Are married people more confident? (19)

I was in a situation today and now I ask the question to you good folk.

Do you think a married person is more confident than a single person?


Would like your thoughts.

Interesting question there Lou....

So many angles to it - some married people are happy; some aren't and pretending to look happy; same with single - at the end of the day if you aren't a whole person as the person you are on your own two feet as in confident, independent, self sufficient, happy etc and preferably in a single state before making any big commitments then if low self esteem etc, unconfident as a single person then getting married wouldn't necessarily make you change. As in you can't rely on another person to "complete" you.

What are your thoughts Lou.

sould watch when i type fast too many errors.



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I won't go into detail, but it was between myself and a school Mum today. She said "oh don't invite her, she is a single mum so she is not confident enough because she's single" (she was talking about me and yes she said single TWICE!)

This invite was for a play date with some of the kids.

It really pissed me off so I said so. If I wasn't confident, wouldn't I have just stayed quiet? hmmmmmmm weirdo.

It just annoyed me as she doesn't know me at all and made such a huge assumption and the scenario has been on my mind ever since.

If I was married, I would still be the same as I am now. I don't need a man to give me a confident boost. I also don't need a man to keep me quiet and hidden either.

Thanks for the replies

Sorry you experienced that from a school mum who doesn't know you and has no idea.

Sadly many people pigeon hole individuals like a class structure whether different race, marital status, type of work one does etc etc and not take people for who they are as a person.

You are very fortunate to not have her in your life.... just sad children are roped into it and lose out on play mates because of some of the grown ups heartless ideas and comments.

I wouldnt have been able to bite my tongue had she said something to me direct like that - she would have copped an ear full and she probably jealous more than likely and afraid you will take her man away or some stupid notion like that - sounds like she needs a good root just quietly

Alright Lou. i want names. where does she live? just kidding... and also if a guy stepped in it would detract from your level of respect. This lady seems like the type of woman that the c word isn't even strong enough for. Confidence is always a tricky thing to determine with some people. Although Margaret thatcher has been quoted saying" if you have to tell people you're confident, you aren't" that ironhearted saucy old bat lol anyway i'm prattling on here> i;d say most likely that this woman knows you're confident and is intimidated by you because you;re making decisions without a safety net. if not well then she's simply just a BIIIAAATTCCHH!

Hi Lou,
You have mistaken the word CONFIDENCE with EGGSHELL THIN CATTY ARSEHOLE. bet she wore designer geans with high heels and drove a Torac Tractor---Poor woman, should have given her the bird,

Insert the word SUPERFICIAL after CATTY, yes much better