How much 'right' needs to have Mrs./Mr. Right? (15)
There is no problem in struggling when it's a potential Mr. right.
Mr. right needs us to become one.
He needs to have his feet on the ground, great sense of discussion, selfconfidence and willing to live well- struggling towards it. I don't go well with pessimists...
Mr. right needs us to become one.
He needs to have his feet on the ground, great sense of discussion, selfconfidence and willing to live well- struggling towards it. I don't go well with pessimists...
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Adam2: This comes out of a yesterdays discussion. Everyone has preferences. So do I.
But on the other hand I realized that my best friends (only two) I wouldn't have found if I only would have checked whether they were a good match. What makes them special and valuable wasn't apparent. The same with girl friends. I must get a click experience but I wouldn't be able to say why or from what this comes.
How firm are you with your criterias. Would you allow a period of experience, or do you sort out at an early stage ?
Would you be open for an imperfect Mrs./Mr. Right?
But on the other hand I realized that my best friends (only two) I wouldn't have found if I only would have checked whether they were a good match. What makes them special and valuable wasn't apparent. The same with girl friends. I must get a click experience but I wouldn't be able to say why or from what this comes.
How firm are you with your criterias. Would you allow a period of experience, or do you sort out at an early stage ?
Would you be open for an imperfect Mrs./Mr. Right?
i do not think i have noticed the discussion you are refering to yesterday (unfortunately) but what you say is true:
We cannot put a frame around what mr/mrs perfect for us would be because we do not know it yet (unless we have met him/her already, but i guess thats of topic here :)) Nor we can predict all his personal attributes and name them. We can naver know the sum of the elements because it is not a math game.
Also, we find mr/mrs right by learning to see her/his imperfections as the perfect supplement for our imperfections. No one is perfect, but for you, mrs perfect will always seem just perfect.
Incedentaly though, i got inspirational yesterday and posted a story, that was an EXACT answer to your question. You can find it under the poetry/quotes/writing section of the intern. forums.
cheers
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Manolito: i do not think i have noticed the discussion you are refering to yesterday (unfortunately) but what you say is true:
We cannot put a frame around what mr/mrs perfect for us would be because we do not know it yet (unless we have met him/her already, but i guess thats of topic here :)) Nor we can predict all his personal attributes and name them. We can naver know the sum of the elements because it is not a math game.
cheers
We cannot put a frame around what mr/mrs perfect for us would be because we do not know it yet (unless we have met him/her already, but i guess thats of topic here :)) Nor we can predict all his personal attributes and name them. We can naver know the sum of the elements because it is not a math game.
cheers
btw; The dicussion took place with friends, yesterday - not in the forums.
My experience is the same. You never know in what way a relationship will be turning out - and even the women can meet your criteria in so many ways.
Okay, never anyone knows what will be. But what is it then; are there any guidelines, is it pure intuition or experience ?
Can there be more trial and error? 
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Manolito: i do not think i have noticed the discussion you are refering to yesterday (unfortunately) but what you say is true:
We cannot put a frame around what mr/mrs perfect for us would be because we do not know it yet (unless we have met him/her already, but i guess thats of topic here :)) Nor we can predict all his personal attributes and name them. We can naver know the sum of the elements because it is not a math game.
Also, we find mr/mrs right by learning to see her/his imperfections as the perfect supplement for our imperfections. No one is perfect, but for you, mrs perfect will always seem just perfect.
Incedentaly though, i got inspirational yesterday and posted a story, that was an EXACT answer to your question. You can find it under the poetry/quotes/writing section of the intern. forums.
cheers
We cannot put a frame around what mr/mrs perfect for us would be because we do not know it yet (unless we have met him/her already, but i guess thats of topic here :)) Nor we can predict all his personal attributes and name them. We can naver know the sum of the elements because it is not a math game.
Also, we find mr/mrs right by learning to see her/his imperfections as the perfect supplement for our imperfections. No one is perfect, but for you, mrs perfect will always seem just perfect.
Incedentaly though, i got inspirational yesterday and posted a story, that was an EXACT answer to your question. You can find it under the poetry/quotes/writing section of the intern. forums.
cheers
but in a way it is a math game in a way, we calculate the odds, we analyze the situation only we don't minus the emotion most times, usually this is where we go wrong in a true answer
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Of course... there is no 'perfect' person, after all.
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Adam2: This comes out of a yesterdays discussion. Everyone has preferences. So do I.
But on the other hand I realized that my best friends (only two) I wouldn't have found if I only would have checked whether they were a good match. What makes them special and valuable wasn't apparent. The same with girl friends. I must get a click experience but I wouldn't be able to say why or from what this comes.
How firm are you with your criterias. Would you allow a period of experience, or do you sort out at an early stage ?
Would you be open for an imperfect Mrs./Mr. Right?
But on the other hand I realized that my best friends (only two) I wouldn't have found if I only would have checked whether they were a good match. What makes them special and valuable wasn't apparent. The same with girl friends. I must get a click experience but I wouldn't be able to say why or from what this comes.
