Dating Mistakes (60)
drivenbysound: Are you the type of spider that eats her mate when you've had your fill?
No silly....you eat your mate to GET your fill.
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I stand corrected.. 
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Detente: Clearly this girl was focussed on having kids and was mindful of her age and the mounting difficulties if she allowed too much time to pass.
I kinda needed time to get my feet...to enjoy the whole process. I mean, there's no deadlines, and you can't force it...or so I thought.
I was kinda struck by the clarity offered by her for the original statement of her being "willing to compromise".
I mean, a couple of years? Jeez, what would her attitude be if she weren't be prepared to 'compromise'?
My timeline of 4-5 years was unsatisfactory it seemed.
Oh well...I hope she has her family in a couple of years.
I kinda needed time to get my feet...to enjoy the whole process. I mean, there's no deadlines, and you can't force it...or so I thought.
I was kinda struck by the clarity offered by her for the original statement of her being "willing to compromise".
I mean, a couple of years? Jeez, what would her attitude be if she weren't be prepared to 'compromise'?
My timeline of 4-5 years was unsatisfactory it seemed.
Oh well...I hope she has her family in a couple of years.
I have sympathy for your situation.. benefit of hindsight I guess... had u known her for long beforehand?.. i.e. did u know her attitude (and yours) to the family thing prior to getting involved.... or was that a topic that was just sprung out of the blue.. which if this was the case.. that would obviously be unfair.. I would grant you that
These things.. a bit like religion.. are pretty fundamental... the wisest course would be to not get involved at all I reckon.. u'll know the next time I guess..
Personally if I was clear what another persons intentions were and they didn't conform to mine.. I just wouldn't go there.. I just wouldn't get involved..better to just remain friends.. cause I know it would be doomed from the outset...
Unfortunately though in these kinds of situations.. whether meant or not.. there can be mixed signals and confusions may arise..
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drivenbysound: I stand corrected..
You should probably lie down, it would be more comfortable.
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Aries01: I have sympathy for your situation.. benefit of hindsight I guess... had u known her for long beforehand?.. i.e. did u know her attitude (and yours) to the family thing prior to getting involved.... or was that a topic that was just sprung out of the blue.. which if this was the case.. that would obviously be unfair.. I would grant you that
These things.. a bit like religion.. are pretty fundamental... the wisest course would be to not get involved at all I reckon.. u'll know the next time I guess..
Personally if I was clear what another persons intentions were and they didn't conform to mine.. I just wouldn't go there.. I just wouldn't get involved..better to just remain friends.. cause I know it would be doomed from the outset...
Unfortunately though in these kinds of situations.. whether meant or not.. there can be mixed signals and confusions may arise..
These things.. a bit like religion.. are pretty fundamental... the wisest course would be to not get involved at all I reckon.. u'll know the next time I guess..
Personally if I was clear what another persons intentions were and they didn't conform to mine.. I just wouldn't go there.. I just wouldn't get involved..better to just remain friends.. cause I know it would be doomed from the outset...
Unfortunately though in these kinds of situations.. whether meant or not.. there can be mixed signals and confusions may arise..
Confussion indeed. Had I known what her timeline on children was, I'd have never have gone there. She has a right to enjoy that side of things, but I just wasn't prepared to start a relationship knowing that in about 2 years, she'd be wanting to start a family.
As for other matters, they became superfluous once she finally clarified the above matter.
It seemed to me irresponsible to continue looking into a relationship with her knowing of her desire for children, and within the timeline she had in mind.
So, it was right to end it there and then.
I hope she finds what she's looking for elsewhere.
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kidatheart: You should probably lie down, it would be more comfortable.
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kidatheart: You should probably lie down, it would be more comfortable.
Yes, that would be the gentlemanly thing to do..must be considerate of the knee pain.
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drivenbysound: Yes, that would be the gentlemanly thing to do..must be considerate of the knee pain.
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Ahhhh....young lust!
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Zellarrone1: When they sit there talking about themselves non stop for hours on end or when they turn up dressed in a nerdy fashion
Do not underestimate the sensual lurve magnificence of the nerd!
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Detente: Do not underestimate the sensual lurve magnificence of the nerd!
You do make a valid point The Mr Bean double
that I once ended up on a blind date with was a great kisser. not sure if I thought that because of his rubbery "beantype" lips or because I was paraletic by the end of the night and just THOUGHT he was a good 
Anyway, I never had a second date with him so guess I'll never know the truth
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Zellarrone1: You do make a valid point
The Mr Bean double that I once ended up on a blind date with was a great kisser. not sure if I thought that because of his rubbery "beantype" lips or because I was paraletic by the end of the night and just THOUGHT he was a good
Anyway, I never had a second date with him so guess I'll never know the truth
The Mr Bean double that I once ended up on a blind date with was a great kisser. not sure if I thought that because of his rubbery "beantype" lips or because I was paraletic by the end of the night and just THOUGHT he was a good
Anyway, I never had a second date with him so guess I'll never know the truth
Kissing...I miss a good long snog somethin' rotten.
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evie_girl_fl: I would definitely be gone if he has a mustache and short!
Ooooooh.... is that right sweetie! lol..... i'll remember that! lol... just as well we didnt date just after 'that' pic was taken then, eh? But you can't alwys judge a book by the cover can you hunnee? lol. And as for cellphones on dates... yep that would finish it for me too. In fact it did happen once. Just as well... cuz i would have missed out on you Evie hunnee.. 
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Also from my understanding of women(of which I am one) it isn't actually something they WOULD be prepared to compromise on really...they either want them.. or they don't... Are you sure this person was clear on what ur views were.. were you consistent in the messages you were giving her for example...
Clearly this girl was focussed on having kids and was mindful of her age and the mounting difficulties if she allowed too much time to pass.
I kinda needed time to get my feet...to enjoy the whole process. I mean, there's no deadlines, and you can't force it...or so I thought.
I was kinda struck by the clarity offered by her for the original statement of her being "willing to compromise".
I mean, a couple of years? Jeez, what would her attitude be if she weren't be prepared to 'compromise'?
My timeline of 4-5 years was unsatisfactory it seemed.
Oh well...I hope she has her family in a couple of years.