Can any of you ladies out there explain this email 2 me please!!!!! ( Archived) (27)

I totally agree with you Tattooed I was in the same situation with an ex not long ago, and she would call me talking about everything but us... You got her pegged

This girl is a very confused person. She is having "buyers remorse" and she feels badly for doing what she did and if she has any kind of heart in her body, she regrets it even though she may have thought it was the thing to do at the time. She is having regrets and by staying in contact with you, this leaves the door open for future contact and thereby alleviating some of her own guilt and personal accountability, perhaps. Without knowing how or who she is, it is extremely difficult to determine what exactly her motivations are and pass on a judgement as to what she hopes to accomplish.

I don't know how long it has been for you since this whole situation occured, but time and space are what you need to give yourself a clear perspective on this situation. You not only lost the woman you obviously still love but are mourning the loss of your child as well. Things like this are a serious emotional blow and reasons surrounding it are sometimes never clear, but you have to learn that what is in the past is just that, past. You have to do what is best for YOU, stop puting her first..this is the only way you can heal from this.

She wants to complain to you about how crappy and one-sided her relationship is with this "new" man. That can be done as both a method of torturing you because you are the last person who wants to hear about the sordid little details of her relationship. She may not even realize but it is very selfish of her to do this to you, if she made a mistake I don't think from reading her email that she has admitted to as much. She has regrets because of what she lost,she will never have closure until she gets the forgiveness she is seeking from you. Prolonging this situation on your part only enables her to hurt you more, and why do that to yourself???

Dear NavyMan:

I'm seeing this pretty much as the others do. I have re-read her email twice. I don't see any mention of you and/or your feelings, except that she shouldn't be bothering you. Go over it again.....see that she is totally engrossed in her feelings.....basically the "bed she made and is lying in".

Judging from this letter, at a time when she could have realized her mistake and asked for your foregiveness and a chance to talk to you, she did not do that. She vented.

I think if you take the time to reason it out, you will discover for yourself that a woman who has already put you through all this, without an apology, is capable of creating more unhappiness for you in the future. I don't think that is what you really want.

My thought? Go find yourself a women who loves you enough to make you a full partner in thoughts, feelings and actions.

Sincerely,
KnittinKitten

Oh my goodness, dont even go there with her.Shes a selfish uncaring woman.She cares nothing for ur feelings and is looking for someone to unload on.Paybacks are rough,and somewhere she will get hers.Sounds like it may already be starting.Dont get in this spiders web again.If she got pg by u what will she do just keep killing ur babies? no one deserves that.Get on with ur life plenty of young ladies are out there looking for the right guy.Good luck.

The only thing I see is alot of regret like maybe she realizes now that it's to late that she screwed up when she kicked you to the curb. Like the old saying "You Don't know what you got till its gone." I think she realizes also that even though she may of been unhappy with you she is even more unhappy now in her new relationship... For some reason she thinks talking to you will get an empathetic response from you.

yeah i agree with langleygirl