How do you use your past experiences?? Does it rule you, where you get upset over little stuff ? Or do you use it to better yourself? Or do you just make the next one pay for it??
I myself has grown past the little stuff , but most I meet haven't found that peace yet!!
mylifewithu: How do you use your past experiences?? Does it rule you, where you get upset over little stuff ? Or do you use it to better yourself? Or do you just make the next one pay for it??
I myself has grown past the little stuff , but most I meet haven't found that peace yet!!
mylifewithu: How do you use your past experiences?? Does it rule you, where you get upset over little stuff ? Or do you use it to better yourself? Or do you just make the next one pay for it??
I myself has grown past the little stuff , but most I meet haven't found that peace yet!!
I'd like to think you learn from your past.
But don't think you should hold onto the bad from it you need to deal with it or it will eat you alive.
There are things I have learn't I could tolerate again in a relationship, and things I have learn't that I just won't.
alabamabebeBanks of the Warrior River, Alabama USA4,404 posts
My past, good, bad and ugly, has made me what I am today-a strong, self-reliant, secure person. I don't want to forget my past, but I don't want to live in it either. I've made mistakes, but were they really mistakes, if I gained from them? No regrets here.
I admit I never let things go. It's a defense mechanism. I've learned to protect myself from people, so they can not ever hurt me. You might say my give-a damn is busted. I love that phrase!!
These last few days have proven to me that I am right. Some people on here that I thought were friendly, have said things that were just not called for. Notice that I said friendly and not friends, as I have no friends and work hard to keep it that way.
I have said some mean things also, but these were in retaliation. Not saying it was right, but that's why. And these were to people I never thought of as friendly, any way.
So, yes, I hold on to my past, to secure a better future for myself.
shipoker55: I admit I never let things go. It's a defense mechanism. I've learned to protect myself from people, so they can not ever hurt me. You might say my give-a damn is busted. I love that phrase!!
These last few days have proven to me that I am right. Some people on here that I thought were friendly, have said things that were just not called for. Notice that I said friendly and not friends, as I have no friends and work hard to keep it that way.
I have said some mean things also, but these were in retaliation. Not saying it was right, but that's why. And these were to people I never thought of as friendly, any way.
So, yes, I hold on to my past, to secure a better future for myself.
alabamabebe: My past, good, bad and ugly, has made me what I am today-a strong, self-reliant, secure person. I don't want to forget my past, but I don't want to live in it either. I've made mistakes, but were they really mistakes, if I gained from them? No regrets here.
You are a very wise woman already girl!! I totally agree with your usage of our past!!
alabamabebe: My past, good, bad and ugly, has made me what I am today-a strong, self-reliant, secure person. I don't want to forget my past, but I don't want to live in it either. I've made mistakes, but were they really mistakes, if I gained from them? No regrets here.
I've met some wonderful people. I've loved and been loved. My life is richer for having met them (and, hopefully, vice versa). I wasn't right for them and vice versa; sad at the time but they are happier now. There is regret that I'm not on the way to the 63 years of marriage my parents have already had together, but I live in hope of finding somebody I can share my love of life with, but maybe it's not meant to be.......... all I know is that I'm never going to quit trying as it's wonderful to be part of a happy, positive couple!
The thing is to be content to be on your own - that makes you more attractive and more likely to find love than being a miserable lonely person!
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I myself has grown past the little stuff , but most I meet haven't found that peace yet!!