Does online dating really work?(for men) ( Archived) (92)

Im very new to online dating and i figured it was only for other people,but i decided to try it out anyway. In the span of a few weeks,i turned from bright eyed and positive to cold and cynical, i think the ratio of men to women is vast,in favor of the women. Now im no male model but i think i look decent, in great shape and fairly interesting but none of that matters as the women have such a vast pool of prospective suitors that unless you meet every little criteria that they have you have no chance! and even if you do its still 50/50 because someone cuter might come along and all you will be is a fuzzy memory. Now i understand with women even if you are remotely attractive you will get hundreds of messages and its hard to answer all of them(although you could probably weed out the pervs,weirdos and creeps)it might be nice to answer the articulate,witty ones with a no thank you please, what i dont understand is if you send a message out,saying i like your profile,why would you not answer back to someone you sent a message to!(unless you are an employee of the website posing as a person to generate interest). I have come to a point where i dont even care about finding love, how about just friendship,but that also seems impossible. I honestly think sometimes that half of the profiles are not even of real people. Now saying that I will continue to use this site because its free and the people in the forum seem like real,honest and interesting people. I hope to god im wrong about this but i dont think i am. (side note/ I still believe in love and try to stay positive!) Obrigado pra seu tempo! Boa noite!

When it comes to meeting men online, I would say the same thing, actually. I think one of the key differences in online dating is volume. Thanks to the Internetz, we all have the chance to talk to, date and possibly have a relationship with people whom we would never have met in any other way. But with these massive numbers of potential dates comes a disadvantage: overstock. There are just so many.

You're right: if you're remotely attractive, you're going to get a number of responses ... and more responses ... and more responses. It's this unending supply of responses that I think keeps men and women from wanting to commit to just one person. It is just too easy for a person to think that someone better might come along in the next batch of responses or matches or whatever.

Once I realized this, I decided to just run with it and see what happens. I have met a lot of really nice, interesting men, and some not-so-nice men. I've been on more than a few dates and made a few friends, but the majority of the men I've talked to have disappeared at some point. No biggie. I don't really expect anything more than that. If something more does come along, then I'll be very happy (and consider myself very lucky). But if not, I'll just continue being as happy as I normally am in my everyday life ... which is pretty darn happy.

OMG.... can I beg you to go out on a date with me..... I promise not to embarrass you too bad in public.

Zee

I agree. Zee, for having been here for only a couple of weeks, you sure have made an impression ... and never as an a**hole.

No need to beg. I'd glady take your clothes accompany you on a date.

i think a lot of people are misunderstanding my point, im saying that the chances of anything, even a good friendship is not good if you are a man as opposed to a woman who has choice of thousands that are knocking on her door. As for forcing the dating issue, im pretty laid back, is saying, thanks for the message you sent me you seem nice too, would like to chat sometime, forcing someone into dating? if so then i guess im a real jerk. And no zeelander i dont think you are being mean, you just misunderstand me.

thanks for the advice zeelander, you are a pretty cool guy! Obrigado,meu amigo por todos!

I think this is a good question.... I tend to open my mouth and you never know what is going to fall out.

Zee

Awesome forum and great question...
And even better the advice that has been given..