my question is...... ( Archived) (29)

Choices , our description of ourselves reveal how we percieve ourselves, "Average"??? whats that?? I enjoy this way of communicating, I should not blame anyone, but not willing to take the heat all by myself...We, men and woman are programmed from an early age what is beautiful, and atractive. It is sad, it is probably the only still endorsed discrimination. from media to freinds, employment.

This format of communication can help alleviate that programming of what we like and don't like phyiscally, if we indeed are looking for more than just phyiscal traits.

I know of too many pretty boys that cannot do much of anything else.....posers... they merely dress the roles they want to project.

I use forums like this to look inside the package before opening more or less....but if you are motivated by what onlookers see you with...you deserve all the hurt you get.
just an opinion.

*tips over ocee, grinning wickedly*

Ooohhhh....

Yer gunna get it!

i dont care about what others see when they look at me and my significant other together but i do care about what i see when i look at him....and i dont completely agree with the statements that we are raised from a young age about preceptions of what is beautiful, i was disowned by my entire family for my dating choices, so the preceptions that they tried to show me i guess didnt sink in.

peer pressure is worse than family most times

i dont think that it had anything to do with peer pressure because where i live my choices arent really excepted either, but you do get used to all the stares and whispers...lol

I used to think I could never be attracted to a big guy, my first husband was only 5'7" and smaller stature from the neck down (big head and thick neck.) I had also never been attracted to blond men since one bf in high school. Then I fell totally and very quickly in love with a blond man who was 6'4" and about 250 lbs... and found out I much prefer and LOVE having more weight on me during lovemaking, something about the deeper pressure on my whole body made me get IN my body more, made me feel more present. I also discovered that when bigger men hug me I feel more loved somehow, more enveloped than with a smaller man. It was a cool thing to find out.

My second husband (separated and getting divorced) is 5'9", stocky, muscular, overweight by about 30+ lbs, shorter than I wanted ideally at first, but I was so attracted to his mind and his feelings about things that it didn't matter to me that I wasn't immediately attracted to him physically -- that came later.

I'm also partial to blue or green eyes, and beards, because they bring out the eyes more. *shiver* yum...!

I think we just like what we like, but I have found that I am more attracted to someone physically when I'm in love with them.

Unfortunately, I've also met men in person who I had been emailing and talking with by phone, and thought before we met that there was definitely the potential that I could fall in love with them, but when I saw them in person I knew there was no way it was ever going to happen. Too far out of my inherently wired attraction zone I guess.

Major major disappointment, some really wonderful men... *sigh*

I say never judge a book by it's cover, you never know how good the book is until you get to know it.....and that's either male or female.