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Oct 4, 2008 8:07 PM CST Is txt real?
Ceres
CeresCeresWaitakere, Auckland New Zealand2 Threads 34 Posts
A couple of men have told me over the last few months that sending messages by txt isn't really real - that is, whatever they say in txt isn't necessarily how they feel.

Alright, so they say this when they have lost their temper and txt something they really shouldn't have, but I can't quite get my head around this idea.

If txt words are not really true, does that mean I can stand up any date arranged by txt?

If txt isn't real, is email?

dunno
Oct 4, 2008 8:11 PM CST Is txt real?
kizzy27
kizzy27kizzy27a south coast beach, New South Wales Australia179 Threads 9 Polls 14,724 Posts
Ceres: A couple of men have told me over the last few months that sending messages by txt isn't really real - that is, whatever they say in txt isn't necessarily how they feel.

Alright, so they say this when they have lost their temper and txt something they really shouldn't have, but I can't quite get my head around this idea.

If txt words are not really true, does that mean I can stand up any date arranged by txt?

If txt isn't real, is email?



Hey Ceres , Well I think thats just a cop out , If a man is rude to me via text or anyother form of communication then theres da door pal !
I mean lets face it all communication comes from the brain if he is thinkin & textin , thinkin & emailin then sweets he is thinkin it !
Txt is real
so is email
Its the mans integrety thats dubious....
JMO
Kizzywine
Oct 4, 2008 8:17 PM CST Is txt real?
Ceres
CeresCeresWaitakere, Auckland New Zealand2 Threads 34 Posts
Well, yes, of course it is a perfectly splendid excuse for bad behaviour that would otherwise earn a glass of water in the face, but thes eblokes are quite insistent about the unreality of txt. If this is the way they really think, how do they cope in the mdoern world?

Text quote: "Lunch is useful u dnt seem to be.." I'll miss out all the swearing.

Maybe they don't.
Oct 4, 2008 8:19 PM CST Is txt real?
Ralf74
Ralf74Ralf74Bacchus Marsh, Victoria Australia59 Threads 2 Polls 8,467 Posts
kizzy27: Hey Ceres , Well I think thats just a cop out , If a man is rude to me via text or anyother form of communication then theres da door pal !
I mean lets face it all communication comes from the brain if he is thinkin & textin , thinkin & emailin then sweets he is thinkin it !
Txt is real
so is email
Its the mans integrety thats dubious....
JMO
Kizzy


thumbs up What she said, my only concern is again that many things can be taken out of context in written form as emotion and body language are absent from the conversation making it read people as much as what they are saying.
Oct 4, 2008 8:20 PM CST Is txt real?
Ceres
CeresCeresWaitakere, Auckland New Zealand2 Threads 34 Posts
All my spelling mistakes in that previous post are a perfect example of why one should not txt and post at the same time.
Oct 4, 2008 8:27 PM CST Is txt real?
Ralf74
Ralf74Ralf74Bacchus Marsh, Victoria Australia59 Threads 2 Polls 8,467 Posts
Ceres: All my spelling mistakes in that previous post are a perfect example of why one should not txt and post at the same time.


Agreed,i missed a couple of words in my last post it was supposed to say "makes it hard to read people". I need a wake up shower and to get off here, I am becoming a thread hog! Addicted!!
Oct 5, 2008 12:02 AM CST Is txt real?
blondeaozichick
blondeaozichickblondeaozichickMelbourne, Victoria Australia110 Threads 3 Polls 7,759 Posts
Ralf74: What she said, my only concern is again that many things can be taken out of context in written form as emotion and body language are absent from the conversation making it read people as much as what they are saying.



I agree... texts can be taken out of context for the reasons like you said ralf.. emotion and body language is not there..

but what was that stupid text from that guy supposed to mean..

so he says.. what was it Ceres?? lunch is useful, you don't seem to be?

errrrrr hello wanker.. how can you say.. that's not real!!

some men (and please guys,, notice I said SOME laugh) are so thick it should be a crime doh
Oct 5, 2008 4:31 AM CST Is txt real?
Ceres
CeresCeresWaitakere, Auckland New Zealand2 Threads 34 Posts
Hi Blondeozichick,

Yes, he really did say that lunch comment - came out of nowhere. His follow-up included a lot of f-ing (as in, "Now you can f off."), so I didn't bother quoting that.

