Why do men use lame excuses? ( Archived) (51)

Hi Blossom, and glad to have you with us in the forums. If you don't mind my saying so, I don't really agree that what you have brought up is a "lame line;" but that may be because I have experienced that in my life. I have a very dear friend, we have been friends for years, after a rather disastrous (and platonic) attempt at dating as lovers. We truly DO love eachother, and yet we are not "in love." Maybe, whoever said that to you meant it, and you could be letting a wonderful friendship get away by shrugging it off.

Thank you strawberrie and i understand your point and side of that line.

Actually after giving it some thought, I see both points to that line. I can see someone being honest in saying "I love you but I'm not in love with you" but I can also see someone using that as an excuse for a break up not being compleyely honest. Good points brought out on that one.

well i believe the men and women that use them types of excuses are'nt mentally or physically able to commit to a relationship, they probably know they want it but they just cant accept it, or in other words most ppl that use excuses like that are ether afraid of commitment or only out for them selves in getting just what they want,,

its like the old saying why buy a cow when you can get the milk for free.

its things like that , that really makes the world one sides and it then over shadows the good ppl in the world

You are right, crazy, and I do see blossom's view - she was there, so she probably sensed some insincerety or something. I'm sorry for that. Being the eternal optimist, I suppose I was hoping she had a friend there. Pardon me, Blossom, if I was in err. I wish better for you, I truly do.

AS WE GO ON IN LIFE BOTH SIDES DO AND SAY THE SAME THINGS SO WHY IS IT MEN BLAME WOMEN AND WOMEN BLAME MEN NEATHER SIDE CAN HAVE IT THEIR WAY I HAVE USED THE LINES THAT WOMEN HAVE USED AND HAVE HAD THE SAME LINES USED ON ME SO TELL ME PEOPLE WHAT IS THE BIG DEAL .
ISNT IT BETTER TO BE LET DOWN EASY , THAN IT IS TO HAVE SOMEONE SAY YOU SMELL LIKE A WET HOG OR LOOK LIKE THE REMAINS OF AN AFTER BIRTH. THANKS FOR YOUR TIME
I WOULD LOVE TO FIND A WOMAN THAT WOULD JUST TAKE ME AS I AM .

I say that if a man cannot be upfront and honest with a women, then he has no right dating. If they are scared to start a relationship, they must have something in their life that scares them. Come on men lets be honest with the Women!

well I agree that there are alot of lame excuses and they are both men and women giving them

You can also look at this type of excuse as there maybe something he didnt like or wanted and didnt get which is pretty lame since you are attractive. Im trying to find out why women state things in their profiles only to say to me, that they are NOT my type. In what way are you NOT my type. I know Im not perfect, neither is anyone here, but we really have to stand back and look at ourselves and determine, what we really NEED in our lives. I for on e hate the term, "Lets be friends". This person could have just said, Im really not interested in you so please dont call me anymore. I could accept that instead of having it beating around the bush per sai.

Once more, He could have been man enough to tell you why he wasnt ready for a relationship, because not only is he playing with his head he is doing that with you. I dont care myself being sooo analytical, which I do soo much to wonder why women dont chat with me? If you know, tell me. Maybe I stated something in my profile thats messing things up.

Because excuses are lame. Reasons are better.