Last night on toilet.... ( Archived) (82)

I was reading an interview with a female TV presenter (that had lost a lot of weight)

She said that her husband is very affirming ..

she said : The more you tell a woman she is beautiful, then the more beautiful she will become. Someone who is worshipped, looks like a goddess.

I thought howww true (and lovely is that! haha)..

But it made me think of how what we are told, (and what we say to others).. When said enough.. can really make a difference. Good and bad.

When I was married my husband used to tell me how fat and ugly etc I was (i was skinny!) As well as (in his eyes)... crap at EVERYTHING else.

He drummed that into me for YEARS.. and it's absolutely true (IMO) That when you hear things enough.. eventually you believe them.

But it also made me think of how when you tell a child often you love them .. the more loving they become. When you tell them how clever they are.. the smarter they seem to get.


Funny ole things words.. powerful, amazing... and sometimes deadly weapons.


Anywayyyy... then I flushed the loo

heelloo Good Morning !!

We tend to have deep thoughts on the "loo" don't we...


And yes, about 90% of the time I always tell my son I love him...when we speak.

Couldnt agree with you more, I was in a similar relationship and had very low self esteem at the end of it (14 years)
I remember going shopping with my sister about a year after we split up and ran into my ex sister in law, she commented on how much I had changed in the year but my sister pointed out that no I hadnt changed but the real me was back.

Morning Eupho!

Also spare a thought for how many bad things we say to ourselves. We call ourselves fools, klutzes, stupid, fat, ugly, and frequently if someone says something good about themselves we call them conceited, arrogant full of themselves and sometimes get quite insulting.

No wonder people walk around pretending; we live in a world where we cannot even let ourselves be ourselves without some pretty strong effort.

Good thread. thanks.

hi eupho...

from where is this bad stink coming...??

OMG...I could have made this same post.



Thanks Eupho we all need a reminder of how powerful words truly are.

Not quite the same thing, but i used to work with Adults with Learning learning disabilities who for most of there lives had not been allowed to think for themselves because there opinions held no value, or try to anything for themselves because it had been decided for them they would fail.

When my husband tells me, I'm fat and ugly he can look at the door from the outside and watch his stuff "falling"out of the window and hitting the concrete in front of the window.