LONG DISTANCE LOVE......... ( Archived) (53)

"Yes, great idea!" Otherwise, how will i know if there's any point in doing or not doing so?

Sure why not....I mean you never know...its been known to happen right here...people travel across the country or the world to meet and they end up in love....So whats the point of being on this site if you arent willing to travel?

Yes, great idea...but have a Plan B (and, yes, I would say this). Plan B should be that you are coming to meet me because you (1) want to meet me, but also (2) want to take a trip, anyway, and hopefully you want to see something of the city that I live in. In other words, I would feel really bad if someone came to meet me and we simply didn't hit it off...regardless of whether we both felt no spark or it was only one of us. I would feel bad that the man spent the money and the time and the trip was a complete waste of both. Hopefully, he would have a desire to get out and do things and be able to leave with some positive and memorable experience. In any event, I certainly wouldn't recommend a visit without spending a good amount of time getting to know the person...even from a distance...first.
I have made such a trip, myself. It was by car (a 5 hour drive, so not so terribly far), but I was planning to go to the city where he lived one day, anyway, so it just seemed to fit. I booked a hotel room and set out on my trip. It turned out to be a wonderful weekend...not a love connection, but we became close as friends and still communicate on a fairly regular basis.

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Yes, I know that YOU know what my reasoning was behind booking the hotel room. Good chuckle, though.
Oh, and that reminds me...
In order to REALLY ensure a good weekend for myself, I treated myself to an upscale hotel room overlooking the sea, went to the spa for a pedicure and a massage, and splurged a bit on pampering extras. It made the weekend even more memorable.