I ran into an old flame (7)
Sometimes the feelings are still there, especially if you both part amicably as opposed to hating each other. I have a few ex's who manage to track me down via e-mail or the like and ask to start things back up, and as hard as it can be to say no (Sometimes it's very easy lol) I let my mind rule the answer - sometimes we forget why we broke up with that person (not just forgive) and I do my best to focus on that part when it happens. We may stay friends, but if we had a reason why we'd never work then I am not going through that again.
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sweetowen: Isn't it interesting how someone who you thought you couldn't live without... who made you cry buckets of tears, just a few years ago can have no emotional effect on you when you run into them again?
I've run into several ex-boyfriends & old crushes. I just think it's so weird how, after that much time, I can look at them & either have no feeling for them or wonder what I ever saw in them in the first place.
Time does heal all wounds, as the saying goes. Ironically, several times, they've asked me to come back or to go out again. But the feeling just isn't there anymore. And I've gone as far as to say, "You hurt me. That can't be forgiven."
Any stories among you?
I've run into several ex-boyfriends & old crushes. I just think it's so weird how, after that much time, I can look at them & either have no feeling for them or wonder what I ever saw in them in the first place.
Time does heal all wounds, as the saying goes. Ironically, several times, they've asked me to come back or to go out again. But the feeling just isn't there anymore. And I've gone as far as to say, "You hurt me. That can't be forgiven."
Any stories among you?
Yes..I have done the same with no feeling left at all...which only serves to tell me that I made the right choice all along and that I am now fully healed...There is only one that I ever gave a second chance too...a few months back and he was full of B.S. but at least it satisfied the what ifs and solidified what kind of man he really is in my eyes...BUT that will be the last time anyone ever gets a second chance outta me...now I know why I have stuck with that all these years...obviously it's for a good reason...lesson learned once again....
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I had one who called me after not seeing him for a couple of years. He was getting out of the Army and coming home, and wanted to come visit me. I said, "sure". Yep...feelings still there. It was a wonderful weekend. I was in college at the time, so on break I went up to Buffalo to see him. I won't forget that last time, and it's been 24 years...but, that weekend he asked me to move up to Buffalo and move in with him...as a friend. Just a friend. We'd date other people. I've never spoken to him or seen him since.
If I saw him now those feelings would probably still be there, though. It was a fire/ice relationship for a long time. When we were together, everyone was happy. When we weren't, people cleared the hallways and stairwells. I think it would still be that way with us, so it would never have worked long term.
If I saw him now those feelings would probably still be there, though. It was a fire/ice relationship for a long time. When we were together, everyone was happy. When we weren't, people cleared the hallways and stairwells. I think it would still be that way with us, so it would never have worked long term.
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tututut---running over them will give them the satisfaction, they did hurt you......but if you move along as though they don't exist --- the best revenge of all.
You leave them
and then they will wonder "WHAT JUST HAPPENED" I lost my control.: 
And that my friend is the best of all.
You leave them
and then they will wonder "WHAT JUST HAPPENED" I lost my control.: And that my friend is the best of all. ------ This thread is Archived ------
My "first love" I'd still get a flutter......but all 20-25 after that........Naaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 
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Whenever I ran into an ex it's always why aren't you married, or why don't we get married? No hard feelings. I don't hold grudges. I moved on.
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I've run into several ex-boyfriends & old crushes. I just think it's so weird how, after that much time, I can look at them & either have no feeling for them or wonder what I ever saw in them in the first place.
Time does heal all wounds, as the saying goes. Ironically, several times, they've asked me to come back or to go out again. But the feeling just isn't there anymore. And I've gone as far as to say, "You hurt me. That can't be forgiven."
Any stories among you?