How to ease my sister pain of pending divorce (23)
jus_4youpleasantville, New Jersey USA62 Threads 676 PostsI just got back from my sisters house she`s going through the first stages of divorce i`m trying to console her the best i can wish i could find the right words to say that will make her feel better
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Have you tried to let her know that it isnt her fault? And that it may be happening for a reason that she just cant see right now?
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well i did tell her that it`s not her fault happening for a reason part i didn`t
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I am glad I could help a little.
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i can use all the help i can get
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jus_4you: I just got back from my sisters house she`s going through the first stages of divorce i`m trying to console her the best i can wish i could find the right words to say that will make her feel better
what a sweet bro you are. i can only speak from my experience...but i don't think you CAN make her feel better. that would be like trying to make her not feel the loss...and how could she not, aye? i believe, as our c.s. friend above said, it will take time before your sis begins to feel better.
but if my bro would have just walked with me and loved me up, letting me know he's there for me, that would have been balm for my soul during those darkest of days...which could last months or maybe longer for your sis. so, jus4you, if you want to love her up, i think giving her more of you (your time for instance) will mean more to her than you could imagine. last thought....the words i still remember that "helped" me a lot were, "You will get on the other side of this season...there IS an other side." God bless you bro!
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Well, I am truely sorry that she has to expierence something like this. Im sure that someone much better is out there for her. Im not sure what else you have told her, buy maybe remind her that you are here for her to talk to about anything. I find that when I can find people to talk to and give me advice, I start to feel better. sometimes all that is really needed is just an ear.
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LonelyHeartedm: Well, I am truely sorry that she has to expierence something like this. Im sure that someone much better is out there for her. Im not sure what else you have told her, buy maybe remind her that you are here for her to talk to about anything. I find that when I can find people to talk to and give me advice, I start to feel better. sometimes all that is really needed is just an ear.
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I hate to see when a couple go wrong! I am sorry. I went thru a divorce it wasn't nice. Really there is not a lot you can say that she will be hearing right now. The best thing you can do is listen to her. She is going to have a lot to say, some she will mean some will be just blowing of steam. But she is going to need someone to listen.
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gringa: what a sweet bro you are. i can only speak from my experience...but i don't think you CAN make her feel better. that would be like trying to make her not feel the loss...and how could she not, aye? i believe, as our c.s. friend above said, it will take time before your sis begins to feel better.
but if my bro would have just walked with me and loved me up, letting me know he's there for me, that would have been balm for my soul during those darkest of days...which could last months or maybe longer for your sis. so, jus4you, if you want to love her up, i think giving her more of you (your time for instance) will mean more to her than you could imagine. last thought....the words i still remember that "helped" me a lot were, "You will get on the other side of this season...there IS an other side." God bless you bro!
thanks gringa love right back at ya, love the screen name (me being hispanic)but if my bro would have just walked with me and loved me up, letting me know he's there for me, that would have been balm for my soul during those darkest of days...which could last months or maybe longer for your sis. so, jus4you, if you want to love her up, i think giving her more of you (your time for instance) will mean more to her than you could imagine. last thought....the words i still remember that "helped" me a lot were, "You will get on the other side of this season...there IS an other side." God bless you bro!
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2catchastar: I hate to see when a couple go wrong! I am sorry. I went thru a divorce it wasn't nice. Really there is not a lot you can say that she will be hearing right now. The best thing you can do is listen to her. She is going to have a lot to say, some she will mean some will be just blowing of steam. But she is going to need someone to listen.
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yup in a nut shell
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yup in a nut shell
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gringa: bueno, mi amigo, entonces, quiza puedes ayudarme con espaNol, ?si? (great, my friend, then maybe you can help me with spanish...yeah?)
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jus_4you: I just got back from my sisters house she`s going through the first stages of divorce i`m trying to console her the best i can wish i could find the right words to say that will make her feel better
they say that divorce is like a death. When you think about it, I guess that is true. That part of your life has died. I don't think that there are words to say that would make her feel better. Actions speak louder than words. Show her that you care and are there for her. Maybe take her to lunch or shopping or whereever, try to get her out of the house and keep her active if you have the time. Lend an ear, instead of talking, just listen. It will feel nice for her to get things off of her mind.
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prncss4someone: they say that divorce is like a death. When you think about it, I guess that is true. That part of your life has died. I don't think that there are words to say that would make her feel better. Actions speak louder than words. Show her that you care and are there for her. Maybe take her to lunch or shopping or whereever, try to get her out of the house and keep her active if you have the time. Lend an ear, instead of talking, just listen. It will feel nice for her to get things off of her mind.
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jus_4you: I just got back from my sisters house she`s going through the first stages of divorce i`m trying to console her the best i can wish i could find the right words to say that will make her feel better
Did those stages help?
Exercise?
Remember that discussion?
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Planning for a new and better future is a way of keeping things more upbeat. She can make plans for a better job, better house, more time to study for what she wants to be or do. Let the past clear a way to new life and future.
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