Obligations (19)
No obligation at all
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Personally, I would have to say something. I think it would be the right thing to do. JMO.
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Stay away......don't know anything about what he does or who he sees.....don't really care.
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Well I didn't say anything for a couple of reasons. Never had an opportunity to run into her or them but even if I had, I doubt I would say anything.
Does that make me selfish?
Does that make me selfish?
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don,t think it does,,it makes u wise,,,as you would probably be laughed at,,i mean if she asked why u had split up,,surely if he wanted her to know he would have say,,best left alone,,as i think you would be the one,left annoyed by their attitude and maybe reaction
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i'd mind my own business
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Assets, I don't think it makes you selfish. I'd probably not want to say anything either, BUT...if anything bad happened to her, I'm not sure if I could live with myself for NOT telling. Was he mildly abusive or extremely abusive? If he ever came close to killing you, then I'd definitely say something. If she laughed me of, at least I could sleep at night, if he DID do anything to harm her. Ya know? 
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the worst damage he did was punch me in the mouth hard enough to knock some teeth out ....
and eventually he broke my spirit but I fixed both
Now I hear about some of what she is going through and it makes me feel selfish for not trying to warn her. Likely she would not have listened anyway .... right?
and eventually he broke my spirit but I fixed both
Now I hear about some of what she is going through and it makes me feel selfish for not trying to warn her. Likely she would not have listened anyway .... right?
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You can not even classify someone who does that as a man, May the 
take them and shove large objects up their A@@.
You are most likely right she would not have listened so it's not your problem.
take them and shove large objects up their A@@. You are most likely right she would not have listened so it's not your problem.
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Even if you were to have told her, she would have probably been still hung up in the honeymoon period to take any notice to your warnings. You would have been look at as a bitter ex probably.
If you know she is going through the same stuff now that you have dealt with, well more fool her for not leaving already, warning or not.
If you know she is going through the same stuff now that you have dealt with, well more fool her for not leaving already, warning or not.
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You are sooo right.
I tried to warn his new love interest just because she was a friend of a friend of mine... she didn't listen... or maybe she didn't care.
Now she knows all too well.
I don't feel even one bit guilty, I tried to warn her, what more can one do?
I tried to warn his new love interest just because she was a friend of a friend of mine... she didn't listen... or maybe she didn't care.
Now she knows all too well.
I don't feel even one bit guilty, I tried to warn her, what more can one do?
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Very good point 
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Well in my case, the police pressed charges against him ... making so that if anyone else ever called the police for protection from him, he would automatically go to jail. I emphasized that to him as clearly as I could ... not sure if it sunk in.
I decided at that time, that was the best I could do to help other women in his life.
Thanks for you thoughts. They do help
I decided at that time, that was the best I could do to help other women in his life.
Thanks for you thoughts. They do help
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I would say something
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I would tell though ya probally won't be believed.The new woman always thinks the old woman says things to be vindictive or just because they want the a**hole back.but at least you'll have a clear concience and a chuckle at the police blotter..
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If she's gettin' a taste of it - and time has gone by since your split up - why not.
I talked to the ex of my ex - long after the my split up - and we found we experienced
and suffered 
under the same jeallous behavior 
I talked to the ex of my ex - long after the my split up - and we found we experienced
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Well, in my opinion, unless you like drama in your life, stay out of it! You have to ask yourself this, "Did anyone warn you?". You may just be creating more of a problem for yourself by getting involved!
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Honey, word of advice..you can't come between a man and a woman..and if he did it to you in time he will do it to her. When two people first meet, remember how hard it is to believe anything "bad" about the other person?? He can be the biggest SOB alive, but if you tried to tell her that she would more then likely think you were:
1.) A nutcase
2.) Jealous
3.) Trying to stir up problems (remember they are experiencing bliss for this short time)
4.) The woman probably would laugh in your face
Let her find out what it took you time to figure out. There will come a time more than likely where she will be anxious to talk to you when he beats her and she needs some answers..you can tell her then, when she's more prepared to listen and be receptive.
1.) A nutcase
2.) Jealous
3.) Trying to stir up problems (remember they are experiencing bliss for this short time)
4.) The woman probably would laugh in your face
Let her find out what it took you time to figure out. There will come a time more than likely where she will be anxious to talk to you when he beats her and she needs some answers..you can tell her then, when she's more prepared to listen and be receptive.
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