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Zumba!

Thanks all! I'm pretty excited! I also have a class lined up this summer to teach

Zumba!

I just wanted to brag to my friends here and say that I got my Zumba Certificate on Saturday I've been taking so many dance classes for so long, it'll be nice to be able to teach at least one kind. If you don't know what Zumba is, it's an aerobic-type workout focusing on Latin moves and it's amazingly fun. It's actually what got me into working out and enjoying it - I used to weigh almost 300lbs lol.

I'm just excited! Have a good day all!

RE: What's wrong with this picture...how would you improve what happened

Yeah, I thought that they'd be in prison if they kept driving with a suspended license, much less fleeing from the scene. Idiots like that deserve to drop the soap a few times in the prison shower, maybe that'll learn them. :: Grumble grumble::

RE: Was I rude and how can I prevent this from happening again

I'm just gonna have to go with what most people have said to you already. You did the right thing. You warned him that it might get delayed/canceled, and he is so unconfident in himself he took it personally. If you had not warned him or canceled at the last minute - 2 hours before is pushing it, but then again you'd told him about your brothers call so in this situation that would've been fine, I always ask my dates to try to give me a 24 hours notice so then I can at least make other plans - then I'd say you didn't handle it well.

So just consider yourself lucky that he showed that part of himself early on.

RE: Ladies, should I just give up?

I completely agree. Sometimes it's easier to meet women if you're a studmuffin - hell, I used to be quite jealous of my brother who'd have women checking him out everywhere we went - but I've discovered over the years that as long as I can get a good conversation good I can usually have a date that Friday. However, it takes a good personality to keep her around.

Online is a bit different, okay it's a lot different. The rules change, mostly because it's like 1 to 10 ratio of men to women on dating sites so you've got to remember that whoever you messaged has probably got 9 other contenders that day messaging them.
Also when you e-mail someone, look at their last "login date" if it's been over a month, don't even bother e-mailing them. From my experience it usually means they don't even come to the site anymore. For some reason CS seems to stop the counter at "Over one month" instead of "Hasn't been on in a decade", lol.

So either way, online or in real life, you've gotta accept a few things. If you think you're ugly, then you're not broadcasting confidence and that's very rarely a good sign. You need to realize that a good personality does factor into the attractive formula, if you have a good personality and good morals (Loyalty, honesty, etc) you can easily become a 10 in their eyes.

Don't give up. Just remember that if it wasn't a challenge, it wouldn't be worth doing.

RE: is silence..?

If it's on the phone... yeah I can see it being awkward, but not really a big deal.
When you're cuddling and just staring into each others eyes, sometimes words just have no place there.

RE: why honest people have no luck?

I doubt you meant to say it this harshly, but man... Sounds like you're attacking her when you phrase it like that. Guess you are a bit rusty eh? Just teasing you,

And honest people can have a harder time because, a quote I heard a long time ago, "people judge others the way they judge themselves", meaning a liar trusts nobody and vice-versa. It ain't completely accurate, I know plenty of honest people who trust no one, but I mean in general. Honest people are prone to being a bit gullible (It took me years to learn to screen people, lol) and can be taken advantage of.

Also, I've noticed honest (Not blunt honest, like myself) people tend to be worried about offending people, they tend to be rather sensitive. This means they also get taken advantage of by people who know these weaknesses. Be more assertive, be less worried about hurting another person - especially if they're hurting you - and be willing to move on to the next person.

RE: why women don't like slender men.

I am about as slim as a gorilla, so I have nothing to complain about in that area. Unfortunately, I do have a lot of jiggle when I wiggle,

RE: toy boy

Just go to a bar out here and wear a pink shirt. You'll have tons of men hitting on you.

RE: They want more pictures of me

I agree. Also, the pics you have up are fine, and your doggy is so cute!

RE: Ever Date A Manorexic?

I didn't realize that anorexic was a gender specific word, lol.

I've known people who eat like elephants but are very thin and I've seen the exact opposite as well. If I'm with a woman who's skinny but starves herself (Or maintains her figure obsessively with pills or other nasty ways - drugs, etc) then that'd be a NO for a continuing relationship. Being healthy and good personalities matter so much more to me.

RE: When do you really trust someone you've met online?

I'm glad you approved

RE: respect a woman like yourself

I should respect myself as a woman?

RE: When do you really trust someone you've met online?

Glad to hear it.

That post wasn't aimed at you so much as people with that issue in general.

RE: whats that you're eating 09

Right now I'm eating eggs and turkey hot dogs.

This is the height of my cooking, lol

RE: Best way of trying to keep warm and busy, on these cold winter nights?

How much would that suck over the summer though?

RE: When do you really trust someone you've met online?

I hear ya. What's the quote again....? Love and fear cannot exist together for true love will push fear out.

Something along those lines. For those too scared to love they may not find it. Then again, I'm no expert.

