Let us say, you have been friends with a gal for a long time.
The friendship borders on having some pretty open flirtations (including friendly touching and hugging), sharing of lots of personal thoughts including love life details and we also have a great deal of same mentality and life outlook. We click on many levels, she is great company and a laugh.
I like her alot and wish to break this friendship barrier for more, but she seems to shy/back away, when making next-step offers, so I back off.
Its pretty confusing as her signals are pretty mixed and she manages to tie me in knots emotionally. Am sure she likes my personality and enjoys herself with me, but ...
bluebabsiecambridge, Cambridgeshire, England UK4,836 posts
hi hinni ....mmmm difficult one but id just stay cool ..like you are now let her make the first move .....but kinda say how u feel to her me thinks cause she might be feeling the same way !! hope that hasnt totally confused ya babe ......good luck anway if its mean to be it will be xxbabsie
You might try sending her a hand written, romantic greeting card.....with your thoughts written on the inside. This gives her a chance to understand how you feel, without it being a face to face thing. It's just a thought.
Hey man, she is your best friend isnt it? tell her that one of you friends is in such a situation(its actually you) and he wants help and you want to know her opinion on this. Maybe she gets the clue or you'll know what's in her mind..
Have simply tried to talk to her about this? I mena what is this next step you are speaking of? Are you talking about a committed relationship, of are you trying to get in her pants?
Ummmm....we grab each other by the hips briefly...hands touching when making a point during a conversation...getting very close, when we walk or stand next to each other on purpose....get the idea??
Thought it was worldwide practice not just in Belgium
One more food for thought, do you notice that when flirting occurs the females touch their hair for example, stroke it length wise. The tend to do everthing longitudinally. And men on the other hand, if they play with their hair, they dont stroke it length wise but actually circle it, I mean curl it. Female special goes length ways and the male species go the circular ways. Do you know why? It has some genetic hard wiring reason for this...
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The friendship borders on having some pretty open flirtations (including friendly touching and hugging), sharing of lots of personal thoughts including love life details and we also have a great deal of same mentality and life outlook. We click on many levels, she is great company and a laugh.
I like her alot and wish to break this friendship barrier for more, but she seems to shy/back away, when making next-step offers, so I back off.
Its pretty confusing as her signals are pretty mixed and she manages to tie me in knots emotionally. Am sure she likes my personality and enjoys herself with me, but ...
Any ideas or anyone in this situation before?