Long Distance Relationships. Why men have the women come to them instead of vice versa? (35)
blackneckbaby14 Threads 356 Postsoh yeah another thing he has never been married forgot to mention that LMFAO
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I hear ya about having the person physically there to see if the 2 of you click or not but in all reality it still takes time getting to know someone to. I think thats where talking by e-mail instant message on the phone or what not comes into play where you can get to know them a little more before planning on meeting for the first time.
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eaglo I'd like to know what your calling stupid?!?
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LMAO then I guess he's not my ex-hubby...hehe
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ROTFL *WHEW* hehehe
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WELL I MET A MAN IN A DIFFERENT COUNTRY, AND HE IS THE BIGEST SWEETHEART, AND HE IS EXACTLY WHAT I NEED. BUT I AM NOT WILLING TO LEAVE MY HOME. HE SAYS HE WOULD BE WILLING TO COME TO ME, BUT I CAN NEVER BE SURE.
I GUESS ITS A MATTER OF IF YOU ARE WILLING TO GIVE EEVRYTHIG UP FOR THIS MAN. BUT CHOOSE WISELY. MY MOTHER MOVED ACROSS THE COUNTRY WITH A MAN, AND SEPERATE AND ENDED UP COMING BACK. BE CAREFUL, AND GOOD LUCK!
I GUESS ITS A MATTER OF IF YOU ARE WILLING TO GIVE EEVRYTHIG UP FOR THIS MAN. BUT CHOOSE WISELY. MY MOTHER MOVED ACROSS THE COUNTRY WITH A MAN, AND SEPERATE AND ENDED UP COMING BACK. BE CAREFUL, AND GOOD LUCK!
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Did you have to yell across the ocean at him...?
(PS...kill the caps lock!)
(PS...kill the caps lock!)
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I have travelled to meet someone before. I drove all the way to Tenn from NH and killed my car.......well, blew the head. She wasn't what I thought as she didn't tell me about the oxygen tank in the center of her mobile home with a plastic tube long enough to reach either end.
One woman insisted on coming here from Vt to meet me. Another not quite my type
I met one who was going to be in the area for a symposium or some such at the University of NH anyways. She was a child psychologist and we met as friends, nothing more.
The last one was just over a year ago, I payed for her to fly out here. This was our first face to face after we had been talking for over two years. Because of time at my workplace I only get ten days vacation a year and those cover the plant shutdowns, 4th of July week and xmas/New Years. We actually hit it off and it was hard when it came time for her to leave. Because her father had cancer, she had to return. After his death, she disappeared from the net. When I spoke to a friend of hers and her g-daughter, what I was hearing wasn't good. She didn't want to deal with anything or anyone, including me. I waited two months before I gave up and came in here.
The next one I think I may travel to see. It's been a long time since I have really gone anywhere outside of NH
One woman insisted on coming here from Vt to meet me. Another not quite my type
I met one who was going to be in the area for a symposium or some such at the University of NH anyways. She was a child psychologist and we met as friends, nothing more.
The last one was just over a year ago, I payed for her to fly out here. This was our first face to face after we had been talking for over two years. Because of time at my workplace I only get ten days vacation a year and those cover the plant shutdowns, 4th of July week and xmas/New Years. We actually hit it off and it was hard when it came time for her to leave. Because her father had cancer, she had to return. After his death, she disappeared from the net. When I spoke to a friend of hers and her g-daughter, what I was hearing wasn't good. She didn't want to deal with anything or anyone, including me. I waited two months before I gave up and came in here.
The next one I think I may travel to see. It's been a long time since I have really gone anywhere outside of NH
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Mike, great advice and put in a way everyone should be able to understand...good job...I'm sure someone can use it.
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Hey there - yes I've had long distace realtionships. Way long distance, all the way from Europe to the US. Twice. When it comes to visiting my girl, it's always been me coming to her.
When it comes to moving, I'd also move to her or with her to some other place. Just my exp.
About your recent exp., perhaps your guy but also you over-reacted. Maybe he meant it just like "hey, in case we'll want to live together, would you move to my location?". Perhaps that's very important for him and he'd rather be true about it and sort it out right away and see how you react, rather than spending time with a relationship and in the end it'll fail because of such and issue. I know how it is to give everything for a relationship and then being turned down (in my case, each time after two years).
My first post, I thought I'd reply because I've been thinking about this also and in a way had experience with it.
When it comes to moving, I'd also move to her or with her to some other place. Just my exp.
About your recent exp., perhaps your guy but also you over-reacted. Maybe he meant it just like "hey, in case we'll want to live together, would you move to my location?". Perhaps that's very important for him and he'd rather be true about it and sort it out right away and see how you react, rather than spending time with a relationship and in the end it'll fail because of such and issue. I know how it is to give everything for a relationship and then being turned down (in my case, each time after two years).
My first post, I thought I'd reply because I've been thinking about this also and in a way had experience with it.
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i had found it to be both ways. some asked me to come there, others asked to come here to me...i guess i really couldnt say for sure because id go anyhwere, move anywhere for the right person, i adapt well to change so i think that helps a lot...when i decide to go for it, i just jump, no looking back and id rather have some pain than to say i didnt give it a go! what ifs can be just as bad as oh wells...
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Is there something wrong with me here? I would be most comfortable at least meeting the first time to meet someone half way. That way he and she has made an investment of time, money, risk into what could happen from there. I don't believe equality to the point of sharing bathrooms, but in our day and age I believe couples should meet each other half way in just about everything. It shows a willingness to open yourself up,and proves to the other person you believe they're worth the same risk they're taking for you.
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well said peaches totally agree with you on that statement.
--Mari
--Mari
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I would NEVER go to meet a man. He's got to come to me. Safe territory!! If he's really interested, he WILL come to you.
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