How firm are you with your criterias. Would you allow a period of experience, or do you sort out at an early stage ?
Would you be open for an imperfect Mrs./Mr. Right?
Someone's perfect Mr/Mrs Right could be someone else's imperfect Mr/Mrs Wrong ...
What makes someone Mr/Mrs right is how perfect they are "for us" ...
Something I have heard many times and have come to appreciate the true meaning of is "don't fall in love with someone's POTENTIAL" ... they are either RIGHT (values, education, character, interests, moral sense, emotional maturity, etc) right now ... or they're not!!!
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FlowerOfTheSnow: Someone's perfect Mr/Mrs Right could be someone else's imperfect Mr/Mrs Wrong ...
What makes someone Mr/Mrs right is how perfect they are "for us" ...
Something I have heard many times and have come to appreciate the true meaning of is "don't fall in love with someone's POTENTIAL" ... they are either RIGHT (values, education, character, interests, moral sense, emotional maturity, etc) right now ... or they're not!!!
What makes someone Mr/Mrs right is how perfect they are "for us" ...
Something I have heard many times and have come to appreciate the true meaning of is "don't fall in love with someone's POTENTIAL" ... they are either RIGHT (values, education, character, interests, moral sense, emotional maturity, etc) right now ... or they're not!!!
Meanwhile, I think that actually one doesn't know who is perfect. I only would know what I want. But there are several ways to get there. So far, I think it is more development (and the willingness to let it happen) than hard facts (Potential)what makes a relationship fullfilling. JMHO
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Adam2: Meanwhile, I think that actually one doesn't know who is perfect. I only would know what I want. But there are several ways to get there. So far, I think it is more development (and the willingness to let it happen) than hard facts (Potential)what makes a relationship fullfilling. JMHO
For many years of our lives, you are probably correct on that one ... As one gets older one "learns" at least what doesn't work for us ...
the next best thing to knowing "what kind of person is perfect" is knowing "what kind of person DOESN'T suit us ... process of illimination!!!
?Could be why the divorce and broken relationships rate is so high!!! Everyone is working on the process of illimination!! 
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irishlass45: but in a way it is a math game in a way, we calculate the odds, we analyze the situation only we don't minus the emotion most times, usually this is where we go wrong in a true answer
i agree wholeheartedly with that
and i could add much more just off the tip of my mind, but i already did that yesterday, here:
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Manolito: i agree wholeheartedly with that
and i could add much more just off the tip of my mind, but i already did that yesterday, here:
and i could add much more just off the tip of my mind, but i already did that yesterday, here:
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What a great topic, thanks for starting it! Very enlightening indeed.
My approach now is based on knowledge and experience. I definitely know what I don't want, and I also know that some people click much better than others (compatibility). I also don't think there is only one Mr/Mrs Right possible for us. I know that I'm not supposed to "understand" everyone and not everyone is supposed to like me, so if it really doesn't feel right from the start, I won't waste any time on it. I also find it extremely easy now to say a mental "good-bye" to a person no matter how handsome, tall etc. he is, if I feel he's NOT the right person for me. No regrets whatsoever because I know what I'm looking for.
That said, our best qualities don't necessarily come through immediately. It can take literally months to get to know someone (in a natural way, not by asking 20 questions a day), especially if you've been forewarned to "stay away" from that person or "be careful" around them. (sounds like nonsense but I've had that experience before, good thing I don't form opinions based on someone else's) It may really take time to learn to trust the person and see that they want to be your friend. Then suddenly you discover you do click so well, understand each other (you have all along) and can be a great team.
And, yup, sure I'd welcome an imperfect Mr Right, LMAO, I never claimed I was perfect.
My approach now is based on knowledge and experience. I definitely know what I don't want, and I also know that some people click much better than others (compatibility). I also don't think there is only one Mr/Mrs Right possible for us. I know that I'm not supposed to "understand" everyone and not everyone is supposed to like me, so if it really doesn't feel right from the start, I won't waste any time on it. I also find it extremely easy now to say a mental "good-bye" to a person no matter how handsome, tall etc. he is, if I feel he's NOT the right person for me. No regrets whatsoever because I know what I'm looking for.
That said, our best qualities don't necessarily come through immediately. It can take literally months to get to know someone (in a natural way, not by asking 20 questions a day), especially if you've been forewarned to "stay away" from that person or "be careful" around them. (sounds like nonsense but I've had that experience before, good thing I don't form opinions based on someone else's) It may really take time to learn to trust the person and see that they want to be your friend. Then suddenly you discover you do click so well, understand each other (you have all along) and can be a great team.
And, yup, sure I'd welcome an imperfect Mr Right, LMAO, I never claimed I was perfect.
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AudrysSis: What a great topic, thanks for starting it! Very enlightening indeed.
My approach now is based on knowledge and experience. I definitely know what I don't want, and I also know that some people click much better than others (compatibility). I also don't think there is only one Mr/Mrs Right possible for us. I know that I'm not supposed to "understand" everyone and not everyone is supposed to like me, so if it really doesn't feel right from the start, I won't waste any time on it. I also find it extremely easy now to say a mental "good-bye" to a person no matter how handsome, tall etc. he is, if I feel he's NOT the right person for me. No regrets whatsoever because I know what I'm looking for.
