Honesty.. are you? (24)
ive been honest to everyone.. id like to think everyone has been honest to me too?? i think they have though, like no one really has any reason to be dishonest on this?? we are all here for the same thing, to meet people.
To be honest is the one thing that is most important in this life. Being honest .... life continues. To lie and deceive, well, the truth will eventually surface.
I have found that only in honesty can we ever bond to anybody... even in a simple friendship.
No matter who, or what you are, you are yourself, and quite unique.....and those who dont like how you are ... well, that is THEIR problem.
I have found that only in honesty can we ever bond to anybody... even in a simple friendship.
No matter who, or what you are, you are yourself, and quite unique.....and those who dont like how you are ... well, that is THEIR problem.
Totally honest,if you,re not please do not contact me.One littlelie and you,re out. I forgave too,too many in the past.
shianne: i would like to know if you all think you are honest to people that you mmet, or does it depend on who much you like them?
and most important are you honest to yourself?
and most important are you honest to yourself?
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Who would have Thunk I'd read it someday at my Ripe Old Age
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smoky: Well .. I am most exceedingly pleasured that what you never Thunked you would Thunk did eventually come to pass......
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shianne: i would like to know if you all think you are honest to people that you mmet, or does it depend on who much you like them?
and most important are you honest to yourself?
and most important are you honest to yourself?
Hi Shianne,We all have heard the quote: 'Honesty is the best policy!'Is it??..always..??
Sure ,it is- when anyone is honest!And sure -it is not when you meet someone else behind a mask of honesty!I don't think I have to be honest to people who play silly games and have hidden agenda,or have 2 or more profiles ,or who are sarcastic and laugh at my honesty!It doesn't mean I am dishonest to them , I try to give them less information about me and when I am sure who they are-I just cut the contact-this obviously means "to be honest to yourself"!It is the most important,honestly...
I can only agree with that!You can say it better than me Smoky but its exactly how I think!
smoky: To be honest is the one thing that is most important in this life. Being honest .... life continues. To lie and deceive, well, the truth will eventually surface.
I have found that only in honesty can we ever bond to anybody... even in a simple friendship.
No matter who, or what you are, you are yourself, and quite unique.....and those who dont like how you are ... well, that is THEIR problem.
I have found that only in honesty can we ever bond to anybody... even in a simple friendship.
No matter who, or what you are, you are yourself, and quite unique.....and those who dont like how you are ... well, that is THEIR problem.
Donau: I can only agree with that!You can say it better than me Smoky but its exactly how I think!
A long time ago I attended a "personal growth" course in a class of 30. We were divided up into groups of 5 complete strangers from differing regions.... no reasons given. After 3 months of working only with each other in our group - being open and honest with our feelings and opinions we found we had all bonded into a strong feeling of friendship, almost like family. Although we fraternised with the other groups they felt like complete strangers compared to us 5.
At the outcome it was explained that only by being honest with each other, not being afraid of being open, do humans actually form a tight bond. Despite scattering to different countries, fifteen years later ... we are all still in touch with each other (well 2 have since died).
As a matter of interest ... one of the 5 had their house burn down, and came to their "group" for immediate assistance (instead of to their family members).... That is the result of the trust developed from being completely honest.
i suppose that i mean about people who are not honest for when they date, do people tell themselves little lies when they met each other to get togeter. do they lie about what they must have in a boyfiend or girlfiend just so they can be with someone for a while.
shianne: i suppose that i mean about people who are not honest for when they date, do people tell themselves little lies when they met each other to get togeter. do they lie about what they must have in a boyfiend or girlfiend just so they can be with someone for a while.
Or when their phone rings, and they tell their boyfriend it was from their workplace, or when an ex sms's them, and they say it was their sister or mother. Or when they refuse to show their boyfriend their list of telephone numbers on their mobile? Need I say more? Is this honesty...is this helping their relationship?
antcus: Or when their phone rings, and they tell their boyfriend it was from their workplace, or when an ex sms's them, and they say it was their sister or mother. Or when they refuse to show their boyfriend their list of telephone numbers on their mobile? Need I say more? Is this honesty...is this helping their relationship?
No, this behaviour would probably destroy a relationship.
However, I had a very jealous ex boyfriend relatively recently who amongst other things, would demand that I show him my mobile numbers and I wouldn't, not because I had anything to hide, but because he was being unreasonable and didn't trust me....or anybody for that matter as it turned out.
Jan1305: No, this behaviour would probably destroy a relationship.
However, I had a very jealous ex boyfriend relatively recently who amongst other things, would demand that I show him my mobile numbers and I wouldn't, not because I had anything to hide, but because he was being unreasonable and didn't trust me....or anybody for that matter as it turned out.
