HELP!! I need some advice from both a male and a female point of view (20)
SueSeeksGent: The sado that I am, I was trawling through the singles websites, perchance to meet "the one", when I came across a profile of a guy who is the boyfriend of a very good friend of mine and they are now living together. He stated on his profile that he was single and looking for Miss Right and that he had viewed the site that same day.
The advice needed is what should I do??????? My initial reaction is to tell my friend, but just wondered what others thought.
I know they are due to go on a well deserved holliday at the end of May with another two close friends and don't know if I should put it off till after that or tell the couple that they are going on holliday with???
Please help I would like to get a male and a female viewpoint and then come to a decision. Thanks to all who reply.
well you could always create a fake profile and catch him that way first lol,,he might be just there for the chat and ego boost without actually meeting other womanThe advice needed is what should I do??????? My initial reaction is to tell my friend, but just wondered what others thought.
I know they are due to go on a well deserved holliday at the end of May with another two close friends and don't know if I should put it off till after that or tell the couple that they are going on holliday with???
Please help I would like to get a male and a female viewpoint and then come to a decision. Thanks to all who reply.
hiya
im on this site now to make friends, but a while back i started dating someone from this site and to be onest it took me a while b4 i relised that i hadnt changed my profile to say to people i have met someone,
so there could be an inocent reason behind it,maybe its just not crossed his mind to change his profile but still comes on to chat to friends, so i would wait untill your 100% sure,other wise it could also make your friend fall out with you if you are rong,
but it is your decision to make,hope things work out ok
and welcome to the forums
im on this site now to make friends, but a while back i started dating someone from this site and to be onest it took me a while b4 i relised that i hadnt changed my profile to say to people i have met someone,
so there could be an inocent reason behind it,maybe its just not crossed his mind to change his profile but still comes on to chat to friends, so i would wait untill your 100% sure,other wise it could also make your friend fall out with you if you are rong,
but it is your decision to make,hope things work out ok
and welcome to the forums
SueSeeksGent: The sado that I am, I was trawling through the singles websites, perchance to meet "the one", when I came across a profile of a guy who is the boyfriend of a very good friend of mine and they are now living together. He stated on his profile that he was single and looking for Miss Right and that he had viewed the site that same day.
The advice needed is what should I do??????? My initial reaction is to tell my friend, but just wondered what others thought.
I know they are due to go on a well deserved holliday at the end of May with another two close friends and don't know if I should put it off till after that or tell the couple that they are going on holliday with???
Please help I would like to get a male and a female viewpoint and then come to a decision. Thanks to all who reply.
The advice needed is what should I do??????? My initial reaction is to tell my friend, but just wondered what others thought.
I know they are due to go on a well deserved holliday at the end of May with another two close friends and don't know if I should put it off till after that or tell the couple that they are going on holliday with???
Please help I would like to get a male and a female viewpoint and then come to a decision. Thanks to all who reply.
Thanks Sue and Chris for your input. Did think of faking a profile but just think it's too underhanded and wouldn't want to explain that part to my friend. Just keep thinking that I would want to know, wether it be inocent or not. But will take your advice and hold on for a while.
I've been here a while but mainly just reading the threads but decided to brave it and put this thread up. So "Hi" all
I've been here a while but mainly just reading the threads but decided to brave it and put this thread up. So "Hi" all
welcome, and join in sometime with us all, im the quite one so youl be safe
hehehe
hehehe SueSeeksGent: Thanks Sue and Chris for your input. Did think of faking a profile but just think it's too underhanded and wouldn't want to explain that part to my friend. Just keep thinking that I would want to know, wether it be inocent or not. But will take your advice and hold on for a while.
I've been here a while but mainly just reading the threads but decided to brave it and put this thread up. So "Hi" all
I've been here a while but mainly just reading the threads but decided to brave it and put this thread up. So "Hi" all
SueSeeksGent: Thanks Sue and Chris for your input. Did think of faking a profile but just think it's too underhanded and wouldn't want to explain that part to my friend. Just keep thinking that I would want to know, wether it be inocent or not. But will take your advice and hold on for a while.
