joemambo Forum Posts (28)

RE: Dating Mistakes

Ooooooh.... is that right sweetie! lol..... i'll remember that! lol... just as well we didnt date just after 'that' pic was taken then, eh? But you can't alwys judge a book by the cover can you hunnee? lol. And as for cellphones on dates... yep that would finish it for me too. In fact it did happen once. Just as well... cuz i would have missed out on you Evie hunnee..

RE: When do u know u have touched by love?

Hmm.. good reply....

Yep dogs are most forgiving companions.... but are found lacking in other areas.... humans more complex but worth the risk. You agree?

RE: When do u know u have touched by love?

I think it's when u can't get enough of that person..... when no matter how busy you are or how tired you are... that person still stays #1 in your heart and mind.
xx

RE: Long Distance Relationships

Well in the old days of writing penned letters and sending photos I';d say you might have a point. However..... with likes of msn and skype and webcams, it's a bit easier to get to know someone, i think. Personally, I would be inclined to disagree that meeting later rather than sooner dooms a LDR.

I'm working on the belief that the first few months are the flirty, lusty, lovey-dovey infatuation honeymoon period. Meeting within that time frame would, in my opinion, lead interested parties to get the hots and do the ole rumpy pumpy thang.... than upn prolonged seperation find they had their wicked way and now realise they really don't LIKE the object of their desire let alone LOVE them. Thus, someone ends up being hurt.

To take this further.,... if the enamoured parties have 8000kms between them and no money to spend on transpacific commuting (referring specifically to my own situation) ... then the Loyal Best Buddie foundation can be laid. So a longer initial sparation could actually be an advantage. This long period should allow for the infatuation to wear off, pretences and guards to drop and the real personalities to show through. Long distance communication and time differences also provide challenges.

If your relationship can survive these challenges then I reckon your relationship survival chances might even be better than some 'conventional girl/boy next door' relationships. Any one agree? I know my fiancee in Florida will agree! Won't ya Evie?!

arranged marriages.

Well I couldnt have put it better myself. I liked your answer and it was pretty much in keeping with my own views. I agree compatibility is fundamental, but like all marriages, acceptance, forgiveness and a strong foundation of friendship is what should hold it all together.... i think. Would anyone agree that one big weakness in relationships is that we expect too much from our partners? Like the so called love is conditional on them living up to how we THINK they should be or thought they were? Like we put them on a pedestal and when we see them as they are, get disillusioned, become disinterested or ultimately... try and change them to conform to what we thought we wanted them to be. If anyone gets a chance to read The Prophet by Khalil Gibran.. do so! Well worth reading, especially for thoughts on love, friendships, marriage and children.

Best wishes

Joe

arranged marriages.

okay.... anyone got/know of experiences of arranged marriages? What makes a good one work? What are the attributes required of both parties to make them work? Just been reading about em and thought it would be interesting to hear more diverse views of what you guys think might be the xfactor in arranged marriages. More importantly... i'm wondering what values you think could make western 'free choice' marriages last better.

RE: LONG DISTANCE LOVE.........

YYYup! And I can hardly wait..... Couldn't have asked for anyone better. And so pleased we decided to follow this thru and not let distance put us off. Can't get enough of ya baby! :) See you in March LBB. xxxxx

RE: SINGLE GEORDIE GUY!!!!

Hey mate... I'm Evie girl's beloved and we met on this site. What part of Newcastle you from? I was raised in Benwell. Been here in New Zealand for 12.5 years. My beloved lives in Florida which is where I'll be heading once we get everything sorted.
All the best mate and hope you find what you lookin for on here.

RE: have you had any luck on the site so far?

Ouch! Sorry to hear that! Don't feel picked on... I had LOADSA luck with Russian scammers! They so obvious from word go, I'm at a loss for words as to how guys get fooled so easy by their letters.... I wrote to a mate in UK on another site and within 4 emails realised we were both being scammed by same Russian lass! So we played em at their own game and made em work damn hard for no money! Again... sorry bout your experience..... not all like that... hope you have better luck next time and find what you looking for!

All the best Joe :)

RE: have you had any luck on the site so far?

Hey Evie mi corazon!

I forgot to add something to my reply..... There is no-one could ever take your place.... you stuck with me now! You gonna love your trip to New Zealand. Beautiful place but sadly lacking without you here. And again to forum guests... my loyal best girlfriend only one for me!

Joe

RE: have you had any luck on the site so far?

To Evie The love of my life. And to all those interested in how we doin.. Thank you Evie for letn em all know I'm da 1. And to all of you..... I simply couldnt ask for a better match. Evie is the most gorgeous knockout lady I could ever hope for. My perfect match. I actually wrote down last year what I wanted in a partner. For once God was payin attention cuz he sent her my way and filled the bill in every single detail and threw in some bonuses. I am sooooo lookin forward to leavin New Zealand to spend rest of my life in Florida with you Evie. Thank you for saying yes!


Love ya heaps

Your loyal best buddie All ways

Joe

Abrazos y besos mi amor y mejor amiga. Te amo

RE: Taken or Not Taken........Which are you?

Thank you! In answer to your qn 2 Evie....no... we havent physically met. but full screen webcam Evie pretty close.lol!given didtance involved and cost of travel... a'date' could be expensive so we talked a good while and decided we had too much goin for us to let this go... so decided to take the punt. Personally, I dated and chatted to plenty but none blown me away to point I'd ask em to marry me without meeting! She is awesome! We tyin knot here in NZ and I lookin at movin to Florida!. Can't wait! Cheers and good luck to you too. Hope you find your match too. All the best...

joe

By the way.... I'm actually English ... from newcastle on Tyne and my dad from Kilkeel, Co.Down. Watch this space! lol!

