Men looking for "slim" women (20)

personally...I like a woman with a few extra pounds. Not attracted to gym bunnies!

Last woman I went out with was an aerobics instructor and yoga. Couldn't even begin to feel any passion for her. Now send me Delta Burke...oh, yeah!!

An attractive woman is comfortable in her own skin as far as I am concerned. Most real humans go up and down with weight.
Alot of people are more concerned with arm candy than anything. Ego stroking girlfriends that look like moviestars to walk around with and show off.

It's very nice that you think that way Krashenstein. I am afraid that would make me very unattractive though, lol. I am not happy with myself, but no one worry...I am not one to cry about something without making an effort to change! God help everyone if I ever reach my goal, lol...

Moonshadow I agree with you People who are so superficial to only want someone with a certain body type or certain physical attribute are pitiful. To me REAL Beauty is a combination of things Such as Attitude, Compassion, Personality, How they take care of themselves (Cleanliness) Intelligence. Do they put too much emphasis on Physical Attributes or are they materialistic?
I always ask these people if they found the person of their dreams and Married them, What would they do if six months later their spouse was in a horrible accident and were disfigured and/or handicapped? Would they be forced to divorce them?? And if so I pity both of them. To me a girl can be a size 5 but if her personality is Mean or if she has no compassion then she is less attractive than the girl who is honest and compassionate and a size 16. Just my opinion tho.

tell it like it is. Just an opinion here, so please no personal attacks!!!! But I think women with a little extra cushion for the pushin. are hot! Thin women tend to be too into themselves. Just my observation! Look at my age...been observing for a long, long time...LMAO

I feel the exact way about men. Too thin is not attractive to me. I like thick...doesn't neccessarily have to be muscle either. Arms and chest attract me the most. Besides it would drive me insane if I was thicker than him

Well, Im not skinny, and I'm not over weight. It's just luck, I guess, because I don't exercise. But, I feel the same as you do.

Speaking for men, since I am one, I have to say that I have always say I am looking for a slender woman. HEAR ME OUT! I read your post, please show me the same courtesy. I am 31, so I am not sure whether I fall into the old or young category, but here's my reasoning...

I am 5'6, 120 lbs. In a physical relationship, it is SAFER for me in some positions...Not that THAT is the only reason mind you, it is just one.

I also would like to be able to carry my girl over the threshold if we ever get married. But this isn't the whole of it, read on.

I worked with models and actresses in the past as a director, so I dated that type and found out something interesting...I don't like who they are. They were full of themselves for the most part, and eyed me as if I was pretty lucky to have them in some cases.

When I applied this thinking to some of the "hotties" I dated that weren't famous or anything, I got somewhat the same response. It is only when I started dating anyone I liked as a person that I enjoyed the time spent. So weight is not the thing for me, I will date a WHALE if we get along, have things in common, and like each other.

Here's MY pet peeve...As I said, I am 5'6. I get turned down because of THAT. Now I ask you, a woman can control her weight most of the time, but how the HELL can I control my height??? Tell me how THAT is fair.

I corresponded once with a very nice girl maybe 6 states away from me, and everything was great. Emails became telephone conversations, and days turned into weeks. About 6 weeks into it talking maybe every other day or so, we were making plans for me to come visit. We had exchanged pictures, etc. On the phone, it came up that I was 5'6. She was 6'1. Well, I would make do I figured, I mean, odd that it never came up, but whatever.

Nope. I am too short, and I got a nice lecture in logical reasoning from her why it would never work. Hm. Shallow? She never SEEMED shallow before, maybe it was she feared meeting, whatever.

Point is, I get shot down for my height all the time. I don't think 5'6 is SHORT mind you, it has to be around the average. 5'8 maybe? Whatever. I know women that have problems with inches ELSEWHERE too.

I agree with most of what you have said...much of it is just the way it is. Anyone willing to try and change the world, go for it. Of course, these are stereotypes that are commonly true, but NOT always. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. I seriously doubt there is someone who views completely match them all. Most of this comes with experience/age...aka baggage/damaged.

When we are young, life seems more like a fairy tale...years later we get a rude awakening. I would prefer to be referred to as wise or cautious rather than damaged, but say what you will. My life has made me an over-analyser...I am working on that. I am sure it will take me twice as long to train myself out of it as it did for me to become this way.

As far as appearances go, I will forever stand by...physical attraction is a must. There has been a couple exceptions with me...people to whom I became attracted to AFTER I got to know them. But honestly, that is something very rare, is it not? There is no need to become insecure if someone is not attracted to you...people simply have preferences. For example, I don't think I could date someone to whom I outweigh or am taller than. I want to feel like the woman, you know? It's just MY preferences and I refuse to feel guilty because I am being true to myself. Who wants to be with someone who you are not attracted to? Yeah, that would last a long time, lol.

What is the very first thing that brings you to a particular profile? Usually the picture. Sometimes it might be something they wrote in the forums, but usually it's the picture. But even outside of a dating site, out on the street, or at work, it starts with some kind of physical (visual) attraction. That's just the laws of attraction. There have been hundreds of studies done on this.
I prefer thinner, younger women at first glance. But that's initial attraction. With that being said, I don't care if they're a Supermodel with their own microbrewery , pot farm, and a twin sister, If they don't have a brain, they're not for me, although I would go work the farm for them. lol.
The best thing anyone of us can do is to just be ourselves. If someone happens to be a little overweight, or have a big nose, or no lips, or short arms, or two left feet, they just need to let they're inner beauty shine through. Sooner or later the right one will see past whatever, and fall for the real beauty that is inside.