I've been here a while but mainly just reading the threads but decided to brave it and put this thread up. So "Hi" all
hiya sue ,well my friend was winked at on another site by the guy i was seeing,,I've been here a while but mainly just reading the threads but decided to brave it and put this thread up. So "Hi" all
hes on here as well as many other sites spouting on about how wonderful he is lol,,hes 2 years younger on one of the sites which is so foolish lol cos woman look on different sites too and are gonna know hes a liar,,
I would set up a fake profile, send him a message, see what his intentions are. What can you really wait about for? If it all comes out and you knew something about it, could all blow up in your face and if your proved wrong by this guy then no one need ever know.
maybe you should have a quiet word with the man in question before you do anything to hasty
i hate it when people make sence
Clarabo19: I would set up a fake profile, send him a message, see what his intentions are. What can you really wait about for? If it all comes out and you knew something about it, could all blow up in your face and if your proved wrong by this guy then no one need ever know.
Thanks everybody for all your input, it is interesting to see all the varied responces.
Well I bit the bullet and told her, as I thought I would want to know and then I could decide on what action to take, wether to set up a fake profile or to confront the person.
The outcome was that she knew he still had a profile on a dating site, because he told her he didn't know how to delete it, but it came as a bit of a shock to her when I told her that he had viewed the site yesterday. She said she would look into it and thanked me for telling her. So now it's upto her to decide what to do next. And purely on a selfish basis I am relieved that my part in all this has finished.
THANK YOU ALL AGAIN. Isn't this a great opportunity to be able to put the problems of life out there for a global answer.
Well I bit the bullet and told her, as I thought I would want to know and then I could decide on what action to take, wether to set up a fake profile or to confront the person.
The outcome was that she knew he still had a profile on a dating site, because he told her he didn't know how to delete it, but it came as a bit of a shock to her when I told her that he had viewed the site yesterday. She said she would look into it and thanked me for telling her. So now it's upto her to decide what to do next. And purely on a selfish basis I am relieved that my part in all this has finished.
THANK YOU ALL AGAIN. Isn't this a great opportunity to be able to put the problems of life out there for a global answer.
i have a boyfriend who i have been with for 2 and a half years and i made a profile while we had a brief split a while back. i started talking to this crazy lot and couldn't stop!! i'm only on here for talking to people on the forums really (yes the ego boost is quite good hehe!!) but on my profile it says i am single cause otherwise people won't reply to your profile or email you if they are just browsing. I tell them straight away i have a bf and everyone onthe forums knows i do. If you want tell me his profile name and i can catch him out if you want cause obviously i'm not gonna go for him as i have a fella!
hope this long winded essay helps
hope this long winded essay helps
SueSeeksGent: Thanks Sue and Chris for your input. Did think of faking a profile but just think it's too underhanded and wouldn't want to explain that part to my friend. Just keep thinking that I would want to know, wether it be inocent or not. But will take your advice and hold on for a while.
I've been here a while but mainly just reading the threads but decided to brave it and put this thread up. So "Hi" all
I've been here a while but mainly just reading the threads but decided to brave it and put this thread up. So "Hi" all
HONESTY IS THE BEST AND THINK HOW YOUR FRIEND WOULD FEEL IF THEY KNEW ID MENSHION IT IN PASSING AND SEE IF SHE KNEW THE DARK SIDE OFF IT IS SHE MAY NOT THANK YOU BUT HONESTY IS THE KEY TO LIFE XX GOOD LUCK
SueSeeksGent: The sado that I am, I was trawling through the singles websites, perchance to meet "the one", when I came across a profile of a guy who is the boyfriend of a very good friend of mine and they are now living together. He stated on his profile that he was single and looking for Miss Right and that he had viewed the site that same day.
The advice needed is what should I do??????? My initial reaction is to tell my friend, but just wondered what others thought.
I know they are due to go on a well deserved holliday at the end of May with another two close friends and don't know if I should put it off till after that or tell the couple that they are going on holliday with???
