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BAKERBOY924port st lucie, Florida USA18 Threads 1 Polls 186 PostsI've got a freind who is 18, beautiful, and a single parent now. She was dating some one who used to be my freind. But he has completely turned his back on both of them. And it is eating her up inside. She doesn't have any freinds. She is torn up to the point of wanting to die. She doesn't have any freinds near her, and seems only to confide in me, but im in chicago and she is in flordia. What should I tell her to try and ease the pain????
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Considering the fact that I too was 18 when I had my first kid, (now I have 3) I can COMPLETELY understand how she feels.
I would tell her that she needs to think about her kid and put him/her first. I know it''s hard right now but when they get older and they say that they have the best mommy ever, it makes it all worth it. I think about how satisfied and proud I'm going to be when my kids get older and become adults and start their lives. To know that they are happy, (which they can be even without their dad's in their lives) is all worth it.
When my oldest who is now 8 asks me why his dad doesnt see him, I say I do not know because I dont. I tell him that if he wants to, when he's older, try to find him and ask him questions that only he can answer, I'll help him but in the mean time, we need to think about focusing on school and other things. He is always happy with that answer.
Also, even though it sucks, it is probably for the best that he left now instead of later. That way, the kid does not have to be around what sounds like would be an unhealthy envirionment of aruging and who knows what else.
I too felt all alone and depressed. But I just kept looking at my son, holding him, and saying to myself and to him that I will do the best I can to give him the life he deserves. When I feel down, I look at my kids and give them hugs and to feel them hug me in return, totally makes everything much better, even if it's for but a moment.
I would tell her that she needs to think about her kid and put him/her first. I know it''s hard right now but when they get older and they say that they have the best mommy ever, it makes it all worth it. I think about how satisfied and proud I'm going to be when my kids get older and become adults and start their lives. To know that they are happy, (which they can be even without their dad's in their lives) is all worth it.
When my oldest who is now 8 asks me why his dad doesnt see him, I say I do not know because I dont. I tell him that if he wants to, when he's older, try to find him and ask him questions that only he can answer, I'll help him but in the mean time, we need to think about focusing on school and other things. He is always happy with that answer.
Also, even though it sucks, it is probably for the best that he left now instead of later. That way, the kid does not have to be around what sounds like would be an unhealthy envirionment of aruging and who knows what else.
I too felt all alone and depressed. But I just kept looking at my son, holding him, and saying to myself and to him that I will do the best I can to give him the life he deserves. When I feel down, I look at my kids and give them hugs and to feel them hug me in return, totally makes everything much better, even if it's for but a moment.
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Can I quote that word for word? That was beautiful in it's own caring way lol.
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Just a note, it has been along time since my babies were babies,
but talk her into talking to someone if she has PPD she needs the help.
She can ask at the local hospital, but she would still have to walk in herself and ask.
I'll keep the thought of her in my prayers.
Jane
but talk her into talking to someone if she has PPD she needs the help.
She can ask at the local hospital, but she would still have to walk in herself and ask.
I'll keep the thought of her in my prayers.
Jane
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BAKERBOY924: Can I quote that word for word? That was beautiful in it's own caring way lol.
You can do whatever you want with it!
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Shanmariee: Considering the fact that I too was 18 when I had my first kid, (now I have 3) I can COMPLETELY understand how she feels.
I would tell her that she needs to think about her kid and put him/her first. I know it''s hard right now but when they get older and they say that they have the best mommy ever, it makes it all worth it. I think about how satisfied and proud I'm going to be when my kids get older and become adults and start their lives. To know that they are happy, (which they can be even without their dad's in their lives) is all worth it.
When my oldest who is now 8 asks me why his dad doesnt see him, I say I do not know because I dont. I tell him that if he wants to, when he's older, try to find him and ask him questions that only he can answer, I'll help him but in the mean time, we need to think about focusing on school and other things. He is always happy with that answer.
Also, even though it sucks, it is probably for the best that he left now instead of later. That way, the kid does not have to be around what sounds like would be an unhealthy envirionment of aruging and who knows what else.
I too felt all alone and depressed. But I just kept looking at my son, holding him, and saying to myself and to him that I will do the best I can to give him the life he deserves. When I feel down, I look at my kids and give them hugs and to feel them hug me in return, totally makes everything much better, even if it's for but a moment.