Apparently, he was drunk, and according to him, fighting with me "got him hard". Oh yay, am I turned on or what?

When he sobered up, it was, "they r only txt messages. remembr that. i lyke u a lot..." but it was a bit late by then. I'd had enough.

He was guy number 2 to come out with the, "but it is only txt - why are you taking these insults seriously?" argument.

I am beginning to think this is a standard male excuse for bad language or bad temper in txt.

True?

Looking for male input here.
Oct 5, 2008 4:52 PM CST Is txt real?
Ceres
CeresCeresWaitakere, Auckland New Zealand2 Threads 34 Posts
(so if txt isn't real, why did that teenager kill himself because of txt bullying?)

My next question should be, is it normal or usual for people to get sexually turned on by arguing with their girlfriend/boyfriend, partner or significant other? Txt arguments or face-to-face.
Oct 5, 2008 5:39 PM CST Is txt real?
phaedellis
phaedellisphaedellisBrisbane, Queensland Australia12 Threads 1,405 Posts
Ceres: A couple of men have told me over the last few months that sending messages by txt isn't really real - that is, whatever they say in txt isn't necessarily how they feel.

Alright, so they say this when they have lost their temper and txt something they really shouldn't have, but I can't quite get my head around this idea.

If txt words are not really true, does that mean I can stand up any date arranged by txt?

If txt isn't real, is email?
Yep a huge cop out!!!! to me its just the most gutless excuse for anyman/woman, i mean if someone wants to say something pick up the phone and let your fingers do the walking, not talkingconversing i would be giving these guys their marching orders quick smart, as if that is the case what do we classify as real and not real? if you have a disagreement with someone face 2 face, does that mean then that that disagreement is not real WTF!!!!and there is no difference to a face to face convo or a text, just the easy way out for some i thinkconfused confused confusedGod some men will try to get away with anything at least once. handshake
Oct 5, 2008 6:00 PM CST Is txt real?
IMALLALONE2
IMALLALONE2IMALLALONE2Ingham, Queensland Australia4 Threads 215 Posts
Ceres: Hi Blondeozichick,

Yes, he really did say that lunch comment - came out of nowhere. His follow-up included a lot of f-ing (as in, "Now you can f off."), so I didn't bother quoting that.

Apparently, he was drunk, and according to him, fighting with me "got him hard". Oh yay, am I turned on or what?

When he sobered up, it was, "they r only txt messages. remembr that. i lyke u a lot..." but it was a bit late by then. I'd had enough.

He was guy number 2 to come out with the, "but it is only txt - why are you taking these insults seriously?" argument.

I am beginning to think this is a standard male excuse for bad language or bad temper in txt.

True?

Looking for male input here.
that is most certainly not a standard excuse. This fool is a angry drunk that hasn't jumped to the next level yet. from what i see every time he's drunk or angry he is abusing you or whoever verbally by txt and then feebly tryin when sobering up 2 make you doubt your own judgement of the event. Which gives him get out of jail card and second chance that he doesn't bloody deserve as far as i am concerned what ever i txt to some one when im angry,pissed or happy is meant as I wrote it and in its true context as well
grin cheers
Oct 5, 2008 6:09 PM CST Is txt real?
phaedellis
phaedellisphaedellisBrisbane, Queensland Australia12 Threads 1,405 Posts
IMALLALONE2: that is most certainly not a standard excuse. This fool is a angry drunk that hasn't jumped to the next level yet. from what i see every time he's drunk or angry he is abusing you or whoever verbally by txt and then feebly tryin when sobering up 2 make you doubt your own judgement of the event. Which gives him get out of jail card and second chance that he doesn't bloody deserve as far as i am concerned what ever i txt to some one when im angry,pissed or happy is meant as I wrote it and in its true context as well
Good for you IMALLALONE, its so damn refreshing to hear a guy speak the truththumbs up thumbs up thumbs up
Oct 5, 2008 6:43 PM CST Is txt real?
Ceres
CeresCeresWaitakere, Auckland New Zealand2 Threads 34 Posts
IMALLALONE2: that is most certainly not a standard excuse. This fool is a angry drunk that hasn't jumped to the next level yet. from what i see every time he's drunk or angry he is abusing you or whoever verbally by txt and then feebly tryin when sobering up 2 make you doubt your own judgement of the event. Which gives him get out of jail card and second chance that he doesn't bloody deserve as far as i am concerned what ever i txt to some one when im angry,pissed or happy is meant as I wrote it and in its true context as well


