One thing I have experienced is a few that compare you to a past relationship or parents, and no matter how hard you try they still see something wrong with you, cause you remind them of some little thing from the past. How can someone be more to that person that does that? You are doomed without given a chance. We can all find little stuff like that in our past if we tried, but that doesn't mean the next person is the same, not over little stuff anyway.
mylifewithu: How do you use your past experiences?? Does it rule you, where you get upset over little stuff ? Or do you use it to better yourself? Or do you just make the next one pay for it??
I myself has grown past the little stuff , but most I meet haven't found that peace yet!!
i have learned from my past and it certainly doesnt rule me, and i do not take out my past relationships on a new one
mylifewithu: One thing I have experienced is a few that compare you to a past relationship or parents, and no matter how hard you try they still see something wrong with you, cause you remind them of some little thing from the past. How can someone be more to that person that does that? You are doomed without given a chance. We can all find little stuff like that in our past if we tried, but that doesn't mean the next person is the same, not over little stuff anyway.
People carry baggage,and subconsciously use it forward without even knowing it.
rwantin: I neither forget my past nor choose to live in it. It does, however, make a very useful compass...
Same here, I use it to guide me, and nothing wrong with that. But over little things like say you didn't care for your parents or an ex much and your new mate, happens to stir their tea the same, so now you judge them as that parent or ex. Those kind of things just don't make sense.
mylifewithu: Same here, I use it to guide me, and nothing wrong with that. But over little things like say you didn't care for your parents or an ex much and your new mate, happens to stir their tea the same, so now you judge them as that parent or ex. Those kind of things just don't make sense.
Hi Robert
Hi there.
No, it does not make sense at all - and strikes me as a quick route back to being single. It's an apples and oranges thing - don't try to bake your new orange into a pie. Or something like that.
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How can someone be more to that person that does that? You are doomed without given a chance. We can all find little stuff like that in our past if we tried, but that doesn't mean the next person is the same, not over little stuff anyway.