Ok...just out of curiousity..why do many women never return a simple Hello? In their profiles they say love to chat..they are in the same town or close..but do not reply. Anyways...jsut curious..most of my replies come from those 75 to 100 miles away..lol..no one likes to chat with those in their home town or surrounding area..humm...Just a thought. Have a good day all...no a great day!!
there's almost a safety if you talk to people not too close..makes running into them on the street less likely. Kinda keeps things separate..kids..ex's... JMO
wellaged2007victoria, British Columbia Canada10 posts
yes i agree,,there is always that safe feeling,,especially when you are new.Dont ever try to figure women out,,us women on purpose change up the game rules just to keep you men on your "A" game,,lol
maryrachelleBathurst, New Brunswick Canada1,370 posts
I don't know. I will answer that if you can answer how many men never return a simple hello. Perhaps they don't wish to chat by email. Here is how such a chat would go.
Sender:
Hello
Receiver:
Hello
Sender:
How are you?
Receive:
Fine
Sender:
That's good
Sender:
So why are you on here
Receiver:
Didn't you read my profile?
Sender:
Yes
Receiver:
Then why are you asking
Sender:
Dunno can't think of what else to say
Receiver:
Then why bother writing me?
Then she blocks you or doesn't respond to anymore of your emails because you are boring and she could of found out you were boring just by sending her a message that was more then just "hello". You can always tell when a guy will be boring . All he sends is a "hello".
maryrachelleBathurst, New Brunswick Canada1,370 posts
Bottom line is that most people really don't want to chat by email like they would chatting online. It's long , drawn out and boring. If you are going to send someone a message and can't think of anything else to say to this person but "hello" and nothing else , then don't send the message.
Not that I've gotten many emails on here but the ones that say in their subject line "Hey Babe" I think, sorry I am not your babe. and then will not reply. Or they say they have seen my profile and they have not I assume they are scammers. Maybe they are not but who knows? and why take chances.
I would write you back chuck, but of course I am one of those women who lives a few provinces away.
Thanks for the by the way.
I guess you and I guess all of us need to have patience. When the time is right, the right person will either write you back or contact you.
hollandgirlSomewhere in Canada. B.C., British Columbia Canada4,464 posts
laffingone: Not that I've gotten many emails on here but the ones that say in their subject line "Hey Babe" I think, sorry I am not your babe. and then will not reply. Or they say they have seen my profile and they have not I assume they are scammers. Maybe they are not but who knows? and why take chances.
I would write you back chuck, but of course I am one of those women who lives a few provinces away.Thanks for the by the way.
I guess you and I guess all of us need to have patience. When the time is right, the right person will either write you back or contact you.laff
So what he live a few provinces away? I know it is not ideal but it could be worse like living in Timbaktoo huh? Where there is a will, there is a way! I am saying; go for it!
kissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada15,139 posts
CasualChuck: Ok...just out of curiousity..why do many women never return a simple Hello? In their profiles they say love to chat..they are in the same town or close..but do not reply. Anyways...jsut curious..most of my replies come from those 75 to 100 miles away..lol..no one likes to chat with those in their home town or surrounding area..humm...Just a thought. Have a good day all...no a great day!!
Maybe just Maybe you are sending them to the wrong ladies..
Best of Luck..
But dont let that get you down..
I am sure in no time you will get some nice chats going along
Thank you everyone for your thoughts. I love it when I learn for others. I do not judge those who do not return emails..or a simple Hello. But you all gave me some enlightenment. Thanks you. I am always learning , every day, from everyone, good and bad. I usually learn more about myself..lol..good and bad..lol. Take care and best of luck to all who are searching and learning.
CasualChuck: Ok...just out of curiousity..why do many women never return a simple Hello? In their profiles they say love to chat..they are in the same town or close..but do not reply. Anyways...jsut curious..most of my replies come from those 75 to 100 miles away..lol..no one likes to chat with those in their home town or surrounding area..humm...Just a thought. Have a good day all...no a great day!!
Hey Casual
ok, I cannot answer for the women whom you HAVE emailed but I can speak for me!
If someone takes the time out to say hello, I will do the same....maybe thru a flower instead of an email... it's common courtesy for me!
however, if the emailing persists and he writes again, I will simply tell him the truth!@ for example, thank you but I am looking for someone whom lives in my city currently....or that I am not interested but thanks for the email just the same.
Some of us are not on here for chit chat...some of us are on here for the simple reason of finding that "rocking chair love" that we all want..... and they figure why make small talk when we have already assumed it "ain't going anywhere"
OR, many of us only have access at work (such as I) and so, our time is lmited (break, lunch hour, etc).....