However, I had a very jealous ex boyfriend relatively recently who amongst other things, would demand that I show him my mobile numbers and I wouldn't, not because I had anything to hide, but because he was being unreasonable and didn't trust me....or anybody for that matter as it turned out.
If you knew 100% that her ex boyfriends were calling her and sms' ing her, would you call this distrust in your partner, or would you have a "right" to object for the person's secrecy and dishonesty, because this is what the thread is aiming to target??
Jan1305: No, this behaviour would probably destroy a relationship.
However, I had a very jealous ex boyfriend relatively recently who amongst other things, would demand that I show him my mobile numbers and I wouldn't, not because I had anything to hide, but because he was being unreasonable and didn't trust me....or anybody for that matter as it turned out.
However, I had a very jealous ex boyfriend relatively recently who amongst other things, would demand that I show him my mobile numbers and I wouldn't, not because I had anything to hide, but because he was being unreasonable and didn't trust me....or anybody for that matter as it turned out.
this i agree with you as if someone will ask to see your mobile list they do not trust do and it is not a mettar that you are not being honest it will be that they do not have trust and even if you show them your mobile list they will find something else to not trust to trust
antcus: If you knew 100% that her ex boyfriends were calling her and sms' ing her, would you call this distrust in your partner, or would you have a "right" to object for the person's secrecy and dishonesty, because this is what the thread is aiming to target??
Well I do have a problem with any invasion of privacy particularly because I had an experience with an obsessionally jealous man.
I don't know how somebody can be 100% sure, but if this is the case, it still may not be cause for concern. I still receive calls and texts from this jealous ex I mentioned previously even though I ended the relationship a long time ago, they mean nothing to me and I don't reply.
I also receive occasional texts from my ex husband which I do reply to, but there is no romance or anything which should concern somebody I may be dating.
Jan1305: Well I do have a problem with any invasion of privacy particularly because I had an experience with an obsessionally jealous man.
I don't know how somebody can be 100% sure, but if this is the case, it still may not be cause for concern. I still receive calls and texts from this jealous ex I mentioned previously even though I ended the relationship a long time ago, they mean nothing to me and I don't reply.
I also receive occasional texts from my ex husband which I do reply to, but there is no romance or anything which should concern somebody I may be dating.
I don't know how somebody can be 100% sure, but if this is the case, it still may not be cause for concern. I still receive calls and texts from this jealous ex I mentioned previously even though I ended the relationship a long time ago, they mean nothing to me and I don't reply.
I also receive occasional texts from my ex husband which I do reply to, but there is no romance or anything which should concern somebody I may be dating.
That is what I call "good attitude", but it is not the same with everybody.
I think that every time a woman or man receives a phone call from somebody, or a text message, willingly or not willingly, that person is bound to think that somebody still remembers her or him. Which sets a process in the mind that asks a few questions like....he is still interested in me. Did I do right when I ended the relationship? If this relationship ends, I know where to go. But even if it does not induce these thoughts, it brings back the memory of that person with all the ups and downs of that past relationship. I don't believe that a relationship is ever over. The memory lingers on, and is easily enkindled even by a phone call or text message. Especially those moments of intense extasy, those will never die.
antcus: That is what I call "good attitude", but it is not the same with everybody.
I think that every time a woman or man receives a phone call from somebody, or a text message, willingly or not willingly, that person is bound to think that somebody still remembers her or him. Which sets a process in the mind that asks a few questions like....he is still interested in me. Did I do right when I ended the relationship? If this relationship ends, I know where to go. But even if it does not induce these thoughts, it brings back the memory of that person with all the ups and downs of that past relationship. I don't believe that a relationship is ever over. The memory lingers on, and is easily enkindled even by a phone call or text message. Especially those moments of intense extasy, those will never die.
I think that every time a woman or man receives a phone call from somebody, or a text message, willingly or not willingly, that person is bound to think that somebody still remembers her or him. Which sets a process in the mind that asks a few questions like....he is still interested in me. Did I do right when I ended the relationship? If this relationship ends, I know where to go. But even if it does not induce these thoughts, it brings back the memory of that person with all the ups and downs of that past relationship. I don't believe that a relationship is ever over. The memory lingers on, and is easily enkindled even by a phone call or text message. Especially those moments of intense extasy, those will never die.
Antcus forgive me for asking but do you think you are a jealous man.
You see, the problem may not lie with your partner, and what she may or may not be doing, (I'm assuming you've been posting from personal experience here), but with you?
I've certainly had moments of ecstasy with my ex husband and ex boyfriends, we all have including you, but at the end of the day these relationships failed for a number of reasons. Why should they impinge on future relationships unless, as I have already said, I'm not over a particular ex and ready to move on with my life?
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and most important are you honest to yourself?