I would tell her that she needs to think about her kid and put him/her first. I know it''s hard right now but when they get older and they say that they have the best mommy ever, it makes it all worth it. I think about how satisfied and proud I'm going to be when my kids get older and become adults and start their lives. To know that they are happy, (which they can be even without their dad's in their lives) is all worth it.
When my oldest who is now 8 asks me why his dad doesnt see him, I say I do not know because I dont. I tell him that if he wants to, when he's older, try to find him and ask him questions that only he can answer, I'll help him but in the mean time, we need to think about focusing on school and other things. He is always happy with that answer.
Also, even though it sucks, it is probably for the best that he left now instead of later. That way, the kid does not have to be around what sounds like would be an unhealthy envirionment of aruging and who knows what else.
I too felt all alone and depressed. But I just kept looking at my son, holding him, and saying to myself and to him that I will do the best I can to give him the life he deserves. When I feel down, I look at my kids and give them hugs and to feel them hug me in return, totally makes everything much better, even if it's for but a moment.
Perfect advise
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There is the other side of the coin aswell... I have a friend who just turned 40 and is childless and completely broken hearted at the thought that she may never have children..... it's so much better to be single with a child than be single 40 and childless... once she has her child/children.... the right man can take his time to come along...
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BAKERBOY924: I've got a freind who is 18, beautiful, and a single parent now. She was dating some one who used to be my freind. But he has completely turned his back on both of them. And it is eating her up inside. She doesn't have any freinds. She is torn up to the point of wanting to die. She doesn't have any freinds near her, and seems only to confide in me, but im in chicago and she is in flordia. What should I tell her to try and ease the pain????
Has she got a Pc? ... tell her to get on CS.. she will have some extra people to talk to at least.
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Shanmariee: Considering the fact that I too was 18 when I had my first kid, (now I have 3) I can COMPLETELY understand how she feels.
I would tell her that she needs to think about her kid and put him/her first. I know it''s hard right now but when they get older and they say that they have the best mommy ever, it makes it all worth it. I think about how satisfied and proud I'm going to be when my kids get older and become adults and start their lives. To know that they are happy, (which they can be even without their dad's in their lives) is all worth it.
When my oldest who is now 8 asks me why his dad doesnt see him, I say I do not know because I dont. I tell him that if he wants to, when he's older, try to find him and ask him questions that only he can answer, I'll help him but in the mean time, we need to think about focusing on school and other things. He is always happy with that answer.
Also, even though it sucks, it is probably for the best that he left now instead of later. That way, the kid does not have to be around what sounds like would be an unhealthy envirionment of aruging and who knows what else.
I too felt all alone and depressed. But I just kept looking at my son, holding him, and saying to myself and to him that I will do the best I can to give him the life he deserves. When I feel down, I look at my kids and give them hugs and to feel them hug me in return, totally makes everything much better, even if it's for but a moment.
I would tell her that she needs to think about her kid and put him/her first. I know it''s hard right now but when they get older and they say that they have the best mommy ever, it makes it all worth it. I think about how satisfied and proud I'm going to be when my kids get older and become adults and start their lives. To know that they are happy, (which they can be even without their dad's in their lives) is all worth it.
When my oldest who is now 8 asks me why his dad doesnt see him, I say I do not know because I dont. I tell him that if he wants to, when he's older, try to find him and ask him questions that only he can answer, I'll help him but in the mean time, we need to think about focusing on school and other things. He is always happy with that answer.
Also, even though it sucks, it is probably for the best that he left now instead of later. That way, the kid does not have to be around what sounds like would be an unhealthy envirionment of aruging and who knows what else.
I too felt all alone and depressed. But I just kept looking at my son, holding him, and saying to myself and to him that I will do the best I can to give him the life he deserves. When I feel down, I look at my kids and give them hugs and to feel them hug me in return, totally makes everything much better, even if it's for but a moment.
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Shanmariee: Considering the fact that I too was 18 when I had my first kid, (now I have 3) I can COMPLETELY understand how she feels.
