Honesty.. are you? (24)
Jan1305: Antcus forgive me for asking but do you think you are a jealous man.
You see, the problem may not lie with your partner, and what she may or may not be doing, (I'm assuming you've been posting from personal experience here), but with you?
I've certainly had moments of ecstasy with my ex husband and ex boyfriends, we all have including you, but at the end of the day these relationships failed for a number of reasons. Why should they impinge on future relationships unless, as I have already said, I'm not over a particular ex and ready to move on with my life?
You see, the problem may not lie with your partner, and what she may or may not be doing, (I'm assuming you've been posting from personal experience here), but with you?
I've certainly had moments of ecstasy with my ex husband and ex boyfriends, we all have including you, but at the end of the day these relationships failed for a number of reasons. Why should they impinge on future relationships unless, as I have already said, I'm not over a particular ex and ready to move on with my life?
Whoops what am I saying!
I meant we have all had moments of ecstacy with our exes not exclusively with mine
Honesty in any relationship is a must. There may be some personal things one does not want to talk about, but not lie about them if the relationship is serious. If one expects honesty from the partner, one should be honest and not play games. If two people share their lives, they should share everything.
However, if the partner is jealous, being honest about the past or lying about it is equally as bad... because he or she will not trust you anyway. And from what I have seen around, a jealous woman is nothing compared to a jealous man!
I would not be able to deal with a jealous man for a moment, and I wonder how many women are being abused by jealous husbands for no reason at all just because they have nowhere to go.
However, if the partner is jealous, being honest about the past or lying about it is equally as bad... because he or she will not trust you anyway. And from what I have seen around, a jealous woman is nothing compared to a jealous man!
I would not be able to deal with a jealous man for a moment, and I wonder how many women are being abused by jealous husbands for no reason at all just because they have nowhere to go.
antcus: Or when their phone rings, and they tell their boyfriend it was from their workplace, or when an ex sms's them, and they say it was their sister or mother. Or when they refuse to show their boyfriend their list of telephone numbers on their mobile? Need I say more? Is this honesty...is this helping their relationship?
here we go again....
why should a man or a woman pry into someone else's phone... gosh, I teach my kids that it's rude to look into someone elses phone or drawers, or bag! if you pry or feel that you have to have a look at who's on the list or what he or she has in his/her bag, then you have (not you personally I hope) a problem..
if there's trust in a relationship there's no need to pry or look or check...., that sounds like controlling, spying and jealousy to me
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I don't know how somebody can be 100% sure, but if this is the case, it still may not be cause for concern. I still receive calls and texts from this jealous ex I mentioned previously even though I ended the relationship a long time ago, they mean nothing to me and I don't reply.
I also receive occasional texts from my ex husband which I do reply to, but there is no romance or anything which should concern somebody I may be dating.
thats perfectly normal Jan, but i think what Antcus is trying to say here: Would you TELL your boyfriend you get those msgs or keep it from him?