Good News.....Bad News ( Archived) (15)

Good News....I am going to be a grandmother in June.

Bad News....My son just took another job that is going to require he and his wife (and my new grandbaby)move to another state in about a year. (Several possibilities, Minneapolis, MN is a strong one.)

Should I quit my job and move with them? (That is what they want.) I don't want to miss out on seeing my grandbaby grow up. What would you do?

I need to move this thread up to the top. Please....I really want/need your input!

Could you get a job that is like the one you got up there?

It gets real freaking cold up there in MN.

"Should I quit my job and move with them? (That is what they want.) I don't want to miss out on seeing my grandbaby grow up. What would you do?"


I certainly would. I am extremely family-oriented and don't believe that families should break up it's at all preventable.

However, having said that I wouldn't just drop and run. I'd wait until my son (or daughter) settles in with their new job and make sure they are happy and that things are going to work out. Then I'd see if I could find something in that location that I could be happy with.

Although in my life I held jobs that would have been a crime to give up! They also would have been extremely difficult to have replaced. So that could have been a problem depending on where my siblings were moving. There would need to be some kind of major scientific facility around (like a particle accelerator lab or astrophysics lab like NASA or something), or at least a major university. Otherwise I would have been hard pressed to find interesting and rewarding work.

Of course, now I'm retired so that wouldn't be a problem. Unfortunately I never had any kids to follow around. Never had a wife either. In fact I'm lucky to have had a mother. (ha ha)

No that was joke.

My father died when I was 9 and I lived with my mother my entire life. Well, that's not exactly true. There were times when I did move away, and in her latter years she actually lived with me. In fact, I basically took care of her 24/7 for the past 6 years. She just passed away last February and to me it seems like it was just this morning.

In any case, my sister got married and moved away. So my mother never got to watch her only grandchildren grow up. It was said to have to watch my mother being deprived of that experience. I would have never moved away from my mother, or if I had I would have insisted that she moved to my location.

Call me a mommy's boy all you want, I prefer to thing of myself as a man with very strong family values. I loved my mother more than I can ever say, and I wouldn't trade a single moment of the time I spent with her just to keep some airhead bimbo from calling me a mommy's boy. (ha ha)

I am a strong believer in family. I'm a Walton's kind of guy. Old-fashioned I guess. Isn't it so damn ironic that I never married and had kids? The one thing that I wanted out of life and never attained it. Too many bimbos too busying calling me a mommy's boy to recognize a fantastic father for their children I suppose. Too late now. I'm the proverbial one that got away. (ha ha)

Well, it´s great seeing you ´re so related to your family.
Serveral questions.
- Do you feel comfortable where u life now ?
- How much are the airfairs ?
- What´a kinda job u´re doing ?
- Do you get a job in MN ?
- Do you have a own life ?

Steel no adj´s sense: But what do I know

i agree with magic man.wait and see if they are happy with the new state and new job.If they are,then they can help you with relocating as they will know the area better,have made some friends etc.Good luck bobby.i know you'll make one heck of a grandma!!

The job is not an issue. I could make it without working because I have spent so much of my life saving for the happy retired couple life. Working now because I don't want to pay Uncle Sam the 40% penalty of early 401K withdrawal. I need to find someone who can explain the 72T rule on 401K's. See if I can take an annual withdrawal prior to age 59 1/2. I think that is doable. Anyway, I had already planned on selling my house. (Way too big for 1 person anyway.) I was going to move to the other side of town where they currently live. Just haven't gotten the house ready to put on the market. Now, looks like I have a little more time on that since I certainly don't want to move out their way just in time for them to move to another state.

I have lived a relatively conservative life up to this point. I think I am @ the stage in my life where I really want to mix it up a bit. I am, by nature, a risk taker. I spent 22 years suppressing that part of my character because my ex was afraid to take risks. Everything was planned to death. There are parts of Bobbie that are just now being able to come out and play.

I would want to work, I think. But, not necessarily doing the same thing I have been doing most of my life. I have managed people and am tired of doing that. I would like to have a job where I could work normal hours and not have all of the responsibilities I currently have. I would even consider some very non-traditional type jobs. Just don't know what is out there. I know I can do just about anything I sent my mind to do. (Well.....maybe not rocket science! Is that i before e except after c?)

Anyway, thanks to all of you for your input. I will keep you posted. Right now, I am just trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up. (Yeah, like that is ever going to happen!)

Bad news........The five thousand dollar check you deposited somehow never made it to your account.

Good news.......I just saved a bunch of money by switching to geico.