Pre-Judgement, it happens every day I guess......
Don' think that all women are the same...cause we are not.... just as all men aren't from the same cloth!
I wish you much luck...and as posted by someone previous to me, don't just write hello! IF her profile interested you, say so in your email and ask if she would be interested in chatting....maybe you OPENING the line of communication will give you most responses!
TheKid52Birmingham, West Midlands, England UK490 posts
CasualChuck: Ok...just out of curiousity..why do many women never return a simple Hello? In their profiles they say love to chat..they are in the same town or close..but do not reply. Anyways...jsut curious..most of my replies come from those 75 to 100 miles away..lol..no one likes to chat with those in their home town or surrounding area..humm...Just a thought. Have a good day all...no a great day!!
Just to let you know that it is a two way street here, I can concur that men do not reply to mails either, its is just bad manners and I apologise for those who have not replied to you. I answer all mail and even though they do seem to come out of the age group that I stated. Still I reply politely. I do wish that we could teach manners but sadly we cannot. Did you ever conside if they live a distance away they may be willing to travel to you!! I would if the temptation was there for me, not with you do not misunderstand. I just replied to a man who had a brilliant profile and was all wonderful and marvelous, I mailed him and told him he sounded too good to be true, and if he was actually real would he please mail me! Nothing he was not real! This guy was only a few mile away, I was gutted. Now I am chatting to a man in Canada thousands of miles away and not a problem. Best wishes and good luck.
Hey Chuck, just go'n to put my three cents on your post.
I've had the same problem since joining CS. I have sent quite a few flowers and e-mails and don't receive all that many in return. I think you need to not take it too personaly. I'm with curvy- I try to answer all that I receive, not that I get alot of responces, but out of courtesy. That's just who I am, the way my parents raised me. And I also think Holland girl has it right too, so what if the person is provences away or for me in a different country, some, like myself are willing to travel and or even re-locate given the right circumstances. Hell, I sometimes, feel like ladies see my chubby cheeks, see that I'm a truck driver, read my profile, (which by the way is who I am), and run away screaming never to return. But thats ok, cause I know, that they don't know what their miss'n Keep on try'n to catch some-ladies eye, say more than hi, take a chance at pie in your eye!
CasualChuck: Ok...just out of curiousity..why do many women never return a simple Hello? In their profiles they say love to chat..they are in the same town or close..but do not reply. Anyways...jsut curious..most of my replies come from those 75 to 100 miles away..lol..no one likes to chat with those in their home town or surrounding area..humm...Just a thought. Have a good day all...no a great day!!
Send me an email, and I will answer it, and I don't live that far away. I like meeting new people, I mean, how is anyone ever going to find their one and only if they don't speak with each other, if only to have a new friend.
Happily4sure: Send me an email, and I will answer it, and I don't live that far away. I like meeting new people, I mean, how is anyone ever going to find their one and only if they don't speak with each other, if only to have a new friend.
I think you hit the nail on the head. Friends are always good but you may never meet your "one" if you don't take the chance of getting rejected or ignored. I'm a bit curious about why more WOMEN don't make first contact though. (except of course for the ones from certain other countries...lol)
i am new to this site, but i have been on others and although i cannot answer for anyone else, i know for myself if someone sends me a message, the only reason i would not answer them is because i am not attracted to them or because they live to far away.
CasualChuck: Ok...just out of curiousity..why do many women never return a simple Hello? In their profiles they say love to chat..they are in the same town or close..but do not reply. Anyways...jsut curious..most of my replies come from those 75 to 100 miles away..lol..no one likes to chat with those in their home town or surrounding area..humm...Just a thought. Have a good day all...no a great day!!
I am curious too..my photo was rated a 10 by a guy from aussie and i think he is cute and kind to give me a 10, so i decided to dropped by and say hello to him..he didnt reply..then he rated my second photo a 10 again..so i emailed him again to say thank you..and as expected he didnt reply again..its so weird..i didnt expect for us to have a relationship i am just hoping to get a hello back since i emailed him twice..isnt it courteous to say your welcome when someone says thank you to you?anyway, it was weird.so what i am saying its not only the women who dont reply same as men.
I had a similar thing happen to me, a guy voted my pics 10's(when I had them up). I emailed him several times and I didn't here form him. I saw later he voted 10 on everyones photos. I also emailed a man and told him I liked his pics, he viewed me than blocked me.
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