feeling guilty (24)
I know how u feel but you made the right choice.
If you're going to have a better overall gain therE's no reason for u to not move on.
If ur present boss really wants to keep you let him match the offer if ur willing to stay there.
I know u've worked hard to get where you are...go for it and don't look back....u deserve it.
Hugs
BB
If you're going to have a better overall gain therE's no reason for u to not move on.
If ur present boss really wants to keep you let him match the offer if ur willing to stay there.
I know u've worked hard to get where you are...go for it and don't look back....u deserve it.
Hugs
BB
Hi Karen,
I went through a simliar thing in the springtime..we had like 8 or 9 full time nurse positions open..because of so much overtime etc nobody wanted to apply for those jobs...and I was soo burnt out from working so much..then a part time three quarter time job opened and I wrestled with it.....my dedication to my work....balanced with my current health issues..and desperately trying to balance haveing a life outside of work...I decieded to go for it..and couldnt be happier since the middle of June being part time...has meant financial changes...but in realizing this though...if we dont take care of ourselves and act in our own best interest...no one will....dedication and commitment are important for sure...but you deserve the best and opportunity and all of that....allow yourself a bit of time to feel the sadness or guilt whatever you feel as you close this chapter and move on to the next....
I for one, congratulate you..wish you the best...and hope you soar in your new job! 
I went through a simliar thing in the springtime..we had like 8 or 9 full time nurse positions open..because of so much overtime etc nobody wanted to apply for those jobs...and I was soo burnt out from working so much..then a part time three quarter time job opened and I wrestled with it.....my dedication to my work....balanced with my current health issues..and desperately trying to balance haveing a life outside of work...I decieded to go for it..and couldnt be happier since the middle of June being part time...has meant financial changes...but in realizing this though...if we dont take care of ourselves and act in our own best interest...no one will....dedication and commitment are important for sure...but you deserve the best and opportunity and all of that....allow yourself a bit of time to feel the sadness or guilt whatever you feel as you close this chapter and move on to the next....
I for one, congratulate you..wish you the best...and hope you soar in your new job!
I'm sure you've heard this before but, you gotta look out for #1. It's your career, you decide where it leads you. You may never get the chance again, and based on what you have been saying you would eventually burn out with all the overtime.
I know it will be hard to tell the boss, but, you have to do what you have to do.
Good luck and all the best.
I know it will be hard to tell the boss, but, you have to do what you have to do.
Good luck and all the best.
Karen, that is really good news. It shows that you are a caring person to be so worried about the people you'll be leaving behind. I bought a lottery ticket and if I ever won, I'd be forced to give my notice...they'd notice that I'm not there.
You know it's a no brainer here but cudos to you for feeling sorry. If you don't take it, I don't want to here you whining about things you can't afford.
I just want you to buy me a beer.
You know it's a no brainer here but cudos to you for feeling sorry. If you don't take it, I don't want to here you whining about things you can't afford.
I just want you to buy me a beer.
Thanks everybody. I know lloking out for #1 is top priority as is being able to buy a beer once in awhile
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I think the tough part is that I am not dissattisfied with my current position, and IF I put in the time - I will move up. When I give my notice (which won't be for a couple weeks, I have to pass an exam first) it will be a hard thing.
. I think the tough part is that I am not dissattisfied with my current position, and IF I put in the time - I will move up. When I give my notice (which won't be for a couple weeks, I have to pass an exam first) it will be a hard thing.
And by putting in the time at the new place u'll move up all the quicker.........go for it and no regrets
Sounds like your boss has not taken the responsibility of hiring another worker (when this lady was pregnant) seriously. Its not your responsibility to run his business with enough staff in place - its his choices that are making it difficult to find someone (ie. not enough advertising or being aggressive in hiring practices). I bet when you leave ... he'll be finding someone ASAP (even a temp.) to get the job done and he'll be paying alot more money because of his poor planning.
The same thing has been happening in my part-time job. Staff has left, but there has been no incentive to keep people (ie. days off when requested/better wage increases); and a few girls that have been hired have found something better before they even begin work. So the manager is struggling with staffing etc.; so while I have compassion for her situation - it could be resolved by being more flexible with work schedules, and better pay but the company doesn't see this as a solution.
You have to do what is best for yourself and your family .... so celebrate your new job.
The same thing has been happening in my part-time job. Staff has left, but there has been no incentive to keep people (ie. days off when requested/better wage increases); and a few girls that have been hired have found something better before they even begin work. So the manager is struggling with staffing etc.; so while I have compassion for her situation - it could be resolved by being more flexible with work schedules, and better pay but the company doesn't see this as a solution.
