but I was in your exact shoes...

My son has ADD, and OCD and a co-morbid anxiety disorder...and a father that played head games with him to get to me...

My personal thoughts...get him into some sort of counselling (age appropriate) and whatever support you can.

If necessary, ask the school if there are any Section 14 schools in your area or close enough to bus your son to...these are schools run under the Mental Health Act where the child gets his education but also an incredible amount of emotional support where their behaviours are handled by Child and Youth workers.

It was my son's saviour....and there is hope for these kids....he's going to be 22 next month and is in a much better place today!

I wish you the best and if you want to write to me to get more info or just some support, please feel free!!

That is great advice!!

My son who will be 9 in April has ADHD and is on medication for it. Has been on it for awhile and is doing amazingly great as well. No complications so far or anything.

Thankfuly my ex is respectful and would never use our son to get to me. But I was not impressed with his mom last month. While my son was staying at their place for my mom's funeral. She (my son's grandmother) did not let him take his medication and did NOT tell me about it. I found out when he got home and saw his bottle was still full. Needless to say I was livid! I phoned the doctor who contacted her about it. Now she gives him his medication.

But I know how aggravating and frustrating it can be when someone judges your child or the parent because of their illnesses and the way we treat it.

hi
sorry to hear what happened to your son
if i can make this one suggestion and its what i did
make notes keep a diary everytime something happens or calls made so if you ever need to see a lawyer you will have dates of all calls and what happened after the calls

Sorry to hear that wolfdogs,, get a lawyer,, correct the problem now before it gets worse or happens again