Hi Guys i'm back, had a sheeet week! (24)
Tough Love is very hard but sometimes so necessary - hang in there! I think you are doing great!
phaedellis: Sorry to bail on thursday guys but my man came over and nearly caught me out....
Then i had my son call me and start harrassing me for money, he is 28yrs old, has gotten himself involved in the drug scene BIGTIME, i have in the past bailed him out so many times, and each time he promises to go on the straight and narrow, but NEVER does, and this time he is in soooo deep its breaking my heart, he does not know how to say NO, he is addicted to just about everything, and i have had to wipe my hands and we all know how difficult that is for a mother to do, i met up with him on friday, he has lost so much weight he looks like a walking skeleton, his eyes are constantly blood shot and he has these massive balck circles around them, its really killing me, but he still does not believe he does'nt have a problem???? I left it at " when you're ready for my help, and can admit to yourself you have a problem and need REHAB, i'll be here, but i can't do anymore.
Have i done the right thing? help as its truly killing me and have spent the past 4days so upset that i cant think straight.....
Jesus Christ Phae, as a mum you must be beside yourself. All you can do is be a good Mum, he is old enough to make his decisions. That's the trouble with decisions you have to pay the consequences for them. I wish you and your son all the luck in the world Then i had my son call me and start harrassing me for money, he is 28yrs old, has gotten himself involved in the drug scene BIGTIME, i have in the past bailed him out so many times, and each time he promises to go on the straight and narrow, but NEVER does, and this time he is in soooo deep its breaking my heart, he does not know how to say NO, he is addicted to just about everything, and i have had to wipe my hands and we all know how difficult that is for a mother to do, i met up with him on friday, he has lost so much weight he looks like a walking skeleton, his eyes are constantly blood shot and he has these massive balck circles around them, its really killing me, but he still does not believe he does'nt have a problem???? I left it at " when you're ready for my help, and can admit to yourself you have a problem and need REHAB, i'll be here, but i can't do anymore.
Have i done the right thing? help as its truly killing me and have spent the past 4days so upset that i cant think straight.....
My life would be rotating around my kids if this was them I'm afraid even though they are old enough.
these are trying times, lots of reassurance, positive caring and time is always needed. sorry i dont have a lot of time on here nor a lot of wisdom as i have never had a drug dependant family member only can only draw upon alcohol abusive experiences. my thoughts are with you at this time More Threads
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It's tough when family have probs. Fortunately my girls seem to be going pretty straight and level but one of my brothers had a similar issue with grog and it wasn't until they admit to a problem that you can help with a problem.
A word of hope.
A friend of mine had a similar situation with her son who was an absolute crack head as well as heroin and ice for about 10 years. I won't go into some of the stuff he put her through as I am sure you are familiar with them more intimately than I. He recently married and has been clean now for several years but she had to wash her hands after she had him arrested for breaking into her house and pinching most of her stuff and flogging it for dope money.
She was there for him when it was needed but not until the time was genuine.
I would suggest you consider some support for yourself. I think Alanon works with family of addicts of drugs as well as grog, if not I'm sure they could put you onto who does.
As for Mr R. If he will be a friend through something like this then he truly may be Mr Right. If not, who really needs a fair weather friend?