GUYS? DO men want to hear "Let's just be friends" ? or not? ( Archived) (51)

Well having the same interests would be important I guess..

Got no problems with those numbers.....

My husband just died June/06....actually right on our 17 anniversary.....My friend of 10 yrs. asked to marry me,I said..No-maybe later. He heard the (NO) and that was that! Two men gone now...I truly LUV this guy and he is not speaking to me...The whole gang is not speaking to me either...

Of course guys don't wanna hear that. They want the "Pooh-tang". If that ain't gonna happen then it's best just to be up front with it right away.If he dosen't want to be friends anyway...then so be it. It's his loss!

I hate those words, but it is a fact of life. I have even told women that myself, so it happens and maybe you do make a good friend out of the situation. I try toobe friends with the woman I break up with, unless they just played me fromthe begaining.

AS A RETIRED PSCHIATRIST STILL LOOKING FOR THE SECOND COMING OF JANE fONDA, THIS IS MY TAKE. AM i THE FINAL WORD. pROBABLY NOT. WOMEN AND MEN TEND TO BE FRIENDS WHEN THEY HAVE SLEPT TOGETHER AND IT CANNOT GO ANYHWHERE. THE DIFFERENCES ARE TOO DEEP. nOT WITH NORMAL MEN AND WOMEN WHO KNOW LIFE IS NOT AMILLENIUM, THEY MOVE ON .BEING A FRIEND TAKES ORK AND MEN AND WOMEN AS FIRENDS IS OFTERN ABOUT TENSION. THIS IS WHY WOMEN GET ALONG FABULOUSL WITH GAYMEN. nO TENSION.i HAVE A FEMALE FRIEND. WE HAD A RELATIONSHIP. SHE HAS DOGS AND CATD S AND I DESPISE ANIMALS SINCE I AM ALLERIG TO THEM. BUT YOU CAN SEE THAT THE FRIENDSHIP IS LIKE SETTLING -WE ARE BOTH LONELY AND CANNOT FIND ANYONE SO WE LIE DO THINGS. iS IT A GOOD FRIENDSHIP PROBABLY NOT. nOW i WILL SAY THEN WHEN PEOPLE ARE YOUNGER ,IT IS POSSIBLE TO HAVE A FRIENDSHIP AS THE KIDS OF TODAY SAY- WE HANG OUT- AND IN THEORY YOU FRIEND MAY INTRODUCE YTOU TO SOMEONE. bUT WITH OLDER PEOLE, IT DOES NOT WORK- SO i SAY SPLIT DECISION BUT FROM MY EXPERIENCES YOU ARE EX LOVERS ARE YOUR FIRNEDS. bECAUSE THEY WILL PUT UP WITH YOU. dR. iNA fUNK

I think you should be honest and tell them when you realize that is all you want. Especially if he is paying for dates to take you out etc. Then if he decides that is fine and continues to pay for dates and take you out at least you were up front. But most guys if you tell them you just want to be friends and they want more will either give up and move on or will continue to hang out with you but at that point im sure the dates will go "dutch" So upfront honesty is definitely the best way to go.

That's one reason why I don't Date..