tbsob Forum Posts (22)

RE: The Best way

I agree that face to face is the best way - it's more genuine and compassionate.

On that note, I did end a relationship about a month and a half ago via email . I'm not proud of it, I've always been one to do it in person. My thinking for it was that I would back down again if I saw him (even though he was obviously not right for me) and this way he would be too angry with me to try and convince me otherwise. It was cowardly and cold, but it's done now. But, in retrospect, I have reaffirmed my belief that face to face is the way to do it. It's never easy, though.

RE: Living on Purpose (4)

I think that would depend strongly on the individual and their perception on things. I have both of my parents still, and I have always felt like somewhat of an orphan for the simple fact that my parents are very distant and disengaged in my life - by their choice. They have never been affectionate or verbal about their feelings for their children, and that has lead me to feel lonely at some level, even though I am not alone. I think when you have someone as a parent figure that loves and cares for you - passed or still here - you are their child forever. To have the spirit of someone's love is one of the greatest gifts you can have, because it is never ending and follows wherever you journey to.

RE: Have u read the book "The secret"

Basically, the law of attraction; how you ultimately control the energy flow to and from your life by what you think and say about yourself and the situations you find yourself in. I think, therefore I am- you get what you give, etc.

I agree, it's not a secret, but definitely something most people are unaware of or don't believe in.

RE: is your Zodiac your TRUE sign?

Scorpio, mostly true of me - although my sense of humour is conditional at times, and the looks - well, that's in the eye of the beholder.

RE: New To The Site

Welcome, and enjoy the ride!

RE: What if you had a great date and 2 days later he hasn't called.......

This is based on what I've heard guy friends tell me: Either he's waiting because he doesn't want to come off as desparate, or he didn't have the guts to tell you he wasn't interested and told you what he thought you wanted to hear. But then, 2 days is not a very long time, unless he said he'd call you in a day or two.

RE: connection or no connection.......that is the question

Like Tapestry said, you can only control what you do.

I have had this happen a few times, and from my experience, every time I attempt friendship they see it as hope for something more - clear as though I've been. If his feelings for you are real, than it may be too hard for him to be friends with you. If you turned the tables, if you were the one with feelings for him, would you see it as a lead on or hope if he stuck around as a friend? Everyone's different - that's just my opinion based on my experience. Eithewr way, things will work themselves out, and in the meantime you need not frett if he's not coming around. People are wired very differently, and hard as we may try to understand or pleases everyone, the only thing that's really in your hands is your reaction. Honesty can hurt, but it's at least honest. Kudos to you on that, and let the worry go!

RE: Ladies would u date a shorter man?

I also tend to go for guys about my height or taller, although I have dated some that are a few inches shorter. For me, it's somewhat awkward if the guy is shorter - maybe because I was 5'7" in grade six? I got teased about my height a lot, and I'm just in recent years beginning to be comfortable with it. I'm 5'10" now, which is still fairly tall for a woman, but like I said, it's grown on me. LOL.

I would absolutely not let height get in thew way if I were really attracted to someone. I do love dancing (ballroom, though I need practice) and I love heels, so as long as the guy is comfortable with that, there would be no problems.

Also, I think a big part of it is (not just for me, I don't think) that we have been conditioned a certain way when it comes to male/female height ratios. That's not to say it SHOULD be that way - we just need to understand that that's a part of the equation in a lot of cases and it is changing overall.

RE: What do you think of the new colour?

I agree - it's a little off key. But, the red's nice!!!

RE: Can friends turn to more?

I'm not sure how that would go - hopefully in your favour!

Why does he feel guilty if he only sees you as a friend? wink wink

RE: What are equal rights?

Touche!!!

RE: Little white lies and your match

I agree with pretty much everything that's been posted in these threads so far. I think we've all had at least one encounter with someone who lied about something. My thoughts are - as I believe was already stated - what do you stand to gain from meeting someone who thinks you're someone else altogether? I met up with a guy who had a picture up from when he was 20 (who is now 35). I had asked him at some point if that was a recent pic, and he lied about without hesitation. I just figured he looked young for his age . LOL. The thing is, when I met him, he actually looked better than his pic - more mature. But, I can't be with someone who lies, for better or worse. I think that goes for most people.

RE: VALUE WHO YOU HAVE IN YOUR LIFE!

Thank you for that. It's so true and we all need to take a minute now and then to contemplate that.

RE: Ask the next person a question #2

Yes - although organized is a relative term.


Silver or Gold?

RE: 40 Things You Would Love to Say Outloud at Work

Too funny! My personal favourite is #36, though!

RE: Ask the next person a question #2

You're right about that!!! What gave it away? LOL

RE: Ask the next person a question #2

'Catch A Falling Star' - Perry Como


Harley Davidson or Street Bike?

RE: Friday the 13th

I'm not sure..........my car overheated while already late getting home for my daughter's birthday party, but then I ran into an old friend with whom I had not spoken in years while I was waiting for the engine to cool. I guess that's lucky disguised initially as unlucky.

RE: Looking to meet some cool people! Does online dating actually work?

I know I message guys - and I'm sure I'm not the only one. I was starting to wonder if maybe it was the other way around - that guys are waiting for us to make the first move!!!

RE: be gentle with me

Welcome aboard - and hopefully you get all you're hoping for here!!!

RE: I need him back...

I'm with you on that Kenai! He wants a thrill out of your pain now - he's not worth it!

RE: I need him back...

I agree with what everyone is telling you - take your time healing, and if this man is really the man for you he will give you time to heal. It may be that he thinks you don't know what you want at this point - that maybe you're not done grieving. If you're not ready to move forward, then let him know that. Let him know you want him in your life, but that you maybe need to wait a while before you commit your lives to one another - for both of your sakes.

Ok, I just basically reiterated everyone else's thoughts, but I think they pretty much covered it!

Be safe in your decisions - follow your gut, not just your heart. I know it's tough sometimes, but you're strong!!!