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The birth of my daughter taught me that there is nothing more beautiful than the sound of a baby's first cry...it's the beginning of a whole new life.
The recent death of my mother taught me that there is no greater pain than to hold someone in your arms as they breathe their last breath and realise that u are no longer anyones child.
Both experiences have taught me,along with many others, that wether in joy or in pain we must gather our strength and move on for our journey is not over and we still have much to learn before we reach our journey's end.
The recent death of my mother taught me that there is no greater pain than to hold someone in your arms as they breathe their last breath and realise that u are no longer anyones child.
Both experiences have taught me,along with many others, that wether in joy or in pain we must gather our strength and move on for our journey is not over and we still have much to learn before we reach our journey's end.
Beautiful curly, I told you that you should be a writer.
The recent death of my mother taught me that there is no greater pain than to hold someone in your arms as they breathe their last breath and realise that u are no longer anyones child.
This is a very interesting concept for me. Another friend of mine was talking about the death of her parents and how now she is an orphan. Both my parents have been gone for awhile now and not once has the thought of now being an orphan or not being someones child crossed my mind. Is this a common way of feeling?
This is a very interesting concept for me. Another friend of mine was talking about the death of her parents and how now she is an orphan. Both my parents have been gone for awhile now and not once has the thought of now being an orphan or not being someones child crossed my mind. Is this a common way of feeling?
This is a very interesting concept for me. Another friend of mine was talking about the death of her parents and how now she is an orphan. Both my parents have been gone for awhile now and not once has the thought of now being an orphan or not being someones child crossed my mind. Is this a common way of feeling?
I can't speak for others but I know that it was one of the first realisations I had when my mom breathed her last.That here and now at that moment I had become the adult,totally and completely, for there was no longer anyone for me to turn to.She was my best friend,insperation and one hell of a woman for having not only survived but blossomed despite the life she had.
I can only wish to be like her when i grow up.
I can't speak for others but I know that it was one of the first realisations I had when my mom breathed her last.That here and now at that moment I had become the adult,totally and completely, for there was no longer anyone for me to turn to.She was my best friend,insperation and one hell of a woman for having not only survived but blossomed despite the life she had.
I can only wish to be like her when i grow up.
This is interesting - I've had others tell me I'm an orphan, my parents have been gone for a number of years and I've heard a sibling refer to herself as an orphan. I've never felt like an orphan. I'm always going to be my dad's girl. Yes, I'm an adult and no longer have someone to go to like I did when they were alive but I have older siblings that have stepped into maternal and paternal roles within the larger family grouping (causing irritation to the younger ones who don't like being hovered over). I suppose it is perspective and what type of relationship you had with your parents.
My relationship was somewhat rocky with them and as a teenager I caused probably more than my fair share of grey hairs on Dad's head. I had a step-mom who was just as stubborn and independent as I was so there were some sparks there as well - but I think she was a good coach for me because she never backed down or gave up - on anything, including me. Besides when I'm hitting a bit of a bumpy road - I'll more than likely dream about them (some people refer to this as 'visits') so in a sense they are still around me.
My relationship was somewhat rocky with them and as a teenager I caused probably more than my fair share of grey hairs on Dad's head. I had a step-mom who was just as stubborn and independent as I was so there were some sparks there as well - but I think she was a good coach for me because she never backed down or gave up - on anything, including me. Besides when I'm hitting a bit of a bumpy road - I'll more than likely dream about them (some people refer to this as 'visits') so in a sense they are still around me.
I think that would depend strongly on the individual and their perception on things. I have both of my parents still, and I have always felt like somewhat of an orphan for the simple fact that my parents are very distant and disengaged in my life - by their choice. They have never been affectionate or verbal about their feelings for their children, and that has lead me to feel lonely at some level, even though I am not alone. I think when you have someone as a parent figure that loves and cares for you - passed or still here - you are their child forever. To have the spirit of someone's love is one of the greatest gifts you can have, because it is never ending and follows wherever you journey to.
prairiegoddess and tbsob..I agree it would depend on your relationship with your parents - I was always dadies girl as well and had a distant relationship with my mother. She was manic depresent and the world evolved around her, the closeness was never there. There are days when I can miss them terrible when I am needing someone to lean on or just tell me life will be fine, but they have been gone long enough and I am old enough to figure it out.
