why do good men finish last ( Archived) (14)

can anybody tell me y women dont like a good man.

I don't know about those women you are talking about. But I have always appreciated and respected a good man!

If your speaking from your own experience it just means that you havn't found the right one who respects you for who you are yet and that she is just arround the corner.

And also Welcome to CS! Everyone here is wonderful!

Tracy :o)

I'm with you Tracy...who wants to play with bad boys who have played the field so much, they don't know which base they're on anymore....

thanks mabe she is i guest i have to wait 4 her

so tracy how do u know if u have the right one.

Willi let me tell you my life story:

I have always been the perfect gentleman, never insulting, hurting or cheat on a woman. So why did I spend half of my life giving flowers, being the perfect gentleman with nothing but the cold sholder? Well I use to think it was becasue I was ugly. Not that I'm that good looking but that's another story.

The question we cannot answer is...What does it mean when a woman says,"I am looking for a gentleman that will love me and take care of me". Or can we.

I mean I have said the nicest things to women that I can possibly think of so why no response?

Well women hear this stuff everyday. If you approach someone and say,"Hey I want to screw you", or "Hey can I buy you a drink"? Obviously to us one is rude and the other is our gesture for being nice....

But a woman sees it the same....You find her attractive and want her. I mean why else do we approach them? Because we think they are attractive and would like to get to know them.

So with that I have found a way to be the man they want besides the looks but hey Rome wasn't built in a day.

So mail me and I will tell you.

so y do all good woman always end up hurt
?

One more about the whole right one thing.


We can be with someone for 40 years happily right. In that 40 years nothing could be better and one day one decides to cheat or ask for a divorce.

Why is this? We're soulmates right?

Soulmate smolemate.

Relationships work due to the fact we bust our butts to make it work.

People base a soulmate off one's actions and personality. They think this person and I are exactly alike so they are my soulmate.

Well for anyone that has lived a normal life knows we go through alot of changes as we get older.

Now some are for the better and sometimes we go through changes that our partners don't care for so much.

Here is where the hard work comes in.

You have to start communicating to let the other know how you feel because we don't realize we go through these changes since it is a gradual process.

I was with my high school sweetheart for 13 years. I was 16 when we met. we were perfect, had the best communication you could imagine. Then a few years ago I went overseas, came back and we lost it over time. We fell apart and there is no one to blame but us and our lack of communication.

Could I see us together forever? Hell yea but we lost because of ourselves not becasue we weren't ment to be together.

I now realize it's because of how we interact, communicate and except our own faults.

This is the only way you will ever last forever.

Trust
Love
Respect
Communication

When one is lost all is lost. There is no and'ss, if's or but's about it.

Besides who wants to give credit to the so called SOULATE thing for all your hard work and dedication in a relationship?

I don't and will not.

there are stages in all things. maraige, and relationships alike. There will be long periods where thigs don't go right...blah blah...

But, if you look back in history, yo'll see getting through those aweful times brings a new respect for each other. It's when one refuses to work through that hard -- and I mean confusing, hard growth!-- as you said , won't work.
But, be sure you know yourself enoug that won't work doesn't really mean too hard...too scared...too boring...

make sense? lol