Ok...the glass of wine has gone to my head tonight... DRIVEN...got it. Wow, maybe I should just go to sleep. I was thinking something entirely different.
lusciousmile: That 'wanting kids' bit, is on profiles too. I don't think it's inappropriate to ask at any stage of the relationship/friendship, of intentions of making a family, in future ( be it with me or someone else...lol). When a woman asks, doesn't necessarily mean she wants to have a baby, in a 'still fresh' relationship. But, i guess you meant something more serious, like; "take off your clothes and let's make one now ?
I personally want to know ( from the word go), if a man intends to have a family (someday). If he doesn't, then i'm I can be sure that, if it works out someday, i'm only required to talk him into taking me out dancing, not having kids.
Yeah I think it is only fair to be upfront about these things...fundamental things... I don't think it should be a big 'issue' in the early stages though.. it only really becomes an issue if the relationship moves onto the next stage.. the dating stage should be just about fun and getting to know one another I reckon.. U don't really even know what you want initially.... in terms of future with a person.. mixed signals is also a definite no no!!!
Didn't you say that before?? And yet, you're still here having fun. It's addictive. You don't have to admit it, it's ok. You don't have a problem, you don't have to go to a meeting....stay here and play. Make another post....
Aries01: Yeah I think it is only fair to be upfront about these things...fundamental things... I don't think it should be a big 'issue' in the early stages though.. it only really becomes an issue if the relationship moves onto the next stage.. the dating stage should be just about fun and getting to know one another I reckon.. U don't really even know what you want initially.... in terms of future with a person.. mixed signals is also a definite no no!!! Hiya Lusc
Hi girl.
I agree. Honesty in general, shouldn't bother either parties.
Aries01: Yeah I think it is only fair to be upfront about these things...fundamental things... I don't think it should be a big 'issue' in the early stages though.. it only really becomes an issue if the relationship moves onto the next stage.. the dating stage should be just about fun and getting to know one another I reckon.. U don't really even know what you want initially.... in terms of future with a person.. mixed signals is also a definite no no!!!
Aries01: Yeah I think it is only fair to be upfront about these things...fundamental things... I don't think it should be a big 'issue' in the early stages though.. it only really becomes an issue if the relationship moves onto the next stage.. the dating stage should be just about fun and getting to know one another I reckon.. U don't really even know what you want initially.... in terms of future with a person.. mixed signals is also a definite no no!!!
Hiya Lusc
Spot on.
I faced a situation were a girl said she was prepared to compromise. So I thought, ok, sounds reasonable.
Turned out her compromise was to wait a couple of years.
Biological clock and all....late 30's you see.
Well, I understood and saw no future. Happy for her to find her happiness with somebody like minded in that department.
I faced a situation were a girl said she was prepared to compromise . So I thought, ok, sounds reasonable.
Turned out her compromise was to wait a couple of years.
Biological clock and all....late 30's you see.
Well, I understood and saw no future. Happy for her to find her happiness with somebody like minded in that department.
I thought that was reasonable.
Interesting... did this girl mislead initially? ... or was this something you knew about this person from the outset and proceeded regardless.... or was it a complete secret that did not emerge until some time later..
Also from my understanding of women(of which I am one) it isn't actually something they WOULD be prepared to compromise on really...they either want them.. or they don't... Are you sure this person was clear on what ur views were.. were you consistent in the messages you were giving her for example...
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Run for the hills..
You say that now...but I'm really fun! Come to my spider web....