RE: When do you really trust someone you've met online?

Oh I don't deny what I be,

Well I've found that there can be a bit too cautious, but finding the balance between that and trusting is definitely hard. Being cautious may prevent someone from hurting you, but in my experience being too cautious means that you exchange the pain of someone hurting you for the pain of loneliness. I figure that being able to hug and kiss someone for some time can be worth the pain of breakups rather than having to deal with loneliness.

RE: Hi from johannesburg, South Africa

She's a hustler baby... just want you to know....

I now have that song stuck in my head lol.

RE: How is it possible?

'Tis true. Though some are a little more crafty, but they all usually follow the same patterns.

RE: When do you really trust someone you've met online?

Sounds like he fit the definition of "douchebag" perfectly. Good thing you managed to get out of that one. I've known far too many who didn't have the strength to get out and are still stuck with people like that.

RE: When do you really trust someone you've met online?

Hence why the one leaving should tell the other. It should be known "Oh, I'm going to vanish for a few days, I should tell the person who'd worry themself sick over me what's going on."

RE: Photo Ratings," R " They Accurate ?

I did a thread about this a few months back myself lol. Though mine was along the lines of "Why the hell are people so harsh?"

Came to the conclusion that it doesn't matter. I know I'm a decent looking fellow and most people I know will smack me upside the head should I say otherwise . One the men half, it seems that a lot of women want to keep them from getting a big ego so they rank them low. From the women half, it seems a lot of men will post '10' mostly, I suspect, to get their attention. Neither of these really work for their intentions lol.

And yeah I know I'm no James Bond, but I'd like to think I'm at least a 7, but I tend to get a lot of 6's on average (Women my age tend to give me a lot of 4's and women who are more mature tend to give me 8-10's lol.).

So if you want to feel better, go to Hot or Not and post your pic (They tend to be a lot nicer on that site) or just turn off the rating here lol.

RE: When do you really trust someone you've met online?

Yeah, I guess I'm in those ranks now lol.

I've only been with my girlfriend for a couple of months now (though for me that's a while, lol) and I met her on this site - not on the forums though. We took our time, well sort of. We exchanged a few e-mails over a week or so, then bumped up to IM for another few days, then we went to telephone, and about a week or so later she came to see me and we had dinner (We live a couple hours apart). We've been dating ever since and see each other nearly every weekend. So it was a process of a few weeks before we started dating and it was a couple months before we became "boyfriend and girlfriend".

However, I've dated women online in the past that things were rushed (Like a few days of typing then dating rushed) and those kind of blew up in my face. I had women who I thought were great gals and would have a good relationship with go on a date, shtoink me, and then tell me later they just wanted friends with benefits. Something I'm not remotely into, I like the feelings of mutual trust, passion, and affection when doing that. I've also just been completely burned though those incidents I won't go into detail.

I guess my best advice is that you really can't predict who're the good decent people and who are those who have been lying through their teeth. Then again, that can be with people in person. Just take your time, enjoy it slowly. Think of it like a good dessert, savor the flavor as you eat it instead of just chowing down at lightning speed to finish it. That way even if it causes a bad stomachache later you'll be able to have enjoyed it for it's full flavor first and will probably eat it again soon.

Just my opinion.

RE: What song are you right now?

I may be an old soul but I'm a young body and I'm well-aware that I'm not ready to be a father quite yet

RE: When do you really trust someone you've met online?

Hence my willingness to try moreso now. The pain, it hurts, it's not pleasant. The love? The Trust? Oh man, that's so worth it in the end though.

RE: What song are you right now?

Nope, just had the song pop into my head lol. Is there something you're looking for in that one?

RE: When do you really trust someone you've met online?

For me I will trust to a point until I meet them, though not flawlessly. Let's face it, I'm human and prone to falling for people. I remember one woman on this site managed to get me rather attached to her after only a couple of weeks, which for me is pretty damn near impossible - never happened before and never happened after - before just up and vanishing, reminding me of why I do my best to wait before they prove I can trust them first.

It's hard to wait for someone to prove to me I can trust them, I'd love to just jump in feet first and enjoy it, but there's so many that will take advantage of you, or be scared because of your openness, or any number of things that it's just safer to be cautious. I'm trying to open up more and sooner since the speed I was going before was similar to if someone wanted to take a steel wall down with a shoe. But if it wasn't hard it wouldn't be worth doing though, eh?

RE: Not finding anyone.

It's a combination of patience... and not sounding creepy in your messages lol.

RE: What song are you right now?

To the beat of "In the Hall of the Mountain King":

Do you know the muffin man?
Muffin Man
Muffin Man

Do you know the Muffin Man?
He lives on Drury Lane

Jack and Jill went up a hill, up a hill, up a hill
Jack and Jill went up a hill to have a little fun...
Stupid Jill forgot the pill, forgot the pill, forgot the pill
And now they have a son