TheEnglishmanNewport, Shropshire, England UK520 posts
Mitch..of all things you have written,,this is the only thing I would disagree with. I found that love and loving someone can be anything but a choice..I cannot explain it here,,not enough room..but it can just happen,,all of a sudden,,that girl has some kinda imeasureable "thing"..."quality",,"presence",,in yer life and suddenly,,when she's not there..yer life goes wierd..can't think straight and wish she was there.
Love takes time to grow....... everything else may feel like Love at first...but truthfully it takes time to know someone, and Love can grow from there...and the chemistry that was felt at first grows into a knowing this is the person you want spend a lifetime with, the chemistry still exsists but it is there with much more depth.
It is Love when you have been together for a long time...say 6 months to a year at least and you still cant stand to be a day without them!
Heed to all ..................take your time, Do nothing in haste! let the infatution fade and the Love grow....we all know our emotions can play tricks on us..BUT take the time and travel the 12 inches from your heart to your mind and think about the relationship your in ...think with your mind and decide if your emotions are real.
Infatuation for me is like an illness. An obsession. Where all you do is eat, breath, sleep and think of someone or something. Where you have no control of the situation and need help in my opinion.
Love for me is someone who can love you but also can trust you, have confidence in you, give you your space and respect you as well.
I have dated a man who was infatuated once. I swear I nearly lost my marbles. I couldn't breath or do anything without him breathing down my back and holy clingy!!! Drove me bonkers!! I eventualy just got fed up and told him to take a hike! He obviously had serious issues that needed to be dealt with before getting into any kind of relationship.
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I found that love and loving someone can be anything but a choice..I cannot explain it here,,not enough room..but it can just happen,,all of a sudden,,that girl has some kinda imeasureable "thing"..."quality",,"presence",,in yer life and suddenly,,when she's not there..yer life goes wierd..can't think straight and wish she was there.