Are we orphans I guess in a sense of the word but I agree that you are thier child forever.
Are we orphans I guess in a sense of the word but I agree that you are thier child forever.
When my dad died after a bout with cancer it didn't bother me in the least (i have my reasons for that)I spent the last yera of his life looking after him not because of any feelings I had for him but for my mom.
But when my mom died it totally wiped me out,I'm still dealing with it because it's recent but some days r better than others and I'm in the habit of standing up and moving forward. I do still feel her presence and hope I always will.
It hit me the other day that she's still close....my daughter was singing a country song that my mom always sang....I didn't even know she knew it. Felt good.
But when my mom died it totally wiped me out,I'm still dealing with it because it's recent but some days r better than others and I'm in the habit of standing up and moving forward. I do still feel her presence and hope I always will.
It hit me the other day that she's still close....my daughter was singing a country song that my mom always sang....I didn't even know she knew it. Felt good.
Curly the idea of your daughter singing a song that means something to you made me smile.
Where those special people that have passed on are really depends on how we hold them in our hearts and memories.
Where those special people that have passed on are really depends on how we hold them in our hearts and memories.
Thanks Taz.....yes the two people that have passed on and meant the most to me will always be in my heart.My mom and her mom were two exceptional women who proved taught me to stand up and face whatever life may throw at me and to realize that no matter how bad things may seem ,there r always worse off than ourselves so we should appreciate what we have.
Hey guys! I hate to disagree but you are not an orphan! You have had your parents during childhood you have learned and lived with them you have received their love and their lessons.
You enjoyed having them in your life and miss them when they are gone but you are not an orphan!
Why? Simple!
Dieing is part of life and ultimately we are alone in this world eventually. But only if you let yourself think that way! Your parents and other family members live on! In you!
If you keep them in your heart and in your mind locked away the memories of good and bad times of love and hope of tears and joy and of simple being with them then you will never be alone! In spirit they are close to you! And just because you can't see them does not mean they are not there. They are with you and so again you are not alone.
To me an orphan is a child who's parents left him and walked away. A child who was never loved or accepted in the circle of that family. Someone who does not know their heritage their family history or where they come from.
If you know all that and more then you are not an orphan because you know love from your parents.
Don't know if that makes much sense to you all but thats just the way i think. Because family never dies they live on in you!
You enjoyed having them in your life and miss them when they are gone but you are not an orphan!
Why? Simple!
Dieing is part of life and ultimately we are alone in this world eventually. But only if you let yourself think that way! Your parents and other family members live on! In you!
If you keep them in your heart and in your mind locked away the memories of good and bad times of love and hope of tears and joy and of simple being with them then you will never be alone! In spirit they are close to you! And just because you can't see them does not mean they are not there. They are with you and so again you are not alone.
To me an orphan is a child who's parents left him and walked away. A child who was never loved or accepted in the circle of that family. Someone who does not know their heritage their family history or where they come from.
If you know all that and more then you are not an orphan because you know love from your parents.
Don't know if that makes much sense to you all but thats just the way i think. Because family never dies they live on in you!
Keep your chin up Curly. You will never forget your mom. She will always be in your heart.
When i lost my husband i thought my world had ended and i couldn't go on without him, but i have and i love my life but I still miss him and always will.
You never get over the loss of a loved one, you learn to live with it.
When i lost my husband i thought my world had ended and i couldn't go on without him, but i have and i love my life but I still miss him and always will.
You never get over the loss of a loved one, you learn to live with it.
Life does go on and the pain isn't so sharp. We are all survivors, I'm glas we have all ended up here.
When my friend told me I should sign up here I said 'yeah sure' another one lol.But I am very glad I did.I met a great guy and a great bunch of people that I look forward to geeting to know better.The forums r a great place and u all make it feel like a bunch of friends getting together for a chat.
Any time anyone feels like a chat drop by and don't be shy.
Hugs to all of you
Jen
Any time anyone feels like a chat drop by and don't be shy.
Hugs to all of you
Jen
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Parenthood is a sacred responsibility and is supreme teaching. As you open the doors of perception you will find you teachers not onl in human form but in the world of nature, in children and strangers, and in unexpected circumstance. You will find no higher calling, greater blessing, finer teacher, or more spiritual journey than the process of raising your child.
Can you think of three people situations or experiences that have served as teachers for you - what did you learn?