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Can any of you out there tell me why it is so difficult to find love and keep it?
Apart from distance, not talking to each other over the phone and one not wanting to see the other, really helps stuff things up. It almost seems impossible because there is no other way, unless you take a flight to where the person you are so madly in love with lives (let this be a warning to you, S.B.).

But what happens when you get there?
You are somewhere you've never been before, but speak the same language. If you watch your back you should be right. I mean walking around over there might be different to what it is over here but the same precautions should be taken.

Where are you supposed to start with your search?
Well if you have nothing to go by than his first name this makes things very difficult. This entire thread is about the difficulties of ...

One thing I always ask myself is why?
Why doesn't he want to meet me yet? Why, why, why. Is he scared for what he might feel when he does. I know how I feel and he knows that too. Why does he ignore my mail for weeks on end. Why do I always end up having to do the chasing. Why ...

Things don't have to go like this do they?
Then things start going pearshaped when he does ignore me. I feel frustrated and start doing silly things. Like for example write things in the Forums like I am doing now. But I don't write rubbish, I don't write things to hurt him, I would never do that to him.

Maybe it's my own stupidity?
Like last weekend I posted some things into the Forums which may have given him the wrong idea. I worry about this and because he won't talk to me and ask what I meant, well that makes the pain all the more unbearable, for the both of us.

I just want him to know, well he knows so I don't have to tell him. Until he tells me what's what I won't give up.

S.B. all I want is for you to tell me honestly, it's over or it's not. I will try to move on but I want to know if we have a future or not and if not why, apart from the obvious. I'm not giving up and nor will I until then.
If you have any doubts about anything, ask instead of making your own assumptions, I thought you knew me better than that. There is nothing you cannot say or ask me and you know it.

Going back to my question, does anybody know the answer.

I find it hard to believe that people can express undying love to someone they meet over the net but have never met face to face. Possibly you are scaring this guy off by such an immediate show of devotion?
Wouldn't it have been better to meet first then see how you get on with each other, without telling the world first? I wish that all works out for the both of you, but don't rush into anything.

Yeah... Last year I met someone on a dating site (online only).. he was really nice and we got on really well.. but I eventually stopped speaking to him because he was totally freaking me out declaring his undying love. I he hadn't been like that.. who knows.

He made me run a mile.

tisk! .. I meant *if he*

Do you think so?

Thanks Daniel I know you mean that.

I am not scaring him off. And your point about telling the world, well you are missing the point. But thanks for saying you hope it works out for the both of us.