honesty??? (8)
poniepower22 Threads 768 PostsSomething that's bothered me for a long time....why is it that when someone asks for an honest opinion, (constructive critisism) they get all defensive, their grundies in a bunch, mad, feelings hurt?? I consider myself to be an "honest" person. I try to stay away from drama, but sometimes people get "sucked in". Where does one draw the line, when feelings are at risk of being hurt?
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Damn ...Trying not to explode!!!!
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I'm thinking sittin' on your butt drinking hot chocolate would be more productive, less chance of spilling it. lol
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I believe the expression is "truth hurts". Trouble is the "person" is more than likely looking for empathy, compliments or the likes that feed the ego, rather than telling them of a deficiency, which shows weakness...
Trouble is that we're too head"strong" to want to hear about weaknesses...
Trouble is that we're too head"strong" to want to hear about weaknesses...
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well that would depend on if yer alone at the time there erin hot chocolate with the right person ----in bed would possiply be reproductive
lmao
lmao
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can i put this in the famous quotes thread!!???
lmao!!! erin !!! the chocolate undies are for in the bed and the cocoa i'd definitely remain seated with!
ya want more stains on those sheets????
rotflmao!
lmao!!! erin !!! the chocolate undies are for in the bed and the cocoa i'd definitely remain seated with!
ya want more stains on those sheets????
rotflmao!
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Well when someone asks for my most honest opinion about a situation tough or not..I first warn them and ask them if they are sure they want to know because they may not like it. And if they insist then I tell them what I think.
I try not to judge the person though and try not to bash the person too much kwim? But I dont hold back. You want honesty with me your going to get it.
Tracy :o)
I try not to judge the person though and try not to bash the person too much kwim? But I dont hold back. You want honesty with me your going to get it.
Tracy :o)
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I totally agree with Tracy! I do think that sometimes people ask for honest opinions and don't HONESTLY want our opinion.. they don't know how to say "Will you listen to me while I talk about this situation out loud and not say anything.. just listen"... I think we all need to learn to say that from time to time....
And the biggest thing that I think people need to remember is that an opinion is just that.... YOUR OPINION... It doesn't make it right... and more importantly-- your opinion is based on your past history and all the experiences you have had up to this point in life... whereas the person asking for the opinion can not possibly articulate all the thoughts/feeling/emotions/things said regarding the situation in which they are talking about... Therefore, I think that a person should only ask for an opinion of someone else when you want to look at a situation from a whole different perspective.. Otherwise, don't ask for it.
One thing that pisses me off is people who add their opinion and they haven't been even invited into the coversation (happens all the time in our break room at work) Drives me insane! I just want to shake them and say "you didn't even hear the full freaking story, you idiot" - *sigh* *Ok, stepping down off the high horse* sorry. :)
PS-- You did ask my opinion on this topic, right? Just checking.. LOL
And the biggest thing that I think people need to remember is that an opinion is just that.... YOUR OPINION... It doesn't make it right... and more importantly-- your opinion is based on your past history and all the experiences you have had up to this point in life... whereas the person asking for the opinion can not possibly articulate all the thoughts/feeling/emotions/things said regarding the situation in which they are talking about... Therefore, I think that a person should only ask for an opinion of someone else when you want to look at a situation from a whole different perspective.. Otherwise, don't ask for it.
One thing that pisses me off is people who add their opinion and they haven't been even invited into the coversation (happens all the time in our break room at work) Drives me insane! I just want to shake them and say "you didn't even hear the full freaking story, you idiot" - *sigh* *Ok, stepping down off the high horse* sorry. :)
PS-- You did ask my opinion on this topic, right? Just checking.. LOL
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