Please help I would like to get a male and a female viewpoint and then come to a decision. Thanks to all who reply.
The advice needed is what should I do??????? My initial reaction is to tell my friend, but just wondered what others thought.
I know they are due to go on a well deserved holliday at the end of May with another two close friends and don't know if I should put it off till after that or tell the couple that they are going on holliday with???
Please help I would like to get a male and a female viewpoint and then come to a decision. Thanks to all who reply.
Just having a profile doesn't make him guilty of anything... what I would do is check him out for a while... be sure.. maybe even set up a profile for flirting and see if he responds.. he may have had that profile from ages ago and may only be checking in every now and then out of curiosity.. be sure before u act.. that would be my advise
SueSeeksGent: The sado that I am, I was trawling through the singles websites, perchance to meet "the one", when I came across a profile of a guy who is the boyfriend of a very good friend of mine and they are now living together. He stated on his profile that he was single and looking for Miss Right and that he had viewed the site that same day.
The advice needed is what should I do??????? My initial reaction is to tell my friend, but just wondered what others thought.
I know they are due to go on a well deserved holliday at the end of May with another two close friends and don't know if I should put it off till after that or tell the couple that they are going on holliday with???
Please help I would like to get a male and a female viewpoint and then come to a decision. Thanks to all who reply.
The advice needed is what should I do??????? My initial reaction is to tell my friend, but just wondered what others thought.
I know they are due to go on a well deserved holliday at the end of May with another two close friends and don't know if I should put it off till after that or tell the couple that they are going on holliday with???
Please help I would like to get a male and a female viewpoint and then come to a decision. Thanks to all who reply.
Hi
If it were me i think i would just say hello to him.
If he deletes his profile then you know what his
intensions were, may be he was on the site before
he met your friend, and just has friends here.
there are some sites out there that don't delete your profile, even when you have requested it over and over again...I still get mail from a site where I've tried and tried to get away from it. It does tell you that the profile is deleted, but it is not...
I finally gave up........
I finally gave up........heres what i would do i would confront him and see what he says u never know it could be innocennt but more than likely not but u tell him if hes planning to meet someone else to break it off with ur friend or u will tell her what u have found i would even copy his profile and paste it into a word document for proof let me know what u decinde to do xx
SueSeeksGent: The sado that I am, I was trawling through the singles websites, perchance to meet "the one", when I came across a profile of a guy who is the boyfriend of a very good friend of mine and they are now living together. He stated on his profile that he was single and looking for Miss Right and that he had viewed the site that same day.
The advice needed is what should I do??????? My initial reaction is to tell my friend, but just wondered what others thought.
I know they are due to go on a well deserved holliday at the end of May with another two close friends and don't know if I should put it off till after that or tell the couple that they are going on holliday with???
Please help I would like to get a male and a female viewpoint and then come to a decision. Thanks to all who reply.
The advice needed is what should I do??????? My initial reaction is to tell my friend, but just wondered what others thought.
I know they are due to go on a well deserved holliday at the end of May with another two close friends and don't know if I should put it off till after that or tell the couple that they are going on holliday with???
Please help I would like to get a male and a female viewpoint and then come to a decision. Thanks to all who reply.
Hi Sue
Suggestions - Why not
1. Get copies of his stuff on here,
2. Tell her you think she ought to know this and
3. Show her all the evidence if you are long term friends -
4. Then back away and let her decide.
BTW
5. Why not open up the age gap for someone more mature but still with a brain above his waist.
6. Just another thought
Mike Dennis EX RAF erk and qualified Mech development Engineer retired who does NOT threat ladies like that but blatantly advertises
Broadstairs
Kent
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The advice needed is what should I do??????? My initial reaction is to tell my friend, but just wondered what others thought.
I know they are due to go on a well deserved holliday at the end of May with another two close friends and don't know if I should put it off till after that or tell the couple that they are going on holliday with???
Please help I would like to get a male and a female viewpoint and then come to a decision. Thanks to all who reply.