You have to do what is best for yourself and your family .... so celebrate your new job.
Thanks Rune
Don't feel bad - you deserve it!!
C O N G R A T U L A T I O N S!!!!
When is the party!!! 
C O N G R A T U L A T I O N S!!!!
When is the party!!! Taz,
I tend to lean towards what Jen said.........same thing happened to me
I have been at my present job, well, it will be 13 years come this February....the pay was always crappy but I stayed cause my mom convinced me to.......safe, secure, money is always on time, close to home, blah blah.......
then when my mom passed, I hit a difficult financial time and honestly, was offered a job (thru one of my brother's clients) for about $10,000.00 more per year......I pondered on the thought and was raring to go and take the leap of luck!
but then, as you, I thought of my boss......and he too said that if I ever left, he would be totally screwed......
He ended up being a close second to my offer, I got a gas card and three weeks holidays paid and 20 sick days or personal days off......and full benefits.......
whereas before this, I was just getting a paycheck and PAYING for my benefits!
sometimes it pays to talk to your superiors, most especially the owner (that is your best bet)
If you LOVE your job (most of the time) then I say talk......and see results INSTANTLY........
and if you don't, say SAYANARA..........AND TAKE THE LEAP!
good luck to you Taz..........with whichever choice you make!
Rose
I tend to lean towards what Jen said.........same thing happened to me
I have been at my present job, well, it will be 13 years come this February....the pay was always crappy but I stayed cause my mom convinced me to.......safe, secure, money is always on time, close to home, blah blah.......
then when my mom passed, I hit a difficult financial time and honestly, was offered a job (thru one of my brother's clients) for about $10,000.00 more per year......I pondered on the thought and was raring to go and take the leap of luck!
but then, as you, I thought of my boss......and he too said that if I ever left, he would be totally screwed......
He ended up being a close second to my offer, I got a gas card and three weeks holidays paid and 20 sick days or personal days off......and full benefits.......
whereas before this, I was just getting a paycheck and PAYING for my benefits!
sometimes it pays to talk to your superiors, most especially the owner (that is your best bet)
If you LOVE your job (most of the time) then I say talk......and see results INSTANTLY........
and if you don't, say SAYANARA..........AND TAKE THE LEAP!
good luck to you Taz..........with whichever choice you make!
Rose
Congratulations I would also think of what is best for you, no one is taking care of you except "yourself" I do understand being treated well with respect and appreciated makes it that much harder to make a decision
COngra
WB Dawn, I was worried you had gone for good!! so good to see you!
so good to see you!God I hate this...I can't say anything until I pass this test (writing on Monday) So today I'm having lunch with my senior and junior underwritirs. Seniors talking about how in the next year I will be getting trained as a junior...I just smile and nod...... and know how upset she will be (she'll be happy for me but upset she's losing her assistant - cause she loves me of course - I am the greatest 
)
Then I have to pick the time ad place to tell her.
)Then I have to pick the time ad place to tell her.
awwwww hugs Karen
Thanks Jayne - how are you feeling these days, any better?
Had full assessment today...will be off work until end of septmber
You're doing great Taz.....and u'll ace it.
Chins up
Jayne......
Chins up
Jayne......
Awwww that is only because you are human and even though you did get a better job you still want the best for your old job and boss.
But as you said. If it means better opportunities and benefits with this new job then you did the right thing and I am pretty certain that if this was your boss in your shoes. He/She would have done the same exact thing without hesitation. Just remember that. Its life and you have to do what is best for you and your family.
Good luck with the new job!
But as you said. If it means better opportunities and benefits with this new job then you did the right thing and I am pretty certain that if this was your boss in your shoes. He/She would have done the same exact thing without hesitation. Just remember that. Its life and you have to do what is best for you and your family.
Good luck with the new job!
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I went for a job interview this morning, (as the hiring manager said it was only a formality) I accepted it, much more money - they gave me what I asked for plus it's closer to home - don't have to pay for parking and lot's of room for advancement. Smaller office, very family orientated, perfect fit...
but........................
I feel horrible because where I am now - we are already down two girls, (one's on mat leave and one leaves next week) and they are having trouble finding replacement. Just last week my boss says to me "If you go I'm screwed". I'm the only one doing any overtime. He has no idea I was even thinking about it. I wasn't thinking about it but when an opportunity presents itself - you at least listen. It's coming up on year end and he will be screwed.
I know I have to do what is right for me and my family but still feel bad.