I would tell her that she needs to think about her kid and put him/her first. I know it''s hard right now but when they get older and they say that they have the best mommy ever, it makes it all worth it. I think about how satisfied and proud I'm going to be when my kids get older and become adults and start their lives. To know that they are happy, (which they can be even without their dad's in their lives) is all worth it.
When my oldest who is now 8 asks me why his dad doesnt see him, I say I do not know because I dont. I tell him that if he wants to, when he's older, try to find him and ask him questions that only he can answer, I'll help him but in the mean time, we need to think about focusing on school and other things. He is always happy with that answer.
Also, even though it sucks, it is probably for the best that he left now instead of later. That way, the kid does not have to be around what sounds like would be an unhealthy envirionment of aruging and who knows what else.
I too felt all alone and depressed. But I just kept looking at my son, holding him, and saying to myself and to him that I will do the best I can to give him the life he deserves. When I feel down, I look at my kids and give them hugs and to feel them hug me in return, totally makes everything much better, even if it's for but a moment.
I would tell her that she needs to think about her kid and put him/her first. I know it''s hard right now but when they get older and they say that they have the best mommy ever, it makes it all worth it. I think about how satisfied and proud I'm going to be when my kids get older and become adults and start their lives. To know that they are happy, (which they can be even without their dad's in their lives) is all worth it.
When my oldest who is now 8 asks me why his dad doesnt see him, I say I do not know because I dont. I tell him that if he wants to, when he's older, try to find him and ask him questions that only he can answer, I'll help him but in the mean time, we need to think about focusing on school and other things. He is always happy with that answer.
Also, even though it sucks, it is probably for the best that he left now instead of later. That way, the kid does not have to be around what sounds like would be an unhealthy envirionment of aruging and who knows what else.
I too felt all alone and depressed. But I just kept looking at my son, holding him, and saying to myself and to him that I will do the best I can to give him the life he deserves. When I feel down, I look at my kids and give them hugs and to feel them hug me in return, totally makes everything much better, even if it's for but a moment.
according to what is being said, i thing shammariee has been well placed to give you advice and i have nothing more to add. it's very perfect
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Shanmariee: Considering the fact that I too was 18 when I had my first kid, (now I have 3) I can COMPLETELY understand how she feels.
I would tell her that she needs to think about her kid and put him/her first. I know it''s hard right now but when they get older and they say that they have the best mommy ever, it makes it all worth it. I think about how satisfied and proud I'm going to be when my kids get older and become adults and start their lives. To know that they are happy, (which they can be even without their dad's in their lives) is all worth it.
When my oldest who is now 8 asks me why his dad doesnt see him, I say I do not know because I dont. I tell him that if he wants to, when he's older, try to find him and ask him questions that only he can answer, I'll help him but in the mean time, we need to think about focusing on school and other things. He is always happy with that answer.
Also, even though it sucks, it is probably for the best that he left now instead of later. That way, the kid does not have to be around what sounds like would be an unhealthy envirionment of aruging and who knows what else.
I too felt all alone and depressed. But I just kept looking at my son, holding him, and saying to myself and to him that I will do the best I can to give him the life he deserves. When I feel down, I look at my kids and give them hugs and to feel them hug me in return, totally makes everything much better, even if it's for but a moment.
I would tell her that she needs to think about her kid and put him/her first. I know it''s hard right now but when they get older and they say that they have the best mommy ever, it makes it all worth it. I think about how satisfied and proud I'm going to be when my kids get older and become adults and start their lives. To know that they are happy, (which they can be even without their dad's in their lives) is all worth it.
When my oldest who is now 8 asks me why his dad doesnt see him, I say I do not know because I dont. I tell him that if he wants to, when he's older, try to find him and ask him questions that only he can answer, I'll help him but in the mean time, we need to think about focusing on school and other things. He is always happy with that answer.
Also, even though it sucks, it is probably for the best that he left now instead of later. That way, the kid does not have to be around what sounds like would be an unhealthy envirionment of aruging and who knows what else.
I too felt all alone and depressed. But I just kept looking at my son, holding him, and saying to myself and to him that I will do the best I can to give him the life he deserves. When I feel down, I look at my kids and give them hugs and to feel them hug me in return, totally makes everything much better, even if it's for but a moment.
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