This is interesting - I've had others tell me I'm an orphan, my parents have been gone for a number of years and I've heard a sibling refer to herself as an orphan. I've never felt like an orphan. I'm always going to be my dad's girl. Yes, I'm an adult and no longer have someone to go to like I did when they were alive but I have older siblings that have stepped into maternal and paternal roles within the larger family grouping (causing irritation to the younger ones who don't like being hovered over). I suppose it is perspective and what type of relationship you had with your parents.
My relationship was somewhat rocky with them and as a teenager I caused probably more than my fair share of grey hairs on Dad's head. I had a step-mom who was just as stubborn and independent as I was so there were some sparks there as well - but I think she was a good coach for me because she never backed down or gave up - on anything, including me. Besides when I'm hitting a bit of a bumpy road - I'll more than likely dream about them (some people refer to this as 'visits') so in a sense they are still around me.
'Do you believe that we can learn a lesson form every person we encounter?'
Quite possibly, yes. Every person we encounter could impact our life in one way or another and some more than others - so it stands to reason that we could learn a lesson from every person we encounter. That lesson may take the form of how one reacts to the other or something they did - or perhaps a more personal interaction (I think past relationships fit in here) - those ones that maybe didn't seem to go so well, but you learned from it so the overall experience can't really be considered bad as there was perhaps a reason for it.
For some it may be enough. We are all not at the same stage in our learning. But death isn't the end - and the purpose of living is to learn what you need to - I'm not referring to what we go to school for but life lessons. Perhaps a lesson is to learn to value something (or someone), we don't all have the same lessons to learn and the way we learn them may vary from person to person. As to our purpose in living, well, that's something that we have to figure out while we're here. Some people just seem to know what it is they're supposed to do - and others seem to spend a lifetime trying to figure it out.
The interest in Spirituality, speaking for myself here, is because I know there is something more and that things happen for a reason eventhough sometimes we don't understand why at the time.
Nothing wrong with single dads. It's been mentioned earlier, it's a package deal, and so it should be. Quite possibly not everyone is looking for a package - a ready-made family - and that's okay, to each their own. You guys just have to find the ones that aren't going to hit the doorstep running (and that you want keep around) - we're out here you just gotta find us.
I'm not going to have my own kids and if that's the way things work out for me I can live with that - if there's a guy that's bent on having kids I guess he needs to find himself another bingo partner. That has made a difference in the past. They've moved on to greener pastures so to speak.
My suggestion is to not quit looking if you're want someone else to be in your life - I sure don't intend to give up.
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RE: making friends online......
I can always use another friend - someone to chat with....