That said, our best qualities don't necessarily come through immediately. It can take literally months to get to know someone (in a natural way, not by asking 20 questions a day), especially if you've been forewarned to "stay away" from that person or "be careful" around them. (sounds like nonsense but I've had that experience before, good thing I don't form opinions based on someone else's) It may really take time to learn to trust the person and see that they want to be your friend. Then suddenly you discover you do click so well, understand each other (you have all along) and can be a great team.
And, yup, sure I'd welcome an imperfect Mr Right, LMAO, I never claimed I was perfect.
My approach now is based on knowledge and experience. I definitely know what I don't want, and I also know that some people click much better than others (compatibility). I also don't think there is only one Mr/Mrs Right possible for us. I know that I'm not supposed to "understand" everyone and not everyone is supposed to like me, so if it really doesn't feel right from the start, I won't waste any time on it. I also find it extremely easy now to say a mental "good-bye" to a person no matter how handsome, tall etc. he is, if I feel he's NOT the right person for me. No regrets whatsoever because I know what I'm looking for.
That said, our best qualities don't necessarily come through immediately. It can take literally months to get to know someone (in a natural way, not by asking 20 questions a day), especially if you've been forewarned to "stay away" from that person or "be careful" around them. (sounds like nonsense but I've had that experience before, good thing I don't form opinions based on someone else's) It may really take time to learn to trust the person and see that they want to be your friend. Then suddenly you discover you do click so well, understand each other (you have all along) and can be a great team.
And, yup, sure I'd welcome an imperfect Mr Right, LMAO, I never claimed I was perfect.
sweet and down to earth as always
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Thank you muchly 
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AudrysSis: What a great topic, thanks for starting it! Very enlightening indeed.
My approach now is based on knowledge and experience. I definitely know what I don't want, and I also know that some people click much better than others (compatibility). I also don't think there is only one Mr/Mrs Right possible for us. I know that I'm not supposed to "understand" everyone and not everyone is supposed to like me, so if it really doesn't feel right from the start, I won't waste any time on it. I also find it extremely easy now to say a mental "good-bye" to a person no matter how handsome, tall etc. he is, if I feel he's NOT the right person for me. No regrets whatsoever because I know what I'm looking for.
That said, our best qualities don't necessarily come through immediately. It can take literally months to get to know someone (in a natural way, not by asking 20 questions a day), especially if you've been forewarned to "stay away" from that person or "be careful" around them. (sounds like nonsense but I've had that experience before, good thing I don't form opinions based on someone else's) It may really take time to learn to trust the person and see that they want to be your friend. Then suddenly you discover you do click so well, understand each other (you have all along) and can be a great team.
And, yup, sure I'd welcome an imperfect Mr Right, LMAO, I never claimed I was perfect.
My approach now is based on knowledge and experience. I definitely know what I don't want, and I also know that some people click much better than others (compatibility). I also don't think there is only one Mr/Mrs Right possible for us. I know that I'm not supposed to "understand" everyone and not everyone is supposed to like me, so if it really doesn't feel right from the start, I won't waste any time on it. I also find it extremely easy now to say a mental "good-bye" to a person no matter how handsome, tall etc. he is, if I feel he's NOT the right person for me. No regrets whatsoever because I know what I'm looking for.
That said, our best qualities don't necessarily come through immediately. It can take literally months to get to know someone (in a natural way, not by asking 20 questions a day), especially if you've been forewarned to "stay away" from that person or "be careful" around them. (sounds like nonsense but I've had that experience before, good thing I don't form opinions based on someone else's) It may really take time to learn to trust the person and see that they want to be your friend. Then suddenly you discover you do click so well, understand each other (you have all along) and can be a great team.
And, yup, sure I'd welcome an imperfect Mr Right, LMAO, I never claimed I was perfect.
Hi Audrys
I can confirm your experience. It takes time to get to know someone. Okay, we don't have always the time. But if there is a basis it might be worthwhile. Just think about how you got to know your todays best friend.
I guess this is somewhat a tricky issue. I realized a switch in my perception of finding a partner. Most of the time I was looking for the ‘perfect match’ (at least what I thought it would be).
Sure, this doesn’t prevent from disappointments or leading the relationship down the tubes. I now think it’s more prospective to find a partner while both have less expectations – means is a less definite Mrs./Mr. Right -, is ready to give a relationship just a start and is willing to give space for development. Of course there has to be the special click experience before.
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But on the other hand I realized that my best friends (only two) I wouldn't have found if I only would have checked whether they were a good match. What makes them special and valuable wasn't apparent. The same with girl friends. I must get a click experience but I wouldn't be able to say why or from what this comes.
How firm are you with your criterias. Would you allow a period of experience, or do you sort out at an early stage ?
Would you be open for an imperfect Mrs./Mr. Right?