RE: Taken or Not Taken........Which are you?

Dang! She not above me .. she on prev page!lol! Any way... we met here on CS and we getn married next year!

RE: Taken or Not Taken........Which are you?

So am i and it's the beautiful lady above me that has well and truly taken me. Love ya Evie.

RE: What do we do when we are lonely?

So watch this space folks... I'm goin to Florida if I have to swim there! Aint no mountain high enough.. aint no valley.....

RE: What do we do when we are lonely?

Well I guess i did same as lots of others on here and browsed CS alot and focussed on feeling lonely. Decided that wasn't working so turned attention away from loneliness to music and dancing. Still had the odd look at CS tho. But I pleased i did cuz now one pic I clicked on now has her pic all over my pc screen! even tho she over 8000kms from me hard to feel lonely cuz all I gotta do is have a peek at pc.... some day soon we gonna get together... arent we E?

RE: How do you know when to really trust someone?

Studdering is a warning signal to you? Hmmmm! I know some folk who studder all day every day and they real neat people. .... not up to anything. Some only studder under stressful situations like interviews or dates for example. Some can studder after sleep deprivation, tiredness or following a big party (alcohol involved ) night..... alot to do with brain function/chemistry. Maybe I missed something or have misunderstood you,but not sure I follow your reasoning there.

RE: Does Size Matter

I also heard an American movie director refer to womens' bits as a "Woo-woo"... So what do we get when a wee wee and a woo woo get together?

RE: If the men and women on this site are so lonely why arent more of us getting together

YYYYip! Evie got it right again... It just distance that screws it all up. If we all got together for a record breaking singles night we might iron out all these wee problems. All the babes and hunks we been flirtin with? We meet and greet and then kiss and live happy ever after or run a mile! But.. in my case.... I reckon I wouldn't be running too far.

RE: tell the person you like just how much you like them, you dont have to name names

I know how you feel.... you doin well.... At least you seen your beau. I haven't even met this one yet and she got me hooked. Just that damn South Pacific in the way!

RE: What's your favorite actor ever?

eh? What? Spillin the beans? Not let you see me? Awww.... hunny bunch... you not jealous of that Tamlyn chick are ya? You cut me Evie... you cut me deep! C'mon you know you the only one for me. She just a face on a screen... I'm WAAAAY out of her league! I'm savin myself for someone WAAAAAY more precious...... I just saving to come see you! D'you think a wedding and retirement party on the same day a bit full-on? Too much to plan you think? Okay... We'll stall the wedding til the day after the retirement do!: We might get a discount for officially being senior citizens! You know if I could accomplish one goal it would be to meet you ....don't you! That song i sent ya... mmmmm I just imagining the smooch now!....mmmmmmmm.... You're my hang-up sweetie! Catch ya later.... ! gonna miss ya til then mi corazon!

RE: What's your favorite actor ever?

Action.... Wesley Snipes

Comedy.... John Cleese

Fav actress.... Tamlyn Tomita (Karate Kid 2, Joy Luck Club, Day after tomorrow). She's the babe (on Screen) but I had to tell her she was no good for me cuz she smokes like a burning tyre. She was heartbroken.

Nah... I'll just stick with my fav babe here on CS. You know who you are, don't you _____girl!

RE: WHY do people lie, when you ask a person a simply question.....

Nah... no point in lyin. In my case it all comes down to my handicap. I got a crap memory and I got sick of slippin on my own BS when I forgot which BS I told to who! Likewise with online dating. You can be who you would like to be online but if you do get to meet your date.... you never going to get any peace of mind trying to maintain a charade. You are bound to crack sooner or later. I am pleased to say I got one great mate from CS who's been totally honest with me and it just makes her all the sweeter! Honesty is definitely the best policy. Just another aside, .... it also has alot to do with trust.... it pays to test the water early on and find out how that person is going to view your flaws. Opening up also invites/allows the other to follow suit. If both parties start off guarding and hiding behind masks then anything after that is a city built on sand. So it's warts'n'all up front for me.... if I get the impression I can trust the person. What's the point of continuing if I live in fear of being found out?

RE: meetingsomeone

Mate.... if that who she went off with after you wooed her, look at it this way..... there are times you can thank God you didn't get what you thought you wanted! I been round that block a few times... let me tell you..... keep being 'nice' ...it WILL pay off! The one you REALLY lookin for will appreciate it 100%... yes they ARE out there! I know one who seems to appreciate me being 'nice' and she is SUUUUCH a hunny! There only one obstacle stuffing things up..... It's known as the South Pacific Ocean! Ah well.... que sera sera!

stick to your values mate and stay open!

All the best

Joe

RE: who (from cs) brightens up ur day?

Well..... It's gotta be Evie girl. SWEEEEET AS!

RE: who's the one who lights up your life and makes you feel good inside

Siiiigh..... never even met the lass but she's on here and she knows who she is. Trouble is... cost of gettn across South Pacific not in budget right now...... right... where did I put those swimming trunks? Time to set a new ocean crossing record.

RE: Another Saturday night and I ain't got nobody

Hey, Evie.... you just in the wrong country..... you need to be in Whatawhata, New Zealand.... you know there's just what you lookin for there!

RE: Women first?

As a guy, I reckon it's nice to receive first contact..... I can't suss out EVERYONE on site and i might miss out if she doesn't write! As for waiting game... no worries anymore. No expectation.. no disappointment but pleased when reply arrives. It's only a chance to get introduced really, isn't it?