cristinaOPLisbon, North Holland Netherlands17,243 posts
because we are so different"... a guy told me this.
What do you when someone tells you this?Please be sincere, tell us about your experience and not what is politicly correct.What's the tendency?
You wanna make him/her fall in love with you because you wanna be loved?Or you accept you both are different and forget about the attraction you have for him/her?
You can't make someone fall in love with you. If that were possible these sites wouldn't exist. Maybe he's paly it off cause he really doesn't want a realtionship. Opposites attract, no doubt on that. However, I have found, you need some common ground, some similar interests. I've also found that being older, you may need or want more similarities in your partner. I say let it flow, time will tell.
Thats so true wizzie.....but its what your heart is telling you as I think you do know the answers....If you just want to be loved, you must love yourself first and then the rest falls into place...why settle for 2nd best because of your fear of being alone, You are a good person, take time out to think what is best for you.....
It would depend on what context he was saying you are different. If it is subtle differences then that is OK, but if it is something profound then that would be an issue. Profound differences are something that the two people would need to discuss in depth and see if they could work past those differences. Some differences are not able to be overcome such as a partner doesn't want to marry and you do, doesn't want children you do...etc, etc.
You can't MAKE anyone fall in love with you because everyone has free will. You can do things to "entice" someone and make yourself look more appealing, but if you are only doing this to impress the other person and it's not who you truly are then you are lying to both yourself and your partner, deception never works.
cristinaOPLisbon, North Holland Netherlands17,243 posts
Very nice words bnd!
I believe you are right. Actually we are different. And we need similarities when time passes.I feel he is different, yes, and he is right wanting to pull out actually. Thanks bnd!
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What do you when someone tells you this?Please be sincere, tell us about your experience and not what is politicly correct.What's the tendency?
You wanna make him/her fall in love with you because you wanna be loved?Or you accept you both are different and forget about the attraction you have for him/her?