Thank you Imallalone. Nice to read your comments.
Oct 5, 2008 6:44 PM CST Is txt real?
Ceres
CeresCeresWaitakere, Auckland New Zealand2 Threads 34 Posts
Thank you all - I was starting to question my world view.
Oct 5, 2008 8:15 PM CST Is txt real?
psuedonym
psuedonympsuedonymadelaide, South Australia Australia15 Threads 1 Polls 2,019 Posts
get that guy outta your mind and outta your life. he's a drunken, illiterate sleaze with some weirdass fetish for aggression and abuse. that should be reason enough to text him a message saying "fark off dirtbag"



Just My Humblesprofessor professor
Oct 5, 2008 8:20 PM CST Is txt real?
phaedellis
phaedellisphaedellisBrisbane, Queensland Australia12 Threads 1,405 Posts
Ceres: (so if txt isn't real, why did that teenager kill himself because of txt bullying?)

My next question should be, is it normal or usual for people to get sexually turned on by arguing with their girlfriend/boyfriend, partner or significant other? Txt arguments or face-to-face.
No Babes he's a Sicko!!!! get rid of him now!!! and come ova to Kizzies bar tonight and have a few with uscheers wine wine
Oct 5, 2008 8:23 PM CST Is txt real?
kizzy27
kizzy27kizzy27a south coast beach, New South Wales Australia179 Threads 9 Polls 14,724 Posts
psuedonym: get that guy outta your mind and outta your life. he's a drunken, illiterate sleaze with some weirdass fetish for aggression and abuse. that should be reason enough to text him a message saying "fark off dirtbag"
Just My Humbles



What he said thumbs up
Oct 5, 2008 8:28 PM CST Is txt real?
Ralf74
Ralf74Ralf74Bacchus Marsh, Victoria Australia59 Threads 2 Polls 8,467 Posts
Ceres: (so if txt isn't real, why did that teenager kill himself because of txt bullying?)

My next question should be, is it normal or usual for people to get sexually turned on by arguing with their girlfriend/boyfriend, partner or significant other? Txt arguments or face-to-face.


I can't say if it is the norm but hell yes for me, I love it, nothing like make up sex!!! I think it spices up life as well.

I think argueing or at least debating is a crucial form of communication. Without it, would any of us release stored anger or actually come out with the truth of our feelings? Sometimes you just need a good explosion or release. I can't say it is good to be on the recieving end but sometimes we just need to hear it as well.

However, I do not agree with bullying and I enjoy listening to other peoples gripes as much as I love venting my own. grin
Oct 5, 2008 9:40 PM CST Is txt real?
psuedonym
psuedonympsuedonymadelaide, South Australia Australia15 Threads 1 Polls 2,019 Posts
Ralf74: I can't say if it is the norm but hell yes for me, I love it, nothing like make up sex!!! I think it spices up life as well.

I think argueing or at least debating is a crucial form of communication. Without it, would any of us release stored anger or actually come out with the truth of our feelings? Sometimes you just need a good explosion or release. I can't say it is good to be on the recieving end but sometimes we just need to hear it as well.

However, I do not agree with bullying and I enjoy listening to other peoples gripes as much as I love venting my own.


make up sex is great, debate and discussion are mandatory, but i think the fact that the guy told her he barred up whilst having the argument, not after... was a bit odd. if allowed to fester, that little idiosynchrasy could develop into a nasty violence induced fantasy.
Oct 6, 2008 4:08 AM CST Is txt real?
Ceres
CeresCeresWaitakere, Auckland New Zealand2 Threads 34 Posts
The final chapter was actually written a couple of days ago, when he started another argument face-to-face, lost it totally, ordered me to drive him home, kept arguing, so I booted him out of my car.

He